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Season 2 Challenges Success Persistence Podcast

In this episode of Life Changing Challengers, I'm honored to have Dan MacQueen, a keynote speaker with an incredible story of resilience and mindset transformation. Dan takes us through his life journey, starting with his childhood in Ottawa, Canada, and how a brain hemorrhage in his 30s completely altered his world. Through grit, determination, and an unshakable mindset, Dan shares the strategies he used to overcome the obstacles in his path and regain his life—twice! This conversation will inspire you to rethink your approach to life's challenges, big or small, and prove that you have the power to change your perspective and push through even the hardest of times.

We dive into mindset hacks, adapting to life's punches, and how Dan turned devastating setbacks into fuel for personal growth. If you're looking for motivation to challenge yourself or change your perspective, this episode is a must-listen!

Timeline Summary:

[1:00] - Dan's early life: Growing up in Ottawa and moving to Vancouver
 [5:30] - The passion for hockey and how sports shaped Dan's mindset
 [13:00] - The first signs of trouble: Dan's headaches and the shocking news from the optometrist
 [16:45] - Facing emergency brain surgery and the unexpected complications that followed
 [20:30] - Learning to walk again: Dan's battle with recovery and how mindset played a role
 [30:00] - The second setback: Hydrocephalus and how Dan overcame it
 [45:00] - The importance of acceptance and how Dan uses this philosophy in his life
 [54:00] - Dan's mantra: "Live better than yesterday" and how you can apply it to your own life

Key Takeaways:

  1. It’s Not What Happens to You, but How You Respond - Dan emphasizes that life’s challenges aren’t about the event itself but how we choose to react.
  2. Incremental Gains Add Up - Whether it's walking after surgery or striving for a goal, small, consistent steps lead to progress.
  3. Accept Your Reality to Move Forward - True growth starts when you accept the terms of your situation and begin to work within them to improve.
  4. Motivation Comes from Dark Places—And That’s Okay - Sometimes, your drive comes from proving others wrong, and that can be powerful fuel.
  5. Failure Is a Teacher - Dan’s journey shows that failure is an essential part of success, and learning from it is crucial to moving forward.

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Chapters

00:00 - Life Changing Challenger

03:49 - Sports and Global Adventures in Europe

11:33 - Life-Changing Medical Emergency

17:06 - Overcoming Medical Crisis and Rebuilding

24:45 - Acceptance and Moving Forward

37:22 - Ride the Motivation Wave

44:01 - Overcoming Setbacks to Ratchet Up

54:54 - Embrace the Grind

01:05:23 - Acknowledging and Thanking a Guest

Transcript
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And welcome back to another episode of Life Changing Challengers.

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As always, I'm your host, brad Minus, and today I am extremely lucky, honored and privileged to have Dan McQueen on the show.

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Hey, dan, how you doing.

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Hey, Brad, I'm very well.

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Thanks for having me on the show.

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I am super honored to have you on here.

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Thank you so much.

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So Dan's a keynote speaker and he delves into changing your mindset into and looking at things in a different way.

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But of course, as the question is always up first, dan, can you tell us a little bit about your childhood, where you grew up, what was the complement of your family and what was it like to be Dan as a kid?

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Sure, so I grew up.

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I was born and raised in Ottawa, ontario, which is great if you avoid the summers and the winters because they're sweltering hot and they're freezing cold.

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I played a lot of road hockey growing up.

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I was a big hockey player.

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Every day after school we played road hockey for hours.

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Lots of fun.

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It was my brother, as we always didn't see eye to eye for a long time there, but my family is my mom, dad, brother and I.

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Everyone's still together now my brother's in San Diego.

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We grew up playing road hockey all the time.

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We moved to Vancouver when I was in grade six, which is quite a difficult move Not difficult, but like an adjustment.

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Right In grade six you're a bit uncertain and unconfident and you move into a new school, all the friends you built up.

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You're going to a high school next year and you lose all that.

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So I was a bit lost there for a bit, but got back into sports and made some really good friends there.

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High school was phenomenal Lots of great friends.

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In fact, I had my 20-year high school reunion last month, which was quite an interesting experience Nice, very cool to see.

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Went to high school in Vancouver, then went to high school in Vancouver and I went to University of Victoria for my university degree, which is awesome.

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Uvic is a great school.

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Victoria is a beautiful city.

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Really enjoyed that, made lots of lifelong friends there, lots of partying, studying.

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Of course, priorities are priorities on that.

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Then after university, I lived at home, worked for BC Adria, a little bit of energy conservation work and then I moved to Sweden for a master's in 2011.

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I moved there because I had a university or a passport from Austria.

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So I found out I've got a European pathway.

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You get free education in Sweden.

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So I thought that's a pretty good opportunity.

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So I picked up, moved to Sweden Malmo Sweden for a master's in leadership for sustainability.

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He lived in Sweden for a year and then after that, moved to London where all this kind of kicked off.

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All right.

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So let's step back just a little bit.

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So you said you had a brother and you grew up pretty close.

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What were the age difference?

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He's two years younger than me, but three grades younger than me.

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Okay, he's an 89, I'm an 86.

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So he's three years younger than me, but three grades younger than me, okay.

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He's an 89, I'm an 86, so he's three years younger than me.

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All right, so were you close?

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It sounds like you were.

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We're close now.

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We were close growing up as brothers.

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Do you fight?

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And we fought like cats and dogs and I was told that I was always justified in my beatings.

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He's a lot bigger than me now, so it's nothing to beat up when he's younger because he's a lot bigger than me now.

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So, yeah, we played sports together, we studied together, we went to parties and he went to UVic as well and went to Sweden as well.

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So we both had that in common and I've grown to have way good friends.

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Now he's on my back all the time, we chat quite often and he's a great dude.

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Cam McQueen, based in San Diego, california.

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Nice Love, san Diego.

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And you said you played sports.

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What sports did you play?

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So I grew up playing ice hockey and when we moved to Vancouver I couldn't get in an ice hockey team.

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So I moved into soccer full time and played soccer football till played high school soccer and then played soccer football until I played high school soccer and then played soccer even in London for a little bit Five a side Not the full pitch because my stamina and my endurance crapped out.

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But I played ball hockey in London as well.

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Loved playing hockey.

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As a Canadian you have to with right-handed passing, yeah right.

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From Florida.

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You must be quite into hockey as well, because Florida just won the cup.

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Right, well, yeah, so I live in tampa, that's the lightning, and we did win the cup a few years ago and then a couple years prior to that, but now it's the florida panthers have just gone crazy over the last few years.

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They're always in the cup, so it's nice to have it out here.

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Of course, I grew up in chicago and I played a little bit of hockey.

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I wasn't the greatest skater in the world, so that kind of changed, but I did play 12 years of soccer.

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So now you said soccer football.

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So do they call it soccer or do they call it football in Canada?

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Call it soccer, but living in London for 10 years, if you call it soccer you get laughed at in any pub or any room or conversation you have, so I call it footy.

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I call it footy now.

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It's a mixture of soccer and football.

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They say football is old, american football is old.

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No, it's like football soccer.

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We just played the Copa Cup so Canada just came fourth.

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They lost to Uruguay but they were up 2-1 with five minutes to play.

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Unfortunately they tied and lost in Trudeau's.

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But very good result for Team Canada, very proud of that.

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Awesome.

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I just had an episode with somebody I don't remember who oh Dan's story, he cause.

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He said that he actually played American football in London when he was in England and I was like really, he goes.

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Yeah, I played a lot of it, like it's getting popular out there.

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And I was like that was so totally shocked Cause I asked him the same thing.

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I was like is it soccer, is it football?

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And he was the same thing.

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You can call it soccer, but most people still call it football.

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Then it's football and American football.

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If you call it soccer in a pub, you get laughed out of the pub.

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Man, you learn pretty quick.

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You do that a couple times.

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I call it footy now Safe face, I remember meeting a girl at a party in London who was the head of the NFL in London.

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She's already a team in London for sure.

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I'm like there's no way you're going to get a team in London.

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The travel is excruciating.

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But she was convinced and as far as I'm aware the it's in the other conference.

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So they only play Tampa Bay every four years and then every four years they flop, they switch right, so one there'll be.

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So this next time that they play they're going to be in Chicago.

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The last time they were in Tampa, but the last time when they played they were supposed to be in Tampa for home and they ended up playing in London.

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Chicago is.

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Last time when they played, they were supposed to be in Tampa for home and they ended up playing in London, Chicago and Tampa Bay.

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I've heard the teams to endure for that.

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That's a lot of ask, but nobody did that.

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Yeah, yeah.

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So I guess now they're literally talking about putting NFL games Obviously they'll still do the London game and they're talking about some other places as well and putting it around the globe, trying to get more, more patronship for, for the NFL, which that's.

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I think it's great.

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The amount of money that football players make in Europe is crazy.

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It's nuts, but you just fill every stadium every time and there's a lot more games.

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It's amazing.

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It's.

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It's a passion thing and I watched the euro final england versus spain.

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Sad to see spain win but what very well deserved.

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They played a very good game.

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But footy in in london and in europe is massive.

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World cup is insane.

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That's a whole nother level of sports.

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I really appreciated when I was there because I used to play soccer, football, footy going up right, but I didn't miss my hockey because there was not much hockey content over there.

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So I got back to vancouver now watched a good Stanley Cup run by the Canucks.

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They did very well this year, very well overperformed compared to how they're expected to do.

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So I'm very proud when the course here this year.

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Awesome, awesome.

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So you played in college, or did you actually play on an organized league for the University of Victoria?

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No, I played intramurals, which was a run over Sunday game, but we won a few championships as a singles team, which is very unique because usually there's a whole bunch of mixed mash people they put together.

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We won three, four championship teams, which is insane for intramurals because you're playing after a good Saturday night, so you're playing pretty three sheets to the wind on a Sunday Right.

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But I really enjoyed playing and I really had a passion for the sport.

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I played center mid so I was quite enjoyed that element of the game.

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And now when I watch footy I watch as a center midfielder and just see how they react and move.

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And if I would do the same thing and suffice to say I don't always do the same thing and I'm not there first of all, so it's okay yeah, I was.

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I was a center midfield for a while and I was, and I played on the wing left wing for a while and I enjoyed it, but I I wasn't great or anything like that and I got to play.

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I got my introduction to rugby on the rugby club in university, so that was fun and I played the wing there too, because I'm small, but anyway.

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So you said you went to work before you ended up going to Sweden.

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I worked in Hydro for a little bit.

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I worked in BC Hydro, the utility company in Vancouver, working on the energy smart team.

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So like conservation and saving energy and doing events, which is really fun.

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But you work Saturday and Sunday so it was very much an abrasive adjustment as a young 20-year-old who was quite into the bar scene, going to work on a Saturday morning at some local event and you're just like, oh, my goodness, what am I doing with my life right now?

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You're a bit ropey from the night before and you're making it work.

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And it was a great job.

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Taught me how to be professional and make things work and make it happen.

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I really enjoyed the job.

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Calling for higher education and more adventure came over me.

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I decided to move to Sweden, so I gave up that job.

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So you mentioned that you also had an Austria passport.

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How did that come to pass?

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Yeah, my opa is from Austria, so we moved to Canada after the Second World War, met my grandmother on the boat and they had my mom shortly thereafter, so that was how my family started.

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They grew up in St Catharines, ontario.

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Okay, oh, so you're just able to pass that down.

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Started.

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They grew up in St Catharines, ontario.

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Okay, oh, so you're just able to pass that down.

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I don't know anything about that.

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So I got my mom to get her passport, because I knew that this could happen.

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But she had to get her passport first and then she got mine and she said well, you're just going to move away when you get your passport.

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I'm like mom, I won't move away.

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So I got my passport, I was applying to school in Sweden and I was gone with the next month.

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Nice, because it's free in Sweden.

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right, that's a great deal, because master's degree in Vancouver we're going to be a 20 grand, or I'd live in Sweden for a year and spend probably more than 20 grand on living.

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But like what an experience Sweden was, it was awesome.

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Yeah, I can't even imagine, can't even imagine.

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So you got your degree in Sweden and then you decided, and then you said you moved to England.

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What precipitated that move?

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Well, I tried to get jobs in Copenhagen or across the bridge, and language was an issue.

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I can't speak Swedish or Danish, and that is not always an issue, but for the jobs I was applying for it proved to be a pretty big sticking point.

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And where can I go in Europe?

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That's going to keep this party going.

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London is a pretty easy space.

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I speak the language.

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Moved to London, crashed on the floor for a few months in my friend's place, heidi Klassen Showed.

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Heidi Klassen Literally stayed on a mattress on her floor for three months, four months, and then went out with a buddy for drinks who worked at a tech company called Hootsuite oh yeah which is a tech company, saas company, based in Vancouver.

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They got an office in London so I applied for a job there as a customer support representative.

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Got a job there and off to the races.

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Yeah, I used Hootsuite for a while.

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It was an amazing program.

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I imagine it's probably still around, but it's got a lot more competition than it did back then.

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I imagine it's probably still around, but it's just got a lot more competition than it did back then.

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That was literally the only SaaS program that you could literally get your feeds from all your social media at the time.

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It's an OG social platform.

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Yeah, I worked in customer support and then moved into professional services, so that was more training and enabling and set up the account, which was great.

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I loved it because it was very much like you call my own shots, run training sessions, set up their accounts You're like the rock stars of the Hootsuite company.

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So I'd run sessions in front of the whole room and it's an open client officer and I'd run it from my desk so they'd all hear me.

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At the start I was a pretty crap trainer, to be honest, but I wrapped up and improved and learned from my failures and learn from my failures and eventually I was pretty good and pretty confident speaking in public, which pair, yeah, well, obviously, and that's, and that's funny.

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And it's funny.

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You just said that because I was just on, I was just on text, uh, a group text with a friend of mine and she has a podcast as well and she's just getting started and it's not really.

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She's got like 65 episodes or something like that and she's, she's, she's, she's frustrated and I was like we're just getting started, you can't let that happen to you right now.

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And she's runs a mindset podcast, which makes it worse.

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But I kept, but just like you were saying is saying hey wasn't, you were what you said, you were pretty crap.

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I'm still learning myself, but this is going to be episode 43.

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I'm I'm still learning myself, but this is going to be episode 43.

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I'm still learning myself and it just keep going at it and you're going to find your rhythm, and obviously you did, which is great, which is fantastic.

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Now here's where we get to the crux of it, right?

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So I haven't, I have not given any hint about this.

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So, and unless they, unless anybody has gone ahead and already researched, dan, here we go.

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So talk to me about your starting, of your symptoms before you first went to that first optometrist appointment.

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Yeah, so I started having headaches in London, like bad headaches.

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I was taking painkillers like candy for them.

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Head was pounding.

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Head was pounding.

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I was in Berlin the weekend before this happened and the next day I came back to well.

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The weekend I came back to London and my headaches were horrible, like they were raging headaches, and I went to A&E, which is accident and emergency or ER.

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They thought it was vertigo and they sent me home.

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And the next day the headaches were so bad I was in a tube lumbering towards the Nottenthal Gate tube station.

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Have you been to London?

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I have not.

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Okay, Well, I'm on the district line, which is a slow roll, meaning it's a slow train the trains are better now where there used to be the circus train to the gate, and my headaches were so bad my vision turned to just go spotty and starry, Ouch, and it turned to fate.

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Like it started to go creeping from the sides, it started to go to black.

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It was a race.

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Arrived in the Nugget tube station and the curtain fell, Stepped on the platform of my Nugget and I stood there blind.

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I couldn't see.

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Now I want to ask you, Brad, evil-sided person your whole life, step onto a busy tube station in London and suddenly you're blind.

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What do you do?

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What do you think?

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What do you feel?

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The only thing I could think is to scream for help, is just to ask somebody is just, can you help me?

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I'm blind.

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I probably would be doing that.

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I'm like oh my God, I can't see.

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Can someone help?

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me that's a good response.

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I didn't do anything.

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I stood there and I thought some more.

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The longest three minutes of my life passed and then my vision came back and I carried on that day.

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The next day I found myself back in A&E.

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I told them what had happened.

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There's something wrong here.

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I was blind on a tube station.

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This is not normal.

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What's going on here?

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Let's figure this out.

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If that was where to go, again sent me home, but on the way out they told me I could always get my eyes checked by an optometrist the eye doctor right.

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So next day the headaches came back with a vengeance not blinding, but not far off.

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They were excruciatingly painful.

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Found myself in Mr Patel's chair.

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He was midway through a routine exam.

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When he stops the exam, excuses himself from the room and comes back a few minutes later with a sealed envelope which he hands to me.

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He tells me to go directly to Moorfield Hospital, which I did.

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Well, brad, tell a lie.

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I stopped at home first to grab a Jack Reacher book by Lee Child, phone charger and a bite to eat.

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Then I went over to Moorfield Hospital, handed him that same sealed envelope.

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They ran the same test again, then escalated me up to Charing Cross Hospital.

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We're getting similar.

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I'm thinking this is positive.

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Now it turns out I had a dangerous buildup of pressure in my brain caused from a growth in my femur gland that was preventing the fluid from my brain to drain as it normally would.

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Now it turns out I required an emergency brain surgery tomorrow.

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I require an emergency brain surgery tomorrow.

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Now it turns out, my world would change altogether.

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After a frantic back and forth with folks in Canada, the last text message my mom received reads says I'll see you soon, mom, think I'll have a new haircut next time.

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I see you, love Dan mom's.

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In the air flying to London on June 21st 2014, while I'm on the operating table, something goes horribly wrong and I have a massive bleed in the brain.

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Flying to london, june 21st 2014, on the operating table, something goes horribly wrong and I have a massive bleed in the brain, a brain hemorrhage.

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Then the cyst bursts when the operator, mom, lands and finds I'm in critical condition.

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I was in a coma for four weeks.

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I was unconscious.

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For months after that, things were dicey, touching, touch and go.

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When all was said and done, I was able to walk, talk and smile again.

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Wow, I can't even imagine what you felt like when you regained consciousness the first time.

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Well, I woke up from the hospital bed, my mom, dad and brother around the bed.

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I'm trying to talk, but I can't talk.

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My vocal cords are fried from the tracheotomy they gave me.

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So I'm trying to talk but I can't talk.

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My vocal cords are fried from the tracheotomy they gave me.

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So I'm trying to communicate with them, but I can't.

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They go give me a pen and paper, which I'm sure they're relieved to see, because at least it means I can still function and think and write and do this.

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I write in the pen and paper and I go get.

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I'm my brother and I go.

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You make this happen.

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He's just.

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What do you want me to do, bud?

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You're hooked up to tubes and hoses.

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You can't walk.

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My leg had act feeding the coma.

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I couldn't walk.

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So it went 0 to 16 in 8 hours and I woke up 4 weeks later able to walk, talk or smile, being totally dead.

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You had a brain hemorrhage, you were in a coma.

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You can't walk, you can't talk.

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They didn't tell me I couldn't smile, but it so what do you do?

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I can say so now you've got.

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You're lying in bed, you've got all this stuff.

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They tell you this.

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What is the first thing that goes through your mind?

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well, you get negative off the op-ed, what.

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This is ridiculous, this is unfair, this is bad and like let's quickly look, dude, this is your situation.

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You're in this pit and you got to think about how you're going to adapt this and evolve and adjust.

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So very quickly I made up my mind, like it's not what happens to you but how you respond to the virus, and Epictetus quoted Stowe's philosophy and I quickly worked at getting to the wheelchair in 45 minutes, not 50.

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And then 40, not not 45.

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And then 35, not 40.

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And then 30, not 35, incrementally ratcheting this up and trying to improve my lot.

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But this took minutes, hours, days.

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This was arduous.

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This was grinding this.

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Everything was achy and painful.

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To get in the wheelchair was horrible.

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I was showered in the wheelchair.

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I'd get in the wheelchair and get showered and dry myself in the shower and then get back in the bed.

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It took an hour to do this.

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This is nuts.

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I couldn't talk right the way the nurse got me talking again.

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My parents, first of all.

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They gave a little dossier about myself when I was in the coma.

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Who, dan, is?

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Not this blob on the bed, but like a sportsman, a Canadian.

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You know, a sportsman, a Canadian, a traveler, a master's graduate all these fun things I've done.

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I showed them.

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I had a personality.

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I was a real personality, I was a law and we were just going to be talking.

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I was jumping out of the park.

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This kid's playing footy across the park, soccer across the park, and she goes Dad.

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Those kids across the park, they don't think you're good enough to talk, dad, they don't think you're good enough to talk.

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Then they don't think you're good enough to talk.

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And I found out pretty quickly.

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That's a trigger for me.

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And I found out pretty quickly that I can talk and I yelled to my friends across the park.

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I'll spare you and your listeners, but let's just say I found my voice and I found my motivation.

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Grouping you wrong was huge.

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But everything was this fight, this battle, this grind, this ratcheting up of processes and can-do attitude, in order to walk out of where I splintered my left leg, splintered like a cast to gently tease out your leg muscle.

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That's the baggage of the soul.

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Gently tease out the leg muscle.

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They told me there is nothing bloody gentle about the splint, but the first night I wore the splint through the night.

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No issue, no stress.

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This will be easy.

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I thought this will be easy.

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The second night after 20 minutes, it was painful.

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After 30 minutes, it was dreadful.

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After 40 minutes, it was unbearable.

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I buzzed the nurse with the clicker.

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I got this on top of my leg.

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This is too painful, I tell them.

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But tomorrow we're doing this for an hour.

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I say Big talk at there.

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They wrap my leg, they tie it off of the ankle, give me the clicker.

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Then there's a call button.

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They go for a troll of the wolves and war.

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Now, the wolves and war was a nail shape.

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So short on this side, long on this side.

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Okay, brad, short on this side, long on this side.

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We're living in a hospital room that smells like only a hospital room can smell Sanitized, sterilized, clean.

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We wonder what sort of atrocities have been committed under the guise of this lemony's estimates.

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After 10 minutes, the leg's painful.

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After 20 minutes, the leg's dreadful.

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After 30 minutes, the leg's unbearable.

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I start passing a clicker back and forth, trying to distract myself from the pain.

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Right Now I'm wearing the eyepatch today because I've got double vision, brad, but I didn't have it at the time.

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If I don't have the iPad, john, I see two of you.

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I'm trying to catch a clicker back and forth with the television as a fool's errand, as I learned.

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As the pain ratchets up, my throat is more enthusiastic Until eventually, inevitably, I drop the clicker.

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That lands on the heart of the living floor, three and a half feet down the ground.

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Sugar, I say, brad, I'll be honest, I did not say sugar.

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Yeah, I heard as much much.

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I look over the edge of the bed.

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I see the clicker that I don't know if it's worth it.

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Come back to me.

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If I get that clicker I can stop this pain, I can end this monstrosity.

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Only problem was to fall from that height with my brickmire.

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In fact I figured out a 50-50 chance of a brickmire on quite a flip, not the best odds.

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I change tack.

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I'm trying to undo this, but it's tied off at the ankle, not the hip.

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I can't reach out for it and I'm not that flexible.

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Help, help, I help, lord of the Wolves.

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Lord of the Wolves, who's in our ship, right Short on this side, long on this side, short on this side, long on this side.

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They're at the far end of the world.

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They can't hear me.

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I.

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I said I'm going to flip the coin.

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Grab the clicker, because even if I break my arm, this button's got to come on my leg right now.

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This is the number one priority of my life.

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Lower myself off the edge of the bed and I crash down in the heat.

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Blankets, wires, cables all go.

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The arm holds and I hammer the clicker expecting the nurse to come.

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Bir burst into his room, to come to a rescue.

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Like the bat's been put up, they kind of stroll in.

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Five minutes later, what are you doing?

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The full of?

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First of all, I say it's a lovely British accent over there.

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Where are you from?

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Again, I didn't say that I did the brat.

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I didn't say that I didn't tell you all about this.

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It's not what happens to you, but how you respond to the matters.

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Right?

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The reason why I'm telling this story broad is I learned three lessons from this experience, the first being by most obvious let's not pass the clicker back and forth.

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That's a bad idea.

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The second lesson was let's tie the splint off at the hip, not the ankle.

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That way I can untie the shit that's happening going forwards.

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And the third lesson, and probably most profound let's always be solutions-oriented.

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From this point forward, how can you resolve your issue and know what your issue is, with the help of the Splinter, we'll start walking the halls of the Wilson On the zero frame.

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Then I'm going to go to what I call the Ferrari.

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It's a four-wheeled walker in Ferrari Racing Red, so I call it my Ferrari.

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Then I'm going to go to naked walks.

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Now, with the naked walk, may I ask Brad I'm just walking those four raids, but I called it a naked walk because it got a reaction from people visiting the nurses Right, go for a naked walk.

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Then came time to walk in Toon Broadway.

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So sorry, brad, did you say you've been to London?

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No, unfortunately I wasn't Okay.

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So Toon Broadway is an area in South London, okay, An area they call up and coming Think a lot of sirens, drugs gangs.

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It's dirty, it's hectic and boys are busy.

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Walk with a cane, Walk with an eye patch.

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After four months in a wheelchair, I'm literally Bambi on ice.

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I turn the corner to walk on the ice between rowing Immediately get slammed into by someone.

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I stagger back a few feet.

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Someone scurries past me on the right-hand side, Thought I was done with the rats.

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Someone had been stabbed on the sidewalk over here.

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I think it was pretty wild-placing on a walk.

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After a few days of this I was thinking this is the worst place to know a walk in the world.

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Can't they see I'm trying to walk here?

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Can't they see I'm trying here?

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And one day my perspective shifted.

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Maybe this isn't the worst place to walk and roll, Maybe this is the best.

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If I can walk here, I can walk anywhere.

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You're 200 dollars and 200, right bro.

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Right.

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You're walking to the worst.

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The best in my mind, I'm going to move the fuck to that.

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What are you looking at in your life?

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You're convinced it's the worst, convinced it's the worst.

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Maybe it is.

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Maybe you can find a way to turn down the suck A little bit.

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Shift that perspective a little bit Iron.

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Mike Tyson famously said Everyone's got a plan to get punched in the mouth.

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Your punch may not be a brain hemorrhage, right, it will be a job loss, a breakup, a diagnosis for you or a loved one.

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You will take that punch in the mouth.

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I respond.

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I'm offering a compass, not a mouth, but a compass that always points towards true north breath, living as a mindset, perspective and hacks Hacks that allow you and your team to be better than yesterday, tomorrow.

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My name is Dan McQueen.

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The reason why I told you I was sure about learning to walk and tune Broadway is when you change the way you look at the world.

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The world you look at changes and you don't need a brain to ever start understanding that.

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That's the story of walking and tuning Broadway and the lesson I learned after the fact, but a mindset and a lesson I want to pass on to you listeners.

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Yeah, that is absolutely brilliant.

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My, the only question that kind of popped up for me was and and I'll tell you why I'm asking this but what was your time frame from you woke up in the bed this is obviously we're stepping back a little bit and you went through the negative talk to the point where you finally said okay, let me, I'm, I'm gonna, I'm gonna work myself through this situation and I'm gonna make what was.

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How was that?

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Was it days, was it minutes?

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Was it hours?

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it was weeks, if not months, to get through this point, to be like okay with this yeah I kept grinding, kept fighting, but I was not happy with the situation.

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But I realized quite soon, on dude, it happened excuse me, you can't be woes me about this down the pity spiral but you had to accept it and move forwards.

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And this took a good month, if not more, to deal with this and get my head around this right.

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But I never got negative people visiting the hospital.

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I've said, dan, you're so chipper and positive the whole thing, because I knew that me putting that on you is not going to be a good reflection of what I'm trying to do and I'm going to make you probably not want to visit me in the hospital.

00:27:15.143 --> 00:27:18.336
Dan's, all woe is me and all you are about this.

00:27:18.336 --> 00:27:19.057
It's not cool.

00:27:19.057 --> 00:27:25.797
It's a mindset from the start, from the jump, but it's not easy to adapt this mindset, brad right.

00:27:27.299 --> 00:27:33.019
So the reason why I said that was now, this is a like way down compared to what you went through.

00:27:33.019 --> 00:27:35.112
But so I'm an endurance coach.

00:27:35.112 --> 00:27:44.739
I help people make it to their first marathons and Ironman, triathlons and ultra marathons and stuff like that, and I always say the same thing.

00:27:44.739 --> 00:27:57.281
Once they've either had a great race or they've had a horrible race, or they've had a horrible training run or something like that, and they're like, oh, and they get down on themselves and I'm like, okay, listen, you have 20 minutes.

00:27:57.281 --> 00:27:59.634
And it says start your timer.

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And if you, if they had a bad session, I had a bad race.

00:28:03.286 --> 00:28:11.923
I'm like you got 20 minutes, get it out, cry, yell, get mad at yourself, but the minute that timer goes off, you need him now.

00:28:11.923 --> 00:28:13.224
Now it's time to step forward.

00:28:13.224 --> 00:28:15.257
And it's the same thing with the high.

00:28:15.257 --> 00:28:23.340
It's the other way too right, because most of my clients are habitual racers, so there's always another, there's another challenge on the horizon.

00:28:23.340 --> 00:28:32.481
So 20 minutes you get to celebrate, call a yell and scream for joy and just and be great with yourself.

00:28:32.481 --> 00:28:36.952
But that 20 minutes ends, just settle in, because we have another.

00:28:36.952 --> 00:28:41.222
We got something else to accomplish, and uh, I've been finding that word.

00:28:41.222 --> 00:28:41.893
That really works.

00:28:41.893 --> 00:28:42.316
I know it helped.

00:28:42.316 --> 00:28:52.012
It works for me, you know, it's just that I have that time limit right there, so it sounded like you had a certain time and you're like, okay, all right, done with the woe is me and now I?

00:28:52.012 --> 00:28:54.577
I got to do something about it and I respect that.

00:28:55.479 --> 00:29:01.833
I think acceptance is probably the most important thing I talk about in life and that's accepting what happened.

00:29:01.833 --> 00:29:07.182
Because if you don't accept that, you can't move forward, you can't improve your law, you can't agree to the new terms.

00:29:07.182 --> 00:29:12.942
Unless you agree to the new terms, you can't improve those terms.

00:29:12.942 --> 00:29:13.626
This is the new parameters.

00:29:13.626 --> 00:29:13.847
We're here.

00:29:13.847 --> 00:29:17.719
Brain, average, coma can't walk, talk or smile Go.

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You're going to agree to that terms and you're going to improve those terms once you agree to it.

00:29:21.750 --> 00:29:25.951
If you don't agree to it, you can whinge about it for a month, six months, end of those six months.

00:29:25.951 --> 00:29:28.733
You realize I could have been making steps forward in this whole time.

00:29:28.733 --> 00:29:33.601
You have to accept it to move forward and it's not easy to hear people because they're like you don't know my story.

00:29:33.601 --> 00:29:35.502
I'm like, yeah, you're right, I know your story, but guess what?

00:29:35.502 --> 00:29:40.856
I know this to be true and I believe this with my whole heart.

00:29:40.856 --> 00:29:42.180
You have to accept it and then take steps to improve it.

00:29:42.154 --> 00:29:42.596
Now I had a lot of help.

00:29:42.596 --> 00:29:45.816
Brad, my mom and dad came over from Vancouver to London.

00:29:45.816 --> 00:29:50.701
Friends came to visit on and supporting me.

00:29:50.701 --> 00:29:59.476
The world was super accommodating, cheering me on and succeeding me, but like it was arduous, difficult, grindy, like the nights in the hospital.

00:29:59.476 --> 00:30:04.638
I talked about this in a podcast recently and I haven't shared this story before, so I'll share it with you now, brad.

00:30:04.638 --> 00:30:08.356
But like, the hospital in the day and the hospital at night are two different things, right.

00:30:08.356 --> 00:30:18.037
Hospital in the day, the doctors are there, the families are, the people are visiting you, friends shooting you.

00:30:18.037 --> 00:30:18.759
On the nighttime they'll go away.

00:30:18.759 --> 00:30:21.166
The doctors go away, the friends go away, the family goes away and you're left in this, in the intensive care unit.

00:30:21.186 --> 00:30:35.609
The whales are people that have lost their way, their life, their ability to function and live and be a person, and the whales haunt you and it's dark and it's scary, but no one can help you go through that.

00:30:35.609 --> 00:30:37.198
You have to go through that part on your own.

00:30:37.198 --> 00:30:39.470
You can't tell them hey, it's pretty scary at nighttime.

00:30:39.470 --> 00:30:41.315
They can't stay overnight till they make you better.

00:30:42.076 --> 00:30:46.739
Not to mention, I'm like a 20 year old guy at this age, like you gotta sack up and deal with this, but like it's.

00:30:46.739 --> 00:31:02.473
It's challenging, man, but like it is something that's super dark and I've never really mentioned before because I don't really like to talk about the dark stuff too much, but it's important to know that you're going to go through this and you have to go through it to make it work, because no one's coming to drag you through those nights.

00:31:02.473 --> 00:31:05.972
You got to get the rest and the sleep and eventually you get strategies to deal with this.

00:31:05.972 --> 00:31:09.492
Like I have headphones and watch movies and just drown out the noise the whales man.

00:31:09.492 --> 00:31:14.766
They still haunt you today, like the screams and the cries and and desperation and despair.

00:31:14.866 --> 00:31:21.161
People's voices are just haunting were any of those whales like in the beginning?

00:31:21.161 --> 00:31:22.282
Were any of those whales yours?

00:31:23.271 --> 00:31:34.101
no, okay, good, so you got your wits about you pretty fast well, I realized quickly, like this this has happened and you can't undo what's happened.

00:31:34.101 --> 00:31:34.903
It's happened.

00:31:34.903 --> 00:31:39.718
So I wasn't happy that it happened and I'm very clear that I've got to take steps to improve this.

00:31:39.718 --> 00:31:42.960
But, like, running the boat is not going to make any difference to this right now.

00:31:42.960 --> 00:31:44.717
You've got to accept this and move forwards.

00:31:44.717 --> 00:31:47.953
Let's say that I was totally like chipper and I beat off the hopper.

00:31:47.993 --> 00:31:55.224
I put on a face and a brave face for friends and family to like we're navigating this, we're building myself back up, and it was difficult.

00:31:55.224 --> 00:31:59.638
My friend Claire came to visit me for a few days and then went off to Scotland.

00:31:59.638 --> 00:32:01.482
I was in a wheelchair when she left London.

00:32:01.482 --> 00:32:04.253
When she came back then I was in the Zimmerman for her.

00:32:04.253 --> 00:32:04.935
I was walking.

00:32:04.935 --> 00:32:06.560
Damn, you're doing so well.

00:32:06.560 --> 00:32:15.167
I want to show that I'm worthy of the praise you're giving me, the accolades you're playing on.

00:32:15.167 --> 00:32:15.782
I have gotta earn this.

00:32:15.782 --> 00:32:17.837
So maybe fake it with you and show that I'm trying like I knew myself I wasn't trying hard enough.

00:32:17.837 --> 00:32:23.872
You gotta grind, you gotta fight, you gotta find that that's fucking you, and I wanted to show that I was worthy of the praise I was getting.

00:32:23.872 --> 00:32:31.409
So work my tail off and it could happen so that was obviously you.

00:32:31.608 --> 00:32:33.691
You already had the.

00:32:33.691 --> 00:32:37.834
You already had the stimuli that you just wanted to get better because you wanted to walk.

00:32:37.834 --> 00:32:40.935
That's just an internal thing, I'm going to survive, I'm going to walk, we do that stuff.

00:32:40.935 --> 00:32:54.205
But you also had you gave yourself an external stimuli of your friends giving you praise on how good you're doing and you stating that, no, well, I want to be worthy of that, so I'm going to work that much harder.

00:32:55.026 --> 00:33:00.759
And I think and while a lot of people would say, well, that doesn't matter, the praise that you got from your family, it doesn't matter.

00:33:00.759 --> 00:33:08.260
And I don't know why you thought about that Cause a lot of people will say that all the gurus will be like well, you should be just, it should be all about you, because it is about you.

00:33:08.260 --> 00:33:16.595
But I love that you said that, because I don't think there's anything wrong with it.

00:33:16.595 --> 00:33:32.912
Whatever gives you the motivation, the desire, the stimuli to make yourself better, whether it's the praise from somebody else that you want to be worthy of, or whether it's if someone's going through an injury and they can't hold their own child and they're going to get better to hold their child or to play with their child, to run with their child.

00:33:33.372 --> 00:33:40.375
I deal with a lot of people that might be a little overweight and they feel like, oh, I don't have the energy to run after my kids.

00:33:40.375 --> 00:33:43.678
Well, this is your stimuli you want to run after them.

00:33:43.678 --> 00:33:45.058
Then you got to do this.

00:33:45.058 --> 00:33:46.400
You want to play with them.

00:33:46.400 --> 00:33:48.141
You want to be just as energetic.

00:33:48.141 --> 00:33:49.241
You can't eat that.

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We need to find a replacement for that.

00:33:51.923 --> 00:33:59.948
So I love the fact that you use the external and that you weren't into yourself, no matter.

00:34:00.730 --> 00:34:04.798
I mentioned in my talks, motivation initially came from that dark place of proving you wrong.

00:34:04.798 --> 00:34:07.660
Right yeah, and that's very I really agree with you.

00:34:07.660 --> 00:34:09.989
It should be inside yourself and just adding value.

00:34:09.989 --> 00:34:16.567
But that dark place of motivation is just, it burns hot, man, it burns ferociously hot.

00:34:16.567 --> 00:34:19.503
I watched the last dance, Michael Jordan documentary.

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Have you seen that?

00:34:20.545 --> 00:34:21.789
Yes, yes, I'm from.

00:34:21.829 --> 00:34:22.269
Chicago?

00:34:22.269 --> 00:34:23.753
Of course not.

00:34:23.753 --> 00:34:28.190
So I watched that and the thing I noticed most, apparently, was how he motivated himself.

00:34:28.190 --> 00:34:30.092
Some guy will trip him and say isn't it really cool?

00:34:30.092 --> 00:34:30.934
I got you next game.

00:34:30.934 --> 00:34:33.617
I'm going to torture you and embarrass you in front of all your friends and family.

00:34:33.617 --> 00:34:36.242
And I got that inside me in spades.

00:34:36.242 --> 00:34:40.851
Now I'm not comparing myself to Michael Jordan, right, that's ridiculous.

00:34:40.851 --> 00:34:45.527
But the more I watch that documentary, the more I was like this is like, involved in him now.

00:34:45.527 --> 00:34:52.219
But I saw how bitter and jaded he was and like how he is now.

00:34:52.219 --> 00:34:56.360
He's still competitive and still fiery, but not comparing myself to the majority, but I did not compare myself to the majority.

00:34:57.809 --> 00:34:59.016
I've got that inside me in spades.

00:34:59.016 --> 00:35:03.411
But I've noticed how bitter he was and I wanted to transition that to more of a service motivation.

00:35:03.411 --> 00:35:05.239
So now I'm motivated by service.

00:35:05.239 --> 00:35:07.047
Your success is my success.

00:35:07.047 --> 00:35:08.204
My success is your success.

00:35:08.204 --> 00:35:11.996
When it comes to an autistic, I'm not going to be a bitter, old, jaded man.

00:35:11.996 --> 00:35:16.911
I'm going to be like I want to cheer you on, I want to be in your corner, I want to be supporting you.

00:35:16.911 --> 00:35:18.882
But to say that it's gone away would be a lie.

00:35:18.882 --> 00:35:22.762
It's just, I'm trying to transition most of my motivation out of that service piece and not the proving your wrong piece.

00:35:24.304 --> 00:35:25.166
And I totally get that.

00:35:25.166 --> 00:35:45.751
I've gotten to the point where, after 13 years, that I at first, when I started coaching triathletes and stuff and I was more embedded in the community and I was racing myself still racing, not doing as much, but when I was racing a lot, I would find myself well, if you're the coach, you need to be better than your own client, right?

00:35:45.751 --> 00:35:46.985
So you need to beat them.

00:35:46.985 --> 00:35:48.780
And I'm like, no, you don't.

00:35:48.780 --> 00:35:52.023
If you're coaching them well enough, you should be training them to beat you.

00:35:52.023 --> 00:36:00.068
So now, as much as I love competing, I would rather be there.

00:36:00.088 --> 00:36:14.862
Their goals is the most fulfilling thing that I could possibly imagine.

00:36:14.862 --> 00:36:27.342
There is nothing better Like when I first started doing Ironman triathlons, I couldn't wait for Mike Daniels to come on and say, hey, brad, you are, and then the whole place would go Ironman.

00:36:27.342 --> 00:36:33.048
And now I just want to be there and I want my clients and I want to sit there and say I want to.

00:36:33.048 --> 00:36:54.704
I want to say, stephen Bossert, you are, and I want to be there for that and watch that, and I get such a thrill out of it because it's it's that service and it just becomes it's I can move that competitive spirit I had as a competitor and move that into my clients, and I think that's where you're going with that.

00:36:55.507 --> 00:36:57.144
Exactly, and I'm very clear with this.

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You can't force the motivation from coming from one angle or another.

00:37:00.329 --> 00:37:01.485
You got to ride the wave that comes.

00:37:01.485 --> 00:37:04.768
Don't try to shoehorn it into this motivation coming from this place.

00:37:04.768 --> 00:37:09.007
If it comes this way, ride the wave, baby, because those waves are few and far between.

00:37:09.007 --> 00:37:18.407
If you wait for the wave that you want to come, it may be too late to improve on your lot if you do that.

00:37:18.407 --> 00:37:19.552
So don't try to make it this happy, holistic place.

00:37:19.572 --> 00:37:20.916
it gets dark and dirty man, but ride it dark and dirty.

00:37:20.916 --> 00:37:22.443
I get that and I say the same thing.

00:37:22.443 --> 00:37:42.804
I'm like you know what, when you go out and I and obviously I've done it myself you go out for a certain training session, or even at work, sometimes you're in the middle of a project or something and it doesn't go your way and you're just, you don't have it that day, or at least when you're out there, or the ideas, the tools aren't fitting the way you want them to.

00:37:42.804 --> 00:37:52.820
If you're at work and I was like you know what, you need to train the athlete that showed up, you need to work with the coder or the manager that showed up that day.

00:37:52.820 --> 00:38:01.849
And yet, and if you keep doing that, those waves that you're talking about, the waves of motivation because motivation comes and goes they will show up more and more.

00:38:01.849 --> 00:38:14.688
As long as you keep that mentality of okay, you know what, there's good days and there's bad days you just need to train or you need to be the person that showed up that day, because that motivation will come back.

00:38:14.688 --> 00:38:18.045
And the more you do it, the motivation shows up more in spades.

00:38:18.706 --> 00:38:22.885
And my other thing that I always talk about is that there's a difference between motivation and desire.

00:38:22.885 --> 00:38:25.411
Desire is a straight line.

00:38:25.411 --> 00:38:26.882
You have a desire to finish this.

00:38:26.882 --> 00:38:28.847
You have a straight line throw away.

00:38:28.847 --> 00:38:30.532
You've got a plan and you're going for it.

00:38:30.532 --> 00:38:37.333
Desire doesn't cause you to get excited about something Motivation does.

00:38:37.333 --> 00:38:41.003
But motivation is come and go If you've got desire to do it.

00:38:41.003 --> 00:38:46.385
Whether you're motivated to do it or not, you're going to do it Because the desire is there.

00:38:46.385 --> 00:38:51.230
Yeah, will it be the greatest workout or the greatest thing you've ever done?

00:38:51.230 --> 00:38:53.945
Probably not, but the next day it might be.

00:38:53.945 --> 00:38:55.590
So.

00:38:56.380 --> 00:38:59.610
I talk about like this how you do stuff, how do you complete stuff.

00:38:59.610 --> 00:39:04.150
It's like you prove yourself by printing a stack of unannounced proof that says you say who you say you are.

00:39:04.150 --> 00:39:09.851
You say who you are, who you say you are, that's not mine, that's Alex Ramosi's.

00:39:09.851 --> 00:39:11.315
But you say who you are, who you say you are.

00:39:11.315 --> 00:39:11.742
That's not mine, that's Alex Ramosi's.

00:39:11.742 --> 00:39:13.581
But build that stack of evidence that says you do what you say you need to do.

00:39:13.581 --> 00:39:14.625
Keep promises to yourself.

00:39:14.625 --> 00:39:19.244
So, for instance, I'm in here every day for 20 minutes, so I have about two minutes in the morning.

00:39:19.244 --> 00:39:24.289
Next week I did four, week after I did six, then eight, then 10.

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Then 12.

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, then 14.

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Then 16.

00:39:26.490 --> 00:39:28.873
Then 18 and 14 and 16 and 18 and 22 and 24.

00:39:28.873 --> 00:39:31.436
But I ratchet this up and I know that I do what I say I'm going to do.

00:39:31.456 --> 00:39:32.217
I go swimming, for instance.

00:39:32.217 --> 00:39:34.501
I'm going to go today.

00:39:34.501 --> 00:39:35.342
After this podcast, I go in the pool.

00:39:35.342 --> 00:39:37.025
I set an intent to get the amount of lengths I want to do.

00:39:37.025 --> 00:39:38.969
I owe those lengths.

00:39:38.969 --> 00:39:47.184
I don't get out of the pool until I'm done, save one exception, brad If there's a backstroker in my lane, I damn fast.

00:39:47.184 --> 00:39:50.451
You won't even believe it, but I owe those lengths.

00:39:50.451 --> 00:39:52.635
I owe them.

00:39:52.635 --> 00:39:54.907
I keep promising myself.

00:39:54.927 --> 00:39:56.403
So I knew that I can do hard stuff.

00:39:56.403 --> 00:39:58.726
I cold shower every day for two minutes.

00:39:58.726 --> 00:40:01.570
In the summer in Vancouver not a big deal.

00:40:01.570 --> 00:40:03.266
In the winter in Vancouver a bit more abrasive.

00:40:03.266 --> 00:40:06.626
But I never liked it.

00:40:06.626 --> 00:40:08.206
But now I crave it.

00:40:08.206 --> 00:40:09.260
I crave that hard stuff.

00:40:09.260 --> 00:40:18.190
You gotta do hard stuff that shows that you can do what you say you're going to do and you ratchet it up, man, before you ratchet it up to a point where it's super torn up here where you started it down here.

00:40:18.190 --> 00:40:24.030
But only by proving to yourself that you do what you say you're going to do can you do this by building that stack of undeniable proof.

00:40:24.030 --> 00:40:28.653
So I implore you listeners to just start small and grow and ratchet and ratchet.

00:40:28.653 --> 00:40:29.715
You're at a new level.

00:40:29.715 --> 00:40:35.840
You're at levels and standards of wisdom and that's one way they can improve and ratchet this up for themselves.

00:40:36.320 --> 00:40:41.387
And that, literally what you just said, is what this podcast is all about.

00:40:41.387 --> 00:40:43.106
This is why I started it.

00:40:43.106 --> 00:40:57.889
It's the idea that people have done hard stuff and have challenged themselves above and beyond what they ever thought was possible and came out the other side and changed their lives because of it.

00:40:57.889 --> 00:41:06.748
So I constantly I bring this up all the time but I had a friend who helped me get into coaching and she was.

00:41:06.748 --> 00:41:18.769
She was 250 pounds on a five, four on a five, one frame and she tried her the fad diets and stuff and she had a lot of stuff going on in her life and the whole bit.

00:41:18.769 --> 00:41:25.706
And then she ran a 5k and she was like, okay, I finally finished a 5k, but she's like I need to do something more.

00:41:25.706 --> 00:41:28.572
But there's the way to do this.

00:41:28.572 --> 00:41:39.929
That everything was saying from her the web, all the experts Okay, you have this kind of a diet that you've got to do, you've got to be in the gym for this long, you've got to make sure that you're doing this many calories, blah, blah, blah.

00:41:39.929 --> 00:41:41.826
And she's like I don't want to do that.

00:41:41.826 --> 00:41:42.929
I don't know how to move forward.

00:41:42.960 --> 00:41:55.150
And one day she's sitting in her living room and she's flipping through the channels and room and she's flipping through the channels and she just happened to come upon iron man world championships in kona that year.

00:41:55.150 --> 00:41:57.838
She's watching and she's wow, like that's pretty amazing.

00:41:57.838 --> 00:42:01.387
And she started doing some research and she realized and this is here in florida.

00:42:01.387 --> 00:42:10.648
She's, there is a florida iron man which is basically that's a, a contender to get you to kona, because kona is the world championships and that's the only thing you're going to see on TV.

00:42:10.648 --> 00:42:14.210
You're never going to see just one of our regular races.

00:42:14.210 --> 00:42:18.190
But she goes wow, I really like to do that.

00:42:18.260 --> 00:42:24.594
So that's a 2.4 mile swim, 112 mile bike and a 26.2 mile run consecutively.

00:42:24.594 --> 00:42:28.164
And she says, well, wait a second, that might be it.

00:42:28.164 --> 00:42:42.710
So what she decided to do was she's going to sign up and she's going to do this Ironman and on the way, and she says I'm just going to finish it, I'm going to do that On the way because of the training and she had to learn how to fuel.

00:42:42.710 --> 00:42:43.512
She had to learn how to do this.

00:42:43.512 --> 00:42:52.534
She lost the weight on the way to the point where she stood on that beach on race day in a size, small, wet suit and 120 pounds.

00:42:52.534 --> 00:42:58.186
But it wasn't the normal way to go about it.

00:42:58.186 --> 00:43:11.552
She had to do something hard, she had to step out of way, out of her comfort zone and do the hard stuff, and because of it she was rewarded with a better body, better fitness, better mindset, and she did three more after that.

00:43:12.740 --> 00:43:18.485
It's a wonderful story and I think, brad, the key lesson here for me is it's not easy, but it's simple, like it's simple to decide I'm going to do an Ironman.

00:43:18.485 --> 00:43:21.221
It's not easy, but I want to do an Ironman.

00:43:21.221 --> 00:43:22.141
That's very simple to decide.

00:43:22.141 --> 00:43:23.922
I'm doing this In life.

00:43:23.922 --> 00:43:26.786
The hard things in life are easy to decide.

00:43:26.786 --> 00:43:31.510
Difficult decks to hit on yes, just make it that way and just ratchet it up.

00:43:31.510 --> 00:43:34.612
Man, I'm saying just aim small and then build New level.

00:43:34.612 --> 00:43:36.753
Level up, aim small and build.

00:43:36.833 --> 00:43:43.704
I used to have to use a bath mat in London to shower like a shower mat to keep my balance.

00:43:43.704 --> 00:43:45.708
I hated this plaything because I'd put it up on the wall to dry.

00:43:45.708 --> 00:43:55.490
Every day I reminded myself I'm not good enough to stand in the bath on the shower of my own because I need a bath mat, and it drove me nuts.

00:43:55.490 --> 00:43:55.987
My sister said you know what the hell with this bath mat?

00:43:55.987 --> 00:43:56.125
I'm not using it.

00:43:56.125 --> 00:43:56.740
I told my parents I'm not using the bath mat anymore.

00:43:56.740 --> 00:43:57.141
It's ridiculous.

00:43:57.141 --> 00:43:57.681
It just puts me down.

00:43:57.681 --> 00:43:59.690
I don't feel good enough to be in the shower.

00:43:59.690 --> 00:44:01.097
Oh damn, you can't do that.

00:44:01.097 --> 00:44:01.840
It's gonna be too risky.

00:44:01.840 --> 00:44:03.322
It's too slippery in there like I'll be fine.

00:44:03.322 --> 00:44:04.585
Guess what.

00:44:04.585 --> 00:44:07.027
I did it and I was fine and I ditched the bath.

00:44:07.048 --> 00:44:08.630
I used to walk with a cane.

00:44:08.630 --> 00:44:14.001
The other day in London I went to Vancouver one summer, forgot the cane.

00:44:14.001 --> 00:44:18.824
Guess what, I was fine with the cane Ditched the cane Used to wear contact lens.

00:44:18.824 --> 00:44:22.121
When I went to South Africa Decided that dust and dirt would get in my eye.

00:44:22.121 --> 00:44:25.121
It blocks the vision of my eye and I ditched the contact lens.

00:44:25.121 --> 00:44:26.043
So I didn't bring it to South Africa.

00:44:26.043 --> 00:44:27.105
So I ditched the contact lens.

00:44:27.105 --> 00:44:32.114
But by ratcheting up risk and failure I was able to get and stretch myself to where I have my new level, my new norm.

00:44:32.114 --> 00:44:39.907
Only by risking and failing do you do risk, failing can you improve and you got to fail at times.

00:44:39.907 --> 00:44:41.226
I fail a lot in life.

00:44:41.226 --> 00:44:42.987
I fall down seven, get up eight, kind of vibe.

00:44:42.987 --> 00:44:47.505
But only by risking and failing can you improve and take a step forward.

00:44:48.460 --> 00:44:48.840
That makes sense.

00:44:48.860 --> 00:44:55.230
There is no success without failure exactly so, yeah, no, I get it, I get it.

00:44:55.230 --> 00:45:07.509
And yeah, success is the ratchet, is the progressive way of getting better and better, and some people's success is some people's success is other people's failures and some people's successes are other people's.

00:45:07.509 --> 00:45:10.885
Wet now, I don't say wet dream, I'm sorry about that, but their their're.

00:45:10.885 --> 00:45:11.809
They're fantasy.

00:45:11.809 --> 00:45:13.125
They're a big giant fantasy.

00:45:13.125 --> 00:45:13.626
You know what I mean.

00:45:13.626 --> 00:45:15.266
You mentioned Michael Jordan.

00:45:15.266 --> 00:45:31.280
So I watched the three P, I was there for it and to think of me being able to win a, an NBA world title, just to get in the NBA, and I'm only five, I'm only five, eight, so I was never get it anyway.

00:45:31.280 --> 00:45:32.443
So that's like a huge giant fantasy, right.

00:45:32.443 --> 00:45:35.228
But michael jordan, that's success.

00:45:35.228 --> 00:45:45.692
So we have to understand that there are those levels and it's not necessarily a, not necessarily a learning or a skill.

00:45:46.873 --> 00:45:51.173
It's who you are right you gotta embody and you gotta own it.

00:45:51.173 --> 00:45:53.724
Every day I have this like mantra better than yesterday.

00:45:53.724 --> 00:45:54.367
That's what I call it.

00:45:54.367 --> 00:45:57.139
Every day, everything is better than yesterday.

00:45:57.139 --> 00:46:03.961
I'm trying to ratchet this up, but only by failing do I realize where those better points come from right.

00:46:03.961 --> 00:46:09.581
So, on this podcast a while ago, about gaming like video gaming, I'm not a gamer, to be honest, brats.

00:46:09.581 --> 00:46:12.047
Like I've been nervous with podcasts like well, like well, the guy asked me, the host asked me, said while ago, about gaming like video gaming.

00:46:12.047 --> 00:46:12.586
I'm not a gamer, to be honest, brad.

00:46:12.586 --> 00:46:13.179
So I was a bit nervous about the podcast.

00:46:13.179 --> 00:46:15.601
I'm like, well, the guy asked me, the host asked me what's the last video game you really played?

00:46:15.601 --> 00:46:16.867
I'm like well, mario Kart 64.

00:46:16.867 --> 00:46:18.664
Talk about that.

00:46:18.664 --> 00:46:19.347
Relate to that.

00:46:19.347 --> 00:46:22.250
I'm like cool, like life was like Mario Kart 64.

00:46:23.360 --> 00:46:25.288
Run the first lap, hit the obstacle and turn two.

00:46:25.288 --> 00:46:31.820
Cool.

00:46:31.820 --> 00:46:32.463
Second, cool, second episode.

00:46:32.463 --> 00:46:33.586
Second lap hit the episode obstacle and turn two again.

00:46:33.586 --> 00:46:33.708
Cool.

00:46:33.708 --> 00:46:33.989
Third episode.

00:46:33.989 --> 00:46:36.036
Third lap hit that obstacle again like dude, you know the opposite, drive around it.

00:46:36.036 --> 00:46:37.202
You know this is happening.

00:46:37.202 --> 00:46:38.766
You're going to adapt to the situation.

00:46:38.766 --> 00:46:41.864
You're going to adapt to life's parameters like you know what's there.

00:46:41.864 --> 00:46:44.802
Avoid it if you don't improve, like you're not learning this and, hey, I can't help you.

00:46:44.802 --> 00:46:46.989
The opposite for the third lap, you can't hit that obstacle again.

00:46:46.989 --> 00:46:48.603
Right, life's like this.

00:46:48.603 --> 00:46:49.425
You'll see patterns.

00:46:49.425 --> 00:46:51.331
You'll see things that are going to be failure points.

00:46:51.331 --> 00:46:52.565
Avoid that next time.

00:46:52.565 --> 00:46:55.942
And I fail a lot, but I rarely do I fail at the same thing twice.

00:46:55.942 --> 00:46:59.047
I have, but rarely do I fail at the same thing twice.

00:46:59.047 --> 00:47:04.143
But only by failing do you improve and risk improving your lot, but better than yesterday's one.

00:47:04.143 --> 00:47:05.106
I want to hit across your audience.

00:47:05.106 --> 00:47:06.521
Your grad is.

00:47:06.521 --> 00:47:10.445
Embody that and watch the world conspire to help you get better.

00:47:11.485 --> 00:47:13.748
Exactly, and I say 1% better every day.

00:47:13.748 --> 00:47:15.271
You know what, though?

00:47:15.271 --> 00:47:17.012
You're going to fail at that?

00:47:17.012 --> 00:47:32.684
The goal is 1% better every single day, 1% better every single day, but there's going to be days you miss that 1%, and that's okay, because that's the day you've learned something, and, before you know it, the next day is 2% better.

00:47:32.684 --> 00:47:36.302
You never know, maybe it's 10% better the next time you get out there, right?

00:47:36.322 --> 00:47:41.635
So, exactly so, and I appreciate this is exactly what I.

00:47:41.635 --> 00:47:45.389
What are these nuggets of information that I want to bring to everybody?

00:47:45.389 --> 00:47:46.072
Those?

00:47:46.072 --> 00:48:02.556
If there's one thing that we talked about that somebody can take away and let's use your word ratchet up their lives or start the plan to ratchet up their lives, then we've done the audience and it was ever listening a service.

00:48:02.556 --> 00:48:09.871
So let's step back into the story here a little bit, because that wasn't the end, when you finally were able to walk and talk and get back to your life.

00:48:09.871 --> 00:48:10.273
That wasn't the end.

00:48:10.273 --> 00:48:12.362
When you finally were able to walk and talk and get back to your life.

00:48:12.362 --> 00:48:13.264
That wasn't the end.

00:48:13.264 --> 00:48:15.188
Something else happened yeah.

00:48:15.228 --> 00:48:18.052
So I had a year of working.

00:48:18.052 --> 00:48:23.273
I've been managing to get back to the office two half days a week, three half days a week, light workload.

00:48:23.273 --> 00:48:24.320
It was super accommodating.

00:48:24.320 --> 00:48:30.733
But this is after months of arduous work and rehab and vocational rehab.

00:48:30.733 --> 00:48:35.987
We're going to buy speech and cognitive and brain function how I can do this and get back to my job.

00:48:37.380 --> 00:48:38.144
I had a setback.

00:48:38.144 --> 00:48:43.467
I used to be with my mom, with the two before I went to work and she'd go off on her walk and I'd go off to work.

00:48:43.467 --> 00:48:45.684
One day I didn't show up.

00:48:45.684 --> 00:48:53.400
I called my cell and the response walked to my flat about five minutes before, saw a tube station.

00:48:53.400 --> 00:48:55.257
She found me unconscious on the floor.

00:48:55.257 --> 00:48:56.262
She called 999.

00:48:56.262 --> 00:48:57.146
I was rushed to the hospital.

00:48:57.146 --> 00:48:59.144
I had emergency brain surgery.

00:48:59.144 --> 00:49:02.608
I had something called hydrocephalus or water on the brain.

00:49:02.608 --> 00:49:06.242
I find out this is pretty rare Less than 10% of cases, they tell me.

00:49:06.242 --> 00:49:07.007
Lucky me.

00:49:07.007 --> 00:49:13.445
So we got the next day with the beeping noise.

00:49:13.445 --> 00:49:13.847
What happened?

00:49:13.847 --> 00:49:14.670
What happened Then?

00:49:14.670 --> 00:49:15.291
You had a second setback.

00:49:15.291 --> 00:49:16.114
You had an emergency brain surgery.

00:49:16.860 --> 00:49:19.059
All my progress was washed away.

00:49:19.059 --> 00:49:20.501
I can't tell you how low this was, Brad.

00:49:20.501 --> 00:49:21.885
The carpet was literally ripped from underneath my feet.

00:49:21.885 --> 00:49:23.451
Back to work.

00:49:23.451 --> 00:49:29.789
I was making progress, I was making gains, I was putting this behind me and it clawed its way back and grabbed my ankle and ripped me down.

00:49:29.789 --> 00:49:33.467
And I call this the depths of the human experience.

00:49:33.467 --> 00:49:34.885
My recovery is like a W right.

00:49:34.885 --> 00:49:39.347
The first setback's down here, Climbed back, coming back halfway back to where I was.

00:49:39.347 --> 00:49:43.431
Second setback's not where the first one was Much lower.

00:49:43.431 --> 00:49:48.442
The depths of the human experience when your hopes and dreams go to die.

00:49:48.442 --> 00:49:49.543
You're snickered out.

00:49:49.543 --> 00:49:52.550
You thought you had a chance, but you're not leaving this place, You're not getting out of your life.

00:49:52.550 --> 00:49:55.385
We're going to come for you.

00:49:55.385 --> 00:50:03.519
This was the depths man Rock bottom for me, no-transcript.

00:50:03.836 --> 00:50:06.704
But after about a month and a half I realized that you know what.

00:50:06.704 --> 00:50:07.626
You know how to re-up better.

00:50:07.626 --> 00:50:09.907
I'd lost the gains from re-up, but I knew how to re-up better.

00:50:09.907 --> 00:50:11.135
I had done so well.

00:50:11.135 --> 00:50:12.942
The mindset of re-up was there in my mind.

00:50:12.942 --> 00:50:17.523
I could build this back up faster than last time because I knew the tricks and way to go about this.

00:50:17.523 --> 00:50:23.242
But this was devastating, the darkest time for me and my family.

00:50:23.242 --> 00:50:30.682
It was so difficult to get myself pure and get myself on task and ratchet this up.

00:50:30.682 --> 00:50:32.929
But it was just in the mind of it's not an opposite.

00:50:32.929 --> 00:50:41.324
But I respond to it right and I quickly start making gains and build myself back up and getting back to work and I appreciate this behind me now.

00:50:41.324 --> 00:50:44.815
But that was by far the most difficult thing I've experienced and I could walk from this.

00:50:44.815 --> 00:50:46.518
So I was in the wheelchairs.

00:50:46.518 --> 00:50:51.728
It was much further ahead than I was the first time to make that progress, to make those gains and suddenly have the ribbed away.

00:50:51.748 --> 00:50:59.807
It was just devastated what was the time to get back compared to the first time?

00:50:59.807 --> 00:51:02.318
Now obviously can walk, but what about the rest of it?

00:51:02.318 --> 00:51:03.201
What about the cognitive?

00:51:03.201 --> 00:51:05.487
What about the vision, the speech?

00:51:06.538 --> 00:51:10.340
you know, the walking part was a huge thing, that kind of sped up the recovery process.

00:51:10.340 --> 00:51:20.956
But this was back to work maybe four months from that but and I already had rehab so I couldn't go back to in-person rehab.

00:51:20.956 --> 00:51:27.940
But my mom had to fight tooth and nail to get, like onlines or like over the phone, support, visit me at home, support because i're at a rehab right.

00:51:27.940 --> 00:51:36.181
This was grindy in the gutter like dog fight kind of stuff, where I'm like knife fighting my way back up the ladder here.

00:51:36.181 --> 00:51:46.565
Yeah, and it was devastating so really devastating.

00:51:48.007 --> 00:52:01.298
So okay, so it's okay, you know, but I'm still I'm cure, I'm curious, so obviously the well, I'm not sure about how the whole medical system works up there, because it's obviously different than here.

00:52:01.298 --> 00:52:04.875
But, um, so obviously they didn't consider this a separate incident.

00:52:04.875 --> 00:52:12.681
They consider this just a relapse from the first incident, something like that Instead of Relapse to in-person rehab, which I didn't know before.

00:52:12.701 --> 00:52:18.722
right, don't get me wrong, the medical system in London is one of the best in the world.

00:52:18.722 --> 00:52:23.706
This was quite challenging, quite an acute situation, quite a unique experience.

00:52:23.706 --> 00:52:26.737
Less than 10% of cases, they told me.

00:52:26.737 --> 00:52:28.902
So I was like for a few weeks there, for a month or so.

00:52:28.902 --> 00:52:29.443
Woe is me.

00:52:29.443 --> 00:52:30.083
This isn't fair.

00:52:30.083 --> 00:52:32.148
10% of cases I get hit with this.

00:52:32.148 --> 00:52:32.869
You've got to be kidding me.

00:52:32.869 --> 00:52:36.032
Have you not seen what I've been through already?

00:52:36.032 --> 00:52:50.159
But it's not what happens to you when I respond to the matters right and over time I wrapped this up and got my head on right, started attacking this one step at a time one step forward, one step forward, one step forward.

00:52:50.260 --> 00:52:51.543
So how long?

00:52:51.543 --> 00:52:53.670
How long did it take you to get back from this one?

00:52:55.418 --> 00:52:56.922
well, it's not a going thing, man, it's.

00:52:56.922 --> 00:53:06.177
Uh, I'm still making gains now, I think, with the major gain I've done maybe five, six years after this, but I'm 10 years out now and I'm still making gains, day in, day out.

00:53:07.021 --> 00:53:11.284
The injury is not like your healed, your fixed.

00:53:11.284 --> 00:53:11.757
It's every day.

00:53:11.757 --> 00:53:13.041
I have to wake with intentionality.

00:53:13.041 --> 00:53:22.023
I have a morning routine to start my day off right and get myself in the mind space to attack the day and to get after it, because if you don't, man, you'll fart around the sidelines.

00:53:22.023 --> 00:53:23.235
I've got to respect my battery.

00:53:23.235 --> 00:53:28.605
Now my battery is about seven, seven, 75 percent of yours, brad, and it drains.

00:53:28.605 --> 00:53:32.340
Went faster below 50 I'm less pleasant below 45, a bit of a prick.

00:53:32.340 --> 00:53:35.286
Is it a nap or meditate to recharge my batteries?

00:53:35.286 --> 00:53:37.780
It's only by failing do I know these parameters now.

00:53:37.780 --> 00:53:41.288
But you got to push it to where those parameters are.

00:53:41.288 --> 00:53:43.938
But it's devastating really.

00:53:43.938 --> 00:53:47.385
But oh, I think it makes you stronger.

00:53:47.385 --> 00:53:48.086
Right, like it.

00:53:48.086 --> 00:53:49.690
It it's a scar got on me.

00:53:49.690 --> 00:53:52.862
Now it's made me better, my mindset solidified.

00:53:52.862 --> 00:53:54.867
It's calcified my, my mindset.

00:53:54.867 --> 00:53:56.317
But no, this is the way to approach life.

00:53:57.800 --> 00:54:03.603
I played monopoly with my family last two years ago in gibson's, in our college gibson's, brad.

00:54:03.603 --> 00:54:17.030
I'll be honest, I might have given a cheeky google about how to win a monopoly before we put the game, but I found out the rules of the void Avoid the railroads, avoid utilities, avoid the expensive properties on the lot, focus on getting a Monopoly.

00:54:17.030 --> 00:54:20.340
I'm going around Land on the railroad.

00:54:20.340 --> 00:54:21.523
No, no thanks, I don't want that.

00:54:21.523 --> 00:54:22.925
Hit the utility.

00:54:22.925 --> 00:54:23.648
No, thanks, I don't want that.

00:54:23.648 --> 00:54:28.304
Hit Park Place On our board here in Canada, that's the top spot on the board.

00:54:28.304 --> 00:54:29.746
What did that know?

00:54:29.746 --> 00:54:32.400
Dan, do you know how to play Monopoly?

00:54:32.400 --> 00:54:33.103
Yeah, I do.

00:54:33.103 --> 00:54:37.824
I got a Monopoly at Marvin Gardens, at Yellow Patch or the first strip of the block.

00:54:38.385 --> 00:54:38.567
Right.

00:54:38.835 --> 00:54:40.099
All the money that is done on those properties.

00:54:40.099 --> 00:54:43.855
I put on motels, houses, and that's what it's $1,200.

00:54:43.855 --> 00:54:46.378
That's bankruptcy for you and that's why it's $1,200.

00:54:46.378 --> 00:54:46.898
That's bankruptcy for you.

00:54:46.898 --> 00:54:48.059
I wiped the floor with them.

00:54:48.940 --> 00:54:49.681
I tell you that story.

00:54:49.681 --> 00:54:53.106
If you know the path or the plan is right, stick to your guns, man.

00:54:53.106 --> 00:54:55.648
There are people telling you like you want this dad, you want this dad.

00:54:55.648 --> 00:54:56.570
No, I don't want that, I want this.

00:54:56.570 --> 00:55:04.960
And when you know that, own that and follow through with it with your whole heart.

00:55:04.960 --> 00:55:05.561
Don't get waffling on this.

00:55:05.561 --> 00:55:07.063
Make a plan and stick with it, man.

00:55:07.063 --> 00:55:09.487
So like that Monopoly game is a symbol for life about how to recover.

00:55:09.487 --> 00:55:10.170
Do it.

00:55:10.170 --> 00:55:12.619
Don't get the shiny object in here.

00:55:12.619 --> 00:55:14.945
Maybe you should do this, Maybe you should do that.

00:55:14.945 --> 00:55:17.402
This is what I need to do and get to work, man.

00:55:17.402 --> 00:55:17.896
I call work.

00:55:17.896 --> 00:55:18.942
Chop wood, carry water.

00:55:18.942 --> 00:55:21.641
So when you're waffling about this, what do I do?

00:55:21.641 --> 00:55:33.536
Chop wood, carry podcast.

00:55:33.536 --> 00:55:36.945
Get my emails, chase us from leads with the list of emails that built out and you're chasing down leads and deals like it's about the work.

00:55:36.965 --> 00:55:38.811
Man, when you know the plan's right, stick to your guns and follow the plan you're talking to.

00:55:38.811 --> 00:55:40.114
You're preaching to the choir, my friend.

00:55:40.114 --> 00:55:41.438
That's what I do.

00:55:41.438 --> 00:55:46.849
My, my clients tell me I want to do this race and I want to do it in this time.

00:55:46.849 --> 00:55:47.626
If they're doing a triathlon, I want to do the swim in this.

00:55:47.626 --> 00:55:47.878
I want to do that.

00:55:47.878 --> 00:55:48.277
I want to do this race and I want to do it in this time.

00:55:48.277 --> 00:55:50.139
If they're doing a triathlon, I want to do the swim in this.

00:55:50.139 --> 00:55:50.840
I want to do that.

00:55:50.840 --> 00:55:52.246
I want to be able to finish the bike in this.

00:55:52.246 --> 00:55:53.056
I want to finish the thing.

00:55:53.398 --> 00:56:01.543
And then my job is to put the plan together to get them there, and then I modify it along the way depending on their successes.

00:56:01.543 --> 00:56:05.637
Sometimes they succeed faster, so now I got to make it harder.

00:56:05.637 --> 00:56:08.244
Sometimes I've made it too aggressive.

00:56:08.244 --> 00:56:12.684
I got to pull them back, but that's my job, for them is to execute.

00:56:12.684 --> 00:56:14.347
They know what they got to do.

00:56:14.347 --> 00:56:18.342
So they're always asking hey coach, why are we doing this?

00:56:18.342 --> 00:56:24.416
And I'm like you should ask that If you can't ask that to your coach and the coach can't answer you, you're not have, don't have a very good coach.

00:56:24.416 --> 00:56:28.744
So I always tell them that some of them are okay with just blindly following me.

00:56:28.744 --> 00:56:31.576
Because they've been with me for so long, they understand it's going to get them there.

00:56:32.217 --> 00:56:36.090
But a lot of them they're asking well, why are we doing this?

00:56:36.090 --> 00:56:37.414
And I can tell them exactly.

00:56:37.414 --> 00:56:47.625
But you're doing this for endurance, you're doing this for temple, you're doing this for speed, you're doing this for that, and once we get to this point, then we're going to move on to this point and we're going to and we're going to get this by time.

00:56:47.625 --> 00:56:48.206
We're done.

00:56:48.206 --> 00:56:51.510
This is where this is where how we're going to smash your goals.

00:56:51.510 --> 00:56:56.007
So there's a plan and now we stick to it and we go forward.

00:56:56.007 --> 00:56:57.733
I provide the motivation.

00:56:57.733 --> 00:56:58.775
They provide the desire.

00:56:58.775 --> 00:57:01.516
Right, so it's.

00:57:01.516 --> 00:57:02.237
It's amazing.

00:57:02.237 --> 00:57:05.820
So when, how?

00:57:05.820 --> 00:57:08.101
I don't think it's a how, it's like a.

00:57:08.101 --> 00:57:24.932
When did you come up with this knowledge, this wisdom, as you were going through your recovery, and put it into practice in speaking to businesses and corporations and the things that you do now?

00:57:26.615 --> 00:57:27.360
The dots line up.

00:57:27.360 --> 00:57:29.619
Looking back, at the point of contact.

00:57:29.619 --> 00:57:39.364
You're looking to survive, you're looking to take the next step and you're looking to improve All these funny stories and whimsical expressions and things at the time, at the point like when you drop that clicker man, you're not worried about what's the lesson.

00:57:39.364 --> 00:57:41.001
You're like how do I get the bloody clicker?

00:57:41.001 --> 00:57:43.942
Like you can't focus on lessons and fight to survive.

00:57:43.942 --> 00:57:45.266
Then the thoughts will line up.

00:57:45.266 --> 00:57:47.733
Looking back, that's what I'd tell.

00:57:47.733 --> 00:57:47.994
Now.

00:57:48.054 --> 00:58:00.891
The lessons I've learned through the experience are looking back, not looking forwards very good, so you're able to take all that you perform you and you package it up yeah.

00:58:00.911 --> 00:58:07.565
so I speak about mindset, perspective and resilience, sharing my stories and my experience, because not so you think.

00:58:07.565 --> 00:58:08.728
Oh, dan Dan's so great.

00:58:08.728 --> 00:58:09.489
Look what he's been through.

00:58:09.489 --> 00:58:11.400
Although, brad, there's probably a bit of that in there.

00:58:11.400 --> 00:58:15.221
I'll be honest, I've got a bit of an ego, but it's more so to see this guy's done.

00:58:15.221 --> 00:58:15.922
And why can't I?

00:58:15.922 --> 00:58:16.898
He's no better than me.

00:58:16.958 --> 00:58:19.695
I did these brain scans Last year.

00:58:19.695 --> 00:58:22.056
Health Tech Connect, surrey, bc, canada, showed a Health Tech Connect.

00:58:22.056 --> 00:58:23.978
My results came.

00:58:23.978 --> 00:58:31.083
They put this cap on your head, put gel in there and they ask these questions like horse dog, hot dog, cucumber, whatever they say.

00:58:31.103 --> 00:58:33.045
The synopsis is fire, but the words are the same.

00:58:33.045 --> 00:58:35.567
My results came back as average.

00:58:35.567 --> 00:58:36.907
Right, true brain injuries.

00:58:36.907 --> 00:58:37.748
That's pretty damn good.

00:58:37.748 --> 00:58:38.670
Average is pretty damn good.

00:58:38.670 --> 00:58:41.291
I read this as shockingly average, brad.

00:58:41.291 --> 00:58:42.853
I'm shockingly average.

00:58:42.853 --> 00:58:46.621
I've recovered so well and I'm shocking the average.

00:58:46.621 --> 00:58:48.454
But the more I thought about it, the more I realized that it means I'm no better than you.

00:58:48.454 --> 00:58:51.021
I'm no smarter than anyone on this podcast.

00:58:51.021 --> 00:58:56.126
Right now, I've just chosen to go forward with that plan and follow through with the monopoly story.

00:58:56.126 --> 00:58:58.340
The plan follows through the plan.

00:58:58.340 --> 00:58:59.965
The work man.

00:58:59.965 --> 00:59:03.036
There's no exception for the work, day in, day out, grind.

00:59:03.036 --> 00:59:04.239
It's not pleasant, it's not dreamy.

00:59:04.239 --> 00:59:05.521
It's not pleasant, it's not dreamy, it's not sexy.

00:59:05.521 --> 00:59:07.445
But it's the work, a day in, day out.

00:59:07.445 --> 00:59:09.108
You got to love that.

00:59:09.108 --> 00:59:12.144
You got to love the pain, the grind, the grit, that fight.

00:59:12.144 --> 00:59:17.621
You get to do this Day in, day out, day in, day out.

00:59:19.244 --> 00:59:19.847
That is true.

00:59:19.847 --> 00:59:22.003
That's exactly how I think about stuff like that.

00:59:22.003 --> 00:59:26.641
It's you get to do this, you're put on this earth to do this, you're put on this earth to do this.

00:59:26.641 --> 00:59:32.943
Those are those that desire is there, but you got to put in the work, so you got it right out.

00:59:33.083 --> 00:59:34.244
Day in, day out, work.

00:59:34.244 --> 00:59:39.039
Yeah, every day I wake up with a routine mindset meditation, cold shower.

00:59:39.039 --> 00:59:42.226
I armor up for the day with intentionality.

00:59:42.226 --> 00:59:45.197
There's no maybes about my life now.

00:59:45.197 --> 00:59:47.418
It's like I do this, do this, I don't do that, I do this, I don't do that.

00:59:47.418 --> 00:59:48.840
You got to earn it.

00:59:48.840 --> 00:59:52.965
Every day, the day you take off, the day you flounder, you fall short.

00:59:52.965 --> 00:59:55.387
You could have been better and I see that in myself now.

00:59:55.387 --> 00:59:56.809
The brain is like I was a bit tired.

00:59:56.809 --> 00:59:57.369
Then I said this.

00:59:57.369 --> 00:59:58.150
I shouldn't have said that.

00:59:58.150 --> 01:00:02.639
You're a bit tired.

01:00:02.639 --> 01:00:03.059
You skipped this.

01:00:03.059 --> 01:00:05.081
You clock in, clock out, see it work.

01:00:05.081 --> 01:00:07.346
It's not no shortcuts here.

01:00:07.346 --> 01:00:13.081
There's no fast hacks or habits, but it's just day in, day out, grind modes.

01:00:13.925 --> 01:00:24.161
Yes, and Chris McCormick, famous draft leader, always says embrace the suck, embrace the suck, that's making you better.

01:00:25.034 --> 01:00:29.186
I got these tattoos on my left thigh from where I wore the splint when I'm getting the tattoo.

01:00:29.186 --> 01:00:32.237
I got these tattoos on my left thigh from where I wore the splint when I'm getting the tattoo.

01:00:32.237 --> 01:00:33.338
I got the tattoo on the back of my leg the second.

01:00:33.338 --> 01:00:34.800
He started pricking the tattoo by my kneecap.

01:00:34.800 --> 01:00:36.402
I was like this was a horrible mistake.

01:00:36.402 --> 01:00:37.784
Why did I put it so far down my leg?

01:00:37.784 --> 01:00:38.684
This is a dumb idea.

01:00:38.684 --> 01:00:43.469
And I realized you've got a seven-hour session with this guy.

01:00:43.469 --> 01:00:46.320
You've got to embrace his suck here.

01:00:46.320 --> 01:00:47.266
Every time it was hurt or hurt, he would.

01:00:47.266 --> 01:00:47.788
Thank you, danny.

01:00:47.788 --> 01:00:48.391
I appreciate this.

01:00:48.391 --> 01:00:49.076
This is a very nice suit.

01:00:49.076 --> 01:00:49.838
Thank you very much, danny.

01:00:49.838 --> 01:00:51.960
Yes, thank you for giving me this tattoo.

01:00:51.960 --> 01:00:52.481
It's awesome.

01:00:52.481 --> 01:00:54.742
Every time I thought this is painful.

01:00:54.742 --> 01:00:56.143
Thank you, danny.

01:00:56.143 --> 01:00:57.295
It's awesome man.

01:00:57.295 --> 01:00:58.601
Now this work's beautiful.

01:00:58.601 --> 01:00:59.376
It's on my leg.

01:00:59.376 --> 01:01:02.295
Like only by embracing the suck do I get the tattoo.

01:01:02.295 --> 01:01:03.617
The second.

01:01:03.617 --> 01:01:04.438
I needed that first prick.

01:01:04.438 --> 01:01:07.079
I realized this is a poor placement, dan.

01:01:07.079 --> 01:01:07.940
You made this choice.

01:01:07.940 --> 01:01:11.903
You got to ride it out and you can't change it now because the tattoo look all messed up.

01:01:11.903 --> 01:01:13.666
So you got to ride with this man, thank you.

01:01:13.666 --> 01:01:15.887
Thank you for the opportunity to have this tattoo.

01:01:15.887 --> 01:01:20.510
Thank you for the opportunity for this to suck Like, just switch it in your mind.

01:01:20.572 --> 01:01:23.436
It's about mindset, right, like your podcast is about mindset.

01:01:23.436 --> 01:01:24.097
It's everything.

01:01:24.097 --> 01:01:27.923
The hacks I give are all about changing how you perspective the worst into the best.

01:01:27.923 --> 01:01:31.130
If you can do that, man, you're unbeatable.

01:01:31.130 --> 01:01:33.342
Because the compass, not the map, the compass is there.

01:01:33.342 --> 01:01:35.621
Anything you face you can navigate through.

01:01:35.621 --> 01:01:39.123
If I give you a map, this is a different map than what I did here.

01:01:39.123 --> 01:01:40.360
This is not where the train we got.

01:01:40.360 --> 01:01:43.655
If I give you the compass, none of the true north is up here Around the mountain.

01:01:43.655 --> 01:01:44.275
You can go this way.

01:01:44.275 --> 01:01:48.159
The compass always points north, exactly.

01:01:49.579 --> 01:01:50.019
All right.

01:01:50.019 --> 01:01:57.967
Well, you have definitely given me and everybody here a lot to think about.

01:01:57.967 --> 01:02:05.253
Talk about changing your perception, ratcheting up every single day, having a plan and sticking with it, no matter what.

01:02:05.253 --> 01:02:07.081
It's a plan for your life.

01:02:07.081 --> 01:02:08.619
It's a plan for what you want to do.

01:02:08.619 --> 01:02:19.099
It's a plan for a race, it's a plan for anything, but you go in there and you follow it and you do it, and you do everything possible to go 1% better every single day, and it's not going to happen every day.

01:02:19.099 --> 01:02:23.739
There's sometimes you are going to fail, but you learn from the failure and move on.

01:02:23.739 --> 01:02:25.702
Can't have success without failure.

01:02:25.702 --> 01:02:28.688
So I really appreciate it.

01:02:28.688 --> 01:02:31.157
What's?

01:02:31.177 --> 01:02:31.657
up next for you.

01:02:31.657 --> 01:02:32.219
Thanks, brad.

01:02:32.219 --> 01:02:34.005
So I'm a speaker based in Vancouver, canada.

01:02:34.005 --> 01:02:41.630
I'm ratcheting it up for a big fall, big autumn, here in Vancouver with Speakers, rear of Canada now and also Pep Talk.

01:02:41.630 --> 01:02:44.882
I'm speaking and inspiring people to be better than yesterday.

01:02:44.882 --> 01:02:45.766
I've proven it a lot.

01:02:45.766 --> 01:02:46.853
I gave a talk for Service Canada last month.

01:02:46.853 --> 01:02:47.434
And inspiring people to be better than yesterday.

01:02:47.434 --> 01:02:47.568
They've proven it a lot.

01:02:47.501 --> 01:02:53.898
I gave a talk for Service Canada last month, got a 99% endorsement of the participants who answered the survey.

01:02:53.898 --> 01:03:01.659
So 1 in 11 and 1 in 12 said yes and Sourpuss said no, which I guess means I'm pushing some buttons that may be not uncomfortable for some people.

01:03:01.659 --> 01:03:02.561
Right, it was on you.

01:03:02.561 --> 01:03:04.402
If everything's on you, well, I don't like that.

01:03:04.402 --> 01:03:12.036
This isn't my fault.

01:03:12.036 --> 01:03:12.599
You don't know me, it's all.

01:03:12.599 --> 01:03:12.818
Maybe not.

01:03:12.818 --> 01:03:14.224
I can tell you with all certainty in my heart, this is the way forward.

01:03:14.224 --> 01:03:14.847
If you don't agree, that's fine.

01:03:14.847 --> 01:03:16.030
You do you, but I know in my heart this is the way forward.

01:03:16.050 --> 01:03:20.673
So I'm speaking now, changing perspectives and being a guest on lots of podcasts, rashing this up and making an impact in the world.

01:03:20.673 --> 01:03:28.695
Man, trying to make my impact big, trying to make the lessons learned from this world, but like why don't I just give it to you?

01:03:28.695 --> 01:03:30.259
Why don't I just tell you the way through the compass?

01:03:30.259 --> 01:03:30.880
Give me the compass.

01:03:30.880 --> 01:03:33.547
I have a lot of help, brett, you're the one to help out.

01:03:33.547 --> 01:03:36.760
Give me the compass, man, you can do anything else on your own.

01:03:38.865 --> 01:03:39.288
Exactly.

01:03:39.288 --> 01:03:44.862
Well, we appreciate it, and good luck at all the speaking events that you do.

01:03:44.862 --> 01:03:51.717
I don't think you're going to need it because the passion that you have is undeniable.

01:03:51.717 --> 01:03:52.197
So thank you.

01:03:52.197 --> 01:03:53.599
Thank you for joining us here.

01:03:53.599 --> 01:03:58.525
I really appreciate your passion and you are on.

01:03:58.525 --> 01:04:00.206
How could somebody get ahold of you?

01:04:00.206 --> 01:04:03.150
What's the best way for someone to ask you questions?

01:04:03.150 --> 01:04:04.731
Find out where you're going to be speaking next.

01:04:04.731 --> 01:04:07.597
Besides, you do have a website.

01:04:07.597 --> 01:04:10.364
I don't know, it's McQueenDancom.

01:04:10.364 --> 01:04:11.025
That's right.

01:04:11.045 --> 01:04:11.186
M-A-C.

01:04:11.186 --> 01:04:15.621
So across the socials of McQueen Dan, all the socials of McQueen Dan.

01:04:15.621 --> 01:04:18.487
So M-A-C-Q-U-E-N.

01:04:18.487 --> 01:04:21.699
Dan, instagram and LinkedIn are probably the most active.

01:04:21.699 --> 01:04:26.268
Twitter not so much Facebook's on there, so don't worry about Facebook, but it's on there.

01:04:26.268 --> 01:04:29.590
I'm ratcheting this up, I'm trying to make an impact, man.

01:04:29.590 --> 01:04:38.045
I'm trying to show the way out is true, and if I can share my experience and you learn a lesson from what I've been through, that's what I want to do, because I don't want anyone to go through what I've been through.

01:04:38.045 --> 01:04:46.327
Right, right, I worked so hard to get through this and I had, so I want to pay it forward.

01:04:46.327 --> 01:04:49.409
I want to make an impact and change your perspective, change the way you look at the world.

01:04:49.409 --> 01:04:49.630
Now.

01:04:51.211 --> 01:04:55.820
Absolutely, and that's the best advice you can give anybody, and especially in this world.

01:04:55.820 --> 01:04:58.182
So thank you, thank you again.

01:04:58.182 --> 01:05:03.965
I'll put all of that, what he just stated in the show notes, all of the social links, plus his Dan's website.

01:05:03.965 --> 01:05:05.717
So I'm going to have that for you, so Dan's website.

01:05:05.717 --> 01:05:06.438
So I'm going to have that for you.

01:05:06.438 --> 01:05:08.081
So check out the show notes for that.

01:05:08.081 --> 01:05:10.545
And, dan, listen, it's been an honor and a privilege.

01:05:10.545 --> 01:05:12.208
Thank you so much.

01:05:15.875 --> 01:05:16.956
It's been a real pleasure to talk to you.

01:05:16.976 --> 01:05:19.041
Thank you so much and all the best in your future endeavors.

01:05:19.041 --> 01:05:20.623
Thank you All right, everyone.

01:05:20.623 --> 01:05:22.666
We'll see you in the next one.

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