Nourishing Wellness – Amita Sharma on Menopause, Stress, and Holistic Health

Brad Minus: And welcome back to another episode of Life-Changing Challengers. Again, I'm your host Brad minus, and I am so extremely lucky to have with me Amita Sharma. She is a women's holistic wellness champion with a platform called nourish doc. She has several programs, for women geared towards women on.

Anti aging, detox, emotional wellness and menopause, which is her specialty, sexual health and weight loss. And we'll get into that a little bit later, but let's first ask Amita, how you doing? 

Amita Sharma: I'm doing great. 

Brad Minus: So Amita, can you tell us a little bit about your childhood, where you grew up, was the complement of your family and what was it like to be Amita as a kid? 

Amita Sharma: Yeah, so I grew up in a very tiny little town, which probably nobody has even heard of in India. It's called the Talwada and actually I was born in a town bordering Pakistan, believe it or not, Amritsar.

This town is so tiny, [00:01:00] even now, if I tell anyone, nobody even knows in India as well, because it had a dam. And there's just a small community of engineers. who are trying to take care of the dam and that's where I grew up as a kid. Then I was sent to boarding school for almost 10 years at age 13.

Yes, it's very different at that time. You don't send your kids, especially in a country like India. I was in boarding school until, I almost graduated from architecture college. You can imagine the back and forth and during the holidays, I would go to my grandmom, which I told you a town near the border of Pakistan and India, which is almost a very kind of a feisty town.

I should say that because of the tensions that happened right in 1947 because of the partition. So that's an interesting way that I grew up in all this, Kind of like a feisty town and a small town in the boarding school and then in between going to [00:02:00] all my different relatives You know for when the time off So that was my a little bit of what I experienced before I landed here in United States 

Brad Minus: So you went to a boarding school that literally took you high school through college 

Amita Sharma: Yeah. Yeah. So, yes, the boarding schools, are very popular actually, in that country, believe it or not, it was meant for a lot of rich people to send their kids away so then they can party okay. But in my case, it was, yes, started boarding in, grade seventh. And then after that, I studied architecture, you know, in a town. Again, this town, a lot of people know it was designed by French architect, Le Corbusier. So I was very, kind of like infatuated at that time, with the different architecture in that town called Chandigarh.

And you can imagine in India, you know, generally the sanitation, it was not very clean and here's this [00:03:00] town properly planned with proper sanitation. So. That's kind of how my little, from a tiny town, I told you from where the dam was right to a feisty bordering town between Pakistan and India to Chandigarh, which is like a planned town and the boarding almost eight, nine, nine years of boarding school.

Brad Minus: That's just crazy to me just to think that so like border, boarding schools out here, it's, you know, it's basically you go there, I mean, you can start in elementary school, but usually it ends, you know, you ended high school. And here was the fact that you went from what we would call middle school all the way to through college.

I think that's amazing. 

Amita Sharma: Here, boarding schools are not very popular in this country. Right. Parents don't send their kids to boarding schools? I have not met a single person who's told me that 

Brad Minus: we do have some, and a lot of them are like military schools. And, and then there's boarding schools for like behavioral issues and stuff like that, but they're, they're not, [00:04:00] you know, they're not meant to be, 

Amita Sharma: normal burden permanent like yours. 

Brad Minus: But they're there. It's very 

Amita Sharma: common. It's very common, by the way, in that country. It's British.

It's a kind of a British thing that was inherited from British because in British, if you look at it, they sent their kids to boarding schools, right? If you've watched any of these, BBC, 

Brad Minus: right? Do you have. Siblings? 

Amita Sharma: Yes. I have a younger sister. 

Brad Minus: And are you close? 

Amita Sharma: She's six years younger to me and she lives in Florida.

So I think the boarding school and all that, the age difference, does make an impact, but still, yeah, but I mean, we're close, but not the way. Siblings, you know, if you grow up together, it's different, right? 

Brad Minus: Yeah, that's what I was gonna ask, was that she end up following in your footsteps and going to boarding school as well?

No, 

Amita Sharma: No. No, no. Yeah. Okay. 

Brad Minus: Okay, so [00:05:00] you finished up with a degree in architecture? 

Amita Sharma: Yeah, I studied architecture. In fact, I came here to UC Berkeley. I studied, environmental engineering and landscape, urban planning, believe it or not. And here I am, holistic wellness champion. 

Brad Minus: Yeah, we've all gotten there, you know, I'm an endurance coach and, I have a communications and an it degree.

So you started, so what was your first job working as an architecture? 

Amita Sharma: So I worked for a year in India as an architect. Actually, at that time, the country was upcoming. And then I came here and even here in Palo Alto for Silicon Valley execs, I did quite a few custom homes.

Big custom homes, right? Because the money, right? The money follows money. That's just the way it is everywhere in the world. So rich people can only afford architects. And then I decided, that, the funny thing was nobody wanted to do any creative work. That's why I studied architecture.

Everybody used to [00:06:00] show me a. House in Normandy. Oh, build me a house, something like that in a city in Fremont or whatever. At Woodside, Atherton, you know, the rich cities here in Silicon Valley. I'm like, why won't you do something creative? No, no, no, no. Send me something where it's so and so. You know, bronze, the third lived in a castle and then build me a small castle here, right?

That was architecture here in the United States. So I went back. And I, studied again and I switched into software. That's kind of the story. 

Brad Minus: Okay. Well, you and I got into that together, I guess, because I moved to, I moved from communications into, well, I always had some sort of tech in the background growing up, you know, I was one of the, you know, I have generation X, so we started with, you know, Apple, two E's and all that stuff.

And I just kept going, on the side, but, Later on, I ended up back in tech as well. So I get that. How long is that what you ended up [00:07:00] before your, the recent most journey that you've got as far as wellness goes, is that where you ended up basically doing software? 

Amita Sharma: Yeah. So software was creative, right?

I found it very creative. I was able to create this immersive experiences for, I worked for a whole bunch of companies here in Silicon Valley. I had my own company. In interior design and furniture online e commerce. That was very immersive. I really loved doing product management is what I did working with UX UI, and then bringing all these experiences and then learning from the clients or the users, how they are interacting. So that will process. very interesting. And so I've worked a bunch of companies here, all kinds of companies you can think of from Walmart to Western Union to startups, realtor, house, all those things.

Right. And then the COVID came and, my contract ended with Western Union at that time. I was almost ready to start a new job. And the COVID came and they said, Oh, no, we're going to wait. We don't [00:08:00] know what the heck it is. Everybody's saying work from home, work from home culture didn't exist.

2020 prior to that, I said, Oh no, no, no, no. We're going to wait. I started poking around into this whole holistic wellness and understanding what this is. And here I am in front of you. 

Brad Minus: That's amazing. Our lives kind of parallel a little bit.

Yeah. I did the exact same thing. I had finished up a project in December of, 2019 and I was just getting ready to start a new project I got my new contract I was getting ready to sign it and the company that I was working for like no We don't allow contractors to work from home.

We only allow contract with tractors to be In the office. And because of that, we're not going to go move forward with the contract. Until September of that year. And I ended up picking up my next contract at that point. 

So what was your first step? When you were starting to look at things going on, that made you, what was that first piece [00:09:00] of curiosity that meant you start going into more of a health and wellness area of your life?

Amita Sharma: So prior to that, during my, in the corporate life, everybody would ask me, I was always inclined towards taking care of myself using holistic therapies, right? So a lot of women, even men, they will come to me, Hey, you, you know, so much about all this, what should I do? I have diabetes. I have this.

I'm like, Oh my God. And I was a big proponent of holistic lifestyle. So I, when this 2020 happened, I just wanted to look a little bit more deeper into, holistic lifestyle and evidence and all that. So I started with just looking at the very high level. I had no clue at that time that I am going to do the women focus on women wellness.

I just wanted to more look at the chronic condition at that time and how can you prevent chronic condition using some of the lifestyle dietary modifications. In that journey, I found there were quite a few competitors even now there are. So that journey kind of took me a couple of [00:10:00] years, and then I started talking to holistic experts from all over the world.

I talked to about 3000 of them, or maybe 4000 of them. Understanding the whole because I had no clue about this industry. Here I am a software person trying to get into the industry. health and wellness with absolutely no knowledge. Just kind of high level knowledge of, okay, I take care of myself, right?

Everybody does that in today's day and age. It's nothing new to understanding the deeper part of it. 

Brad Minus: So let's step back cause, I'm going to say that in my eyes, looking from the outside in, I'd say that that wasn't the starting of your journey. And the question I'm going to ask you is where, at what point were you always being that, where you came from?

, which I, I believe that India itself has a big, , holistic, , holistic culture, right? Am I wrong about that? 

Amita Sharma: No, no, no. 

Brad Minus: Okay. So it, did it start, is that how it started actually, is you growing up, you being in that culture and that's [00:11:00] how you started with the holistic or did you, did that end up starting somewhere else because of a certain situation or a symptom or something?

Amita Sharma: So India at that time, right, was trying to become a modern country. So Ayurveda, people who did Ayurveda were kind of not respected as someone who was a medical doctor. India is becoming modern. India is trying to shun their tradition, 

they're trying to look westward and they're not looking into what they have the plethora of goals, all these things no. Who wants to do Ayurveda? Who wants to do yoga? Who wants to do homeopathy or whatever. They were looking for medical doctors. So I don't think it happened.

India was. Anti all this, right? And I'm talking, you know, nineties, right? Somewhere around that timeframe. Right. So, so it has changed since then. Now the whole world knows about yoga. We know that, right. But so my thing actually started because I went to boarding school, as I mentioned, [00:12:00] and in that boarding school, it was almost like a military school because it was run by, you know, the management, they were ex army.

All of them. So we had a very, very regimented schedule every single day. You've got to exercise three hours. You have to eat well. You have to do this. You have to do that. I think it's the diet part started and the exercise part started at a very young age in the boarding school, because that was a big discipline school that I went through.

And it always stuck with me that I have to take care of myself, right? There was a lot of emphasis on in, we had an in house dietitian. Nobody even knew what the dietitian was at that time in India. And we had an in house nutritionist, a dietitian who would design the meals and we would have balanced meals every single day.

All those things were just like they were training athletes for Olympics. I mean, literally it was like that, right? So I think my awareness of that started at a very young age, and then I kept carrying on. I kept [00:13:00] it with me along with me, right? I never paid attention, became my lifestyle. But then the actual thing I think started.

When I was working for corporate and I started experiencing symptoms, perimenopause symptoms, which I was completely clueless. What the heck is perimenopause? I thought, Oh, I'm still young. I was 40. And I'm not hitting menopause. I started getting all these symptoms and it just completely made a mess of me.

I couldn't function literally, you know, because you having heart flashes and then at night you can't sleep. In the morning you're groggy, you know, brain fog, you kind of think, and then you're not productive. So it's a vicious, vicious cycle that happens to women. And it happened to me at that time as well.

So I think that's kind of the two things kind of, you know, if you connect the dots. That's what started. 

Brad Minus: So when you came to America, you didn't get the temptation for hamburgers and hot dogs and French fries and shakes and stuff. You kept with your lifestyle.

Amita Sharma: No, no, no, no. I did. [00:14:00] I did the temptation. Of course, everybody goes through that. The funny thing was. That I would eat the hamburger and I would feel bloated. And I was like, Oh my God, what the heck is inside this thing? That I just could not eat any of the processed food from day one. That was a problem.

Is there something is wrong with my body that I, everybody enjoys the hamburgers. I could not, because I would get not sick, but you know, I would be bloated like for days and I'm like, Oh my God, I can't even eat anything. So out of that, I had to resort to healthier food. That is not processed. And I always got into the habit, even here trying to, even though I was going to school, but trying to eat healthier, fresh as much as I could.

So I resorted a lot to lentils, you know, beans and lentils, and I'll soak them up overnight. And in the morning I'll, you know, boil it and then put some onions and tomatoes and like a curry. Right. 

Brad Minus: Yeah. 

Amita Sharma: So I resorted a lot to those [00:15:00] curried lentils. Because sometimes fresh vegetables or whatever.

So that's how I survived here because I could not eat outside the processed food outside. 

Brad Minus: And it's interesting that, okay, so you went back to the way that you're used to, you're used to eating, yet you still ended up with the symptoms of premenopause. Yet you were already eating fresh. You were eating non processed. You were eating all the stuff we say that will help you. 

Amita Sharma: Yeah. 

Brad Minus: Yet you were doing all that, but you're still ending up with the symptoms.

What did you do? What did you finally find out about the pre med and the symptoms that you could, you know, at least help. 

Amita Sharma: Yeah. So I think, I think at that time, at that time I was very, very stressed out. I think stress can, exacerbate the symptoms, you know, and also, I probably, I had put on weight.

At that time, you know, I was not as healthy from a weight point of view because, I'm trying to, you know, you can imagine the Silicon Valley lifestyle. It's very fast paced. You have [00:16:00] go, go, go. You have barely any time to for exercise. So I did not exercise as much. as I would have liked at that time is what I'm saying during the perimenopause phase of my life.

And so if you put on weight, you're not exercising and you're eating on the go and you're stressed out, all these things can add, right? And then probably some inflammation inside my body of, something which I did not understand can add to the symptoms, right? During this whole phase, when you get busy, you're not taking care of yourself as much as I was able to when I was much younger, is what I'm saying.

Brad Minus: Right. That makes perfect sense. So, what did you change personally as this was going on? I mean, obviously you were doing your homework, but you know, you were still working and this wasn't 2020 yet. This was prior to that. Correct. What did you end up finding that helped?

Amita Sharma: So I had to change again. I had kind of deviated from my original, [00:17:00] whatever I was used to, you know, in high school, as I told you, so I had to become more stricter, on the dietary aspects of understanding what I should do, what I should eat. And I was not incorporating more fresh fruits and vegetables as much as morally focusing on the lentil started doing that.

And I started exercising more. to keep up because I needed to lose weight, right? The weight was also causing all these symptoms there's a clear data talks about the overweight and the symptoms of, for perimenopause menopause. For example, Latino Americans and African American women have more, their symptoms are more aggravated, the heart flashes, and it goes back to their obesity levels and also goes back to the lifestyle.

So I'm not saying I was at that level, but still, you know, I was not obese, but I was still overweight, for my BMI and I was stressed out and all those things. My lifestyle had [00:18:00] kind of come into a little bit of a sad lifestyle. Because you live here for so long and you, you just get used to the rut and you don't have time.

It's not that you don't want to do it. You just don't have time to do it. 

Brad Minus: Yeah. And that's absolutely what goes on here in America, which is what one of the, one of that first question I asked you about being tempted was because we have something here. We call it the sad, right? The standard American diet, which is sad.

It literally is it's, it's fast food. It's convenience. And now in today's world, we've got, meal plans and we've got, home meals that can be delivered that are actually healthy for you, that are fresh, delivered, flash frozen, and you just heat them up. You know, we didn't hear of meal planning back to that, you know, where now we've got people here that are, that are looking at their meals on a weekly, on a weekly basis. Saturday, Sunday is for meal planning and they put everything together and then now it's much better.

But back then that wasn't the trend. 

Amita Sharma: No, no, nobody paid [00:19:00] attention to eating healthy here. Nobody was probably informed or aware of the healthy eating or they didn't care. I don't know what it was, but the culture was. healthy. 

Brad Minus: Yeah. It was, you know, eat what you want. It's a, it was the seafood diet. See?

Amita Sharma: Yeah. Exactly. 

Brad Minus: So, well, that's, and you are, you know, case study for the perfect way of thinking about it. I need to ask you, because I'm very curious about this, how you talked about, you know, Latino versus Indian versus white versus black women having, Different, 

I don't know. Is it a different symptoms or different level of symptoms? You know, then I want to say white people, but I'm basically saying that, you know, each of them have, a different level of these symptoms and you've seen data on that. What did you find as far as that goes? Just a little bit on, the difference between the different, races.

Amita Sharma: There's a lot of difference. The age of the menopause is [00:20:00] different. For example, Caucasian women, 51, 52, Latino, African American women, 47, 48, Indian women in India, 45, 46, some Muslim women in Sudan, 40, 43, 44, 45, something like that. Big, big difference based on your ethnicity, based on your lifestyle, and sometimes based on your religion in this case, right?

And so are the symptoms. Japanese women don't get hot flashes, African American, Latina women, very, very high on hot flashes because of dietary lifestyle, right? And then Indian women, mainly muscle pains, and then so are Asian women because of their skeleton, you know, like a slimmer musculoskeletal.

issues. So it depends a lot on the age of the menopause is different for different ethnicity. This is average data I'm talking about. Of course, someone can go here and their deviation. Also, the symptoms are different for different ethnic groups. So this kind of level of [00:21:00] detail, I don't think we understand as a society at all, forget about all over the world.

We don't understand it enough. Because there's not enough research on all this, what I'm taking, this is just a high level. 

Brad Minus: Yeah. No, no, no. And I get that. But it's interesting though, is that you mentioned the people that had hot flashes versus multiple skeletal is because I know that, well, at least what I understand is, African American, Latino heavy on the starches.

Right. Yeah. Like really, really heavy. You know, between rice and potatoes and, breading and everything else versus, Indian and you please correct me if I'm wrong, because I'm only going on what I've seen, Indian and, and Japanese Chinese. It's one starch. You know, basically it's rice and that's the one starch, versus a lot more vegetables, you know, even limited on meat.

But yet, so you get, that's muscular, right? So that tells me as far as the level of carbohydrates, it's like [00:22:00] overcomp, over carb. Yeah. Gives you those hot flashes under carb gives you muscle pain. And that's me looking at that high level, you know, 45, 000 feet up in the air.

Obviously there's a lot more nuance to it, but it's interesting the way that you mentioned it like that. All I think about is the fried plantains and corn and, the paella and all that from the Latinas and that chicken and a lot of things. In the African American community that I've been around a lot of things are fried, love their fried stuff and then moving more into India and Japanese where there's a lot of vegetables, tons of vegetables.

India uses more lentils and beans. Japan does not. There are more soy. And Dami and things like that. So, it's an interesting, it's an interesting study. I would be super interested to find out how that goes. 

Amita Sharma: Fascinating. 

Brad Minus: So let's move forward to, now 2020 you're in the aspect of COVID you're talking to these experts.

How did you end up looking in [00:23:00] deciding that, Hey, you know what? I can really do some good with this and starting your business. 

Amita Sharma: Yeah. So like I said, you know, I spent a couple of years just, it was sort of like a podcast, not a podcast podcast, but it was like an FB live that I ran, you know, kind of did experts from all over the world.

During my journey of talking to them, there was a lot of women, most of them I interviewed were women and, almost 90 percent of them are mid aged women. It just so happened. Even the men were mid aged because I think, you know, look at us, right?

We changed up the careers. You know, you've tried something. Now you want to do something you really love. And now you're trying to find meaning of life and there it is holistic or whatever. Most of them would talk about their journey into menopause, perimenopause and how clueless they were.

This is crazy. Nobody knows about all that stuff. I heard, I kept hearing, and I'm trying to figure out what should I do within the holistic umbrella? And if it makes sense for me to do it, or should I go back to [00:24:00] my consulting? Right? That's kind of where I was. And I'm just curious.

And then I realized that, hey, here it is. I went through. Hell in my journey. Here are all these women talking about it Let me just go a deeper into it and try to understand if there's something out there That's kind of how it happened. It wasn't like one day switch. Okay, i'm going to do this It took a lot of talking to a lot of people and interviewing them and or learning about this holistic.

You know, therapies on a higher level than if there is any evidence or no evidence, acupuncture, acupressure, Ayurveda, yoga, you know, the whole laundry list of so much, right? But we don't understand it enough. How do you not take it? 

Brad Minus: I, like I said, I'm an endurance coach.

I coach people to marathons and, you know, these crazy races I've got 15 or 16 people on my roster that I personally coach, and then I coach for run clubs and different other [00:25:00] people, but my personal clients that I coach one on one into these crazy races.

I end up with those same exact things. And the mean of the age group is in the fifties, right? Most of the people that I coach are over the age of 40. And the mean age is like 55. So these are these people that are ultra shape and great in fantastic shape, or they want to get to that way and they're doing these hundred mile runs and marathons and Ironmans and triathlons all over the world.

And, you know, so it comes in with different and I've. I've actually, you know, been, I've had some women that have actually gone through menopause as their endurance, as, as they're an endurance athlete. So minimal fat, right? Like their, their, their, their bodies have, you know, minimal fat percent percentage, and their cardiovascular system is off the charts and they still.

You know, have these symptoms that you've talked about and, a lot of them [00:26:00] actually end up with them in a, in a much, much, more persistent and higher, you know, higher pain threshold just for the fact that and mostly is the muscle side. Right. And I've seen that. Right. So I literally, I literally have found.

you know, that we've changed diet and I've changed their program in accordance with what's going on in their lives as far as peri and post minimal menopause. And it's a very interesting subject. So I've seen it. What for you, what made you Or what was the turning point to you to try to start doing, you know, creating these programs and actually getting people on board it?

Amita Sharma: So I tried a lot on myself, right? When I was going through all these and by trial and error, I tried to fix myself, which I did, which I was able to fix myself. Somehow I have no idea what I did, the more I actually started understanding the perimenopause, menopause, and it's just not.

slew of symptoms that women go through, [00:27:00] which I went through, as I mentioned to you, four or five of them myself. And the other issue is for a lot of these women, it goes on for years. It's not like a one year kind of a deal. Okay, fine. Turn off the switch. And I am technically a post menopausal woman, but that's not how it happens.

As you know, it's a transition and transition can go up to 10 years. And then even if the switches turn off in this case, it's not just one thing. That's the problem. 

Brad Minus: That's interesting. I didn't know it was 10 years. 

Amita Sharma: Absolutely. It starts in as early as in forties or sometimes earlier than that.

And like, as I mentioned earlier, 51 52 is the average age and the years leading up to when the menopause happens for most of the women are horrendous. It's completely horrendous because now the hormones are fluctuating like crazy and your hormones are dipping down and then sometimes they're going up.

And [00:28:00] that's why, you know, we joke around it, right? The women are having mood swings, but it's not their fault. It's the hormones that are going crazy, like crazy seesaw. 

Brad Minus: And 

Amita Sharma: that's impacting your mood, your brain, your gut microbiome, your hair, your skin, your emotional balance. You can't sleep at night. 

Not just one thing. It's everything that happens. 

Brad Minus: I did not realize that. Listen, 

Amita Sharma: look at me. 

Brad Minus: At me right here. All right, men, all you men out there. We are very lucky. Okay. If you're listening to this, not only do women from the age of 13, 12, 10, 11, 12, 13, up to 40s, are they doing this harsh monthly trial that they've got to go through?

But then after that, they have to go through 10 years, up to 10 years of this horror. So guys, count your frickin blessings, take care of your women, and [00:29:00] understand that this is what's going on. That's the end of my PSA. Thank you for listening. Okay. Yeah, so I believe that now I'm like, wow. Okay.

I am a lucky person. What did you find? As far as probably the most common denominator did you find with people that are using your programs? It's about the menstrual pre pre posts, and, a menstrual menopausal.

Amita Sharma: So, most common, symptoms, majority of the women have, heart flashes, sleep issues, and brain fog. These are the three. And they're, they're all intertwined, right? And that's what I have. Because, you know, you can't sleep at night in the morning. So, these are the most common. But, interestingly, during my research, right, I also found that loss of libido is also one of the symptoms in women.

We also know hair loss, you know, a lot of women start losing hair as you see older women, the hair thinning starts, but the loss of libido is more complicated and I'll tell you why it can [00:30:00] impact relationships, right? If it's not communicated openly with your partner or spouse, right? And then interestingly, the data also talks about 60 percent of the divorces that are happening in UK and US are happening.

So towards the menopausal years and there's a rise of great divorce. We have that data that's it. 

Brad Minus: That makes sense. And you know what, that was my, my thought. I was like, I was wondering what is the divorce rate for pre post and menopausal women.

And you just answered that. I literally had that was my next question. So it makes sense, right? Because that loss of libido. Do you, for everybody listening out there as far as that loss of libido? And I'm sure like you said, that could be a huge cause of some of these divorces.

Is there one thing or A couple of different things that people could try holistically that might help with that. 

Amita Sharma: Yeah. So pelvic health exercises, you know, basically our body is all one. We want the blood [00:31:00] to flow all over right on all our organs. And sometimes the blood flow is not as much as it's supposed to be right in that part of the body.

You can try to enforce your pelvic health and also it also has a lot to do. It's not just the pelvic health exercises alone that would work, but also if your gut health is screwed up, everything gets screwed up. Interesting. 

Brad Minus: Is 

Amita Sharma: so 

Brad Minus: I'm in the YouTube video, I'm going to go ahead and link to, Craig Brocky's, episode where he talks about gut health. That episode was all about gut health. 

I didn't realize it got down to that point where actually gut health even went into, pre post and menopausal women. Wow. It's huge. 

Amita Sharma: And then the, your emotional wellbeing, right? Women are very sensitive creators. They connect emotionally.

So if there has been some kind of a trauma, during your marriage years or during your relationships and you haven't been [00:32:00] able to digest that and you haven't been able to take it out. That can also impact your libido. We know that there is data behind all these things I'm talking about, so this, it's a multitude of different factors.

The kids also add tension. That is the truth, you know, as much as we all love our kids, but You need to have open communication with your partner to be able to have this healthy relationships. So there are a multitude of things that are happening. Hormone fluctuations, absolutely, yes. Emotional, not able to have emotional stability, emotional imbalance, that can lead to it, right?

Stress, stress is obviously gut health. 

Brad Minus: Yes. 

Amita Sharma: It can be all contributing factors. It's not just, Oh, I do my kegels or I do my pelvic health strengthening. I start doing strength training. It's going to fix it. It's kind of complicated, so to speak. 

Brad Minus: All right. Well, I'm going to give you your last question.

In relationships with pre post and [00:33:00] menopausal women, can you give us one thing or one good thing that we can do to help support, help support our partners while they're going through this? 

Amita Sharma: Yeah, absolutely. Just listen to them. And I think the best thing men can do is at least be aware.

Of men are not even aware of peri menopause posts. Right. I was not aware. Forget the men . I mean, you know, I mean, if as a woman I had no clue what the heck this means, how can men know, understand this? So I think, doing these podcasts, I'm so thankful and, and so, you know, amazed at that, how you're bringing this topic out to.

Out in the forefront. So I think women, men need to understand this topic a little bit, not doing a PhD, but enough understanding to support their partners, support their wives, girlfriends or whoever. 

Brad Minus: Yeah. 

Amita Sharma: When they're going through this journey, that's what men should have a basic understanding.

Brad Minus: I agree. Cause I've learned a lot right now. I'm [00:34:00] going to apply some of that myself. Interesting. So I just want to talk about, so Amita Sharma and she has a whole bunch of programs and they're great programs, called nourish. Doc. com N O U R I S H. com.

That will be put into the show notes. If you go onto the website at the bottom in their footer are all of their socials. And I'm going to go ahead and I'll link those also in the show notes. Amita, I really appreciate everything that you do.

And I think these programs amazing and, I wish you all the success in the world because I think this is something that definitely needs to be looked at and you could save some marriages, save some women, and, I really appreciate everything that you do. So I'll go ahead and put all that stuff in the show notes, for the rest of you, if you're watching on YouTube, please go ahead and hit that, like subscribe and the notification bell.

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