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And we're back to another episode of Life-Changing Challengers.
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My name is Brad Min, I'll be your host, and I am so honored to have author and health and wellness coach, kelly Majdan, with us today.
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How are you doing, kelly?
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I am fantastic.
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How are you doing?
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Excellent.
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So Kelly is the author of Lessons from the Obstacle Course: Five Strategies to Conquer the Muddy Fields of Life, and it's all about what she learned as she started a journey with her and her family on the obstacle course.
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But before we get there, Kelly, as I ask everybody, will you tell us a little bit about your childhood, the complement of your family and the environment you kind of grew up in?
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Sure, yeah, I was kind of like thinking about this going okay.
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So grew up in Colorado and I always like to say that I grew up swinging from trees in Colorado.
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We lived out in the mountains foothills of Colorado, just outside of Boulder, and when I was eight years old I was in the 70s my parents were one of the first ones, or you know, in that group of folks that started, that went through the divorce process, right, so eight years old, not a lot of I would like.
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I kind of always like to say my parents weren't really meant to be parents, so just kind of like they just, you know, weren't a lot of watching over kids.
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And my sister was four years older than me, so I was eight years old and I was kind of left to raise myself in a way, because mom was always gone.
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Dad was just not interested.
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He's a great dad but just like didn't know what to do with kids.
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So pretty much start from a very early time in my upbringing was just actually just kind of making sure I looked out and took care of myself and did kind of my own thing all the time and it kind of led to an interesting I think it was fourth grade year where I didn't really show up to school.
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They passed me and it was just an independent type of upbringing.
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An independent type of upbringing Typical, I think, for a lot of kids in the 70s when, if you go through any generational theory, they called our generation, generation X, the nomads or latchkey kids.
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I was definitely one of those latchkey kids, so I always joked around.
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My dad ended up it was kind of like I said a lot of people were getting divorced at the time and he had another buddy of his who he just got a divorce and so they ended up going to building houses kind of around and I think they purposely scheduled the kid weekend together so that we would entertain ourselves which is fun.
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I grew up with a lot of really, you know they're like my brothers and they would pick on me like they were my brothers, so but it was.
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You know, that was really pretty much my formative years, was just really being on my own and making my own decisions and kind of just working very independently.
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Independently.
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We ended up going to college in a little town called Durango, colorado, which is just a great little place called Fort Lewis College down in the mountains, met my future husband there towards the end of my schooling and he was going off to the Marine Corps.
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He was about two years ahead of me.
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I stayed back, finished my school because I was like, well, I'm not going to follow any guy around, right, but we stayed in contact and continued to blossom our relationship.
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Bring break of my senior year of college, I flew out to San Diego, which is where he was stationed, because he went through the OCS and was now out at Camp Pendleton and he was at some school and he basically engaged, you know, asked me to marry him.
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So once I finished college I moved out to California, just kind of came home, packed up my stuff and they did our home of record move and we moved out to California.
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We've been together now this June we'll be 30 years married and so we've had a lot of very independent living, very much pulling on our own bootstraps, which is good and bad.
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I think you need to be able to pull on your own bootstraps and do your own thing, but I do think that I could have had a lot of if it had been a thing and I don't think it really was a thing in the early 90s with a lot of us.
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I think one thing is really wonderful benefit now is a lot of mentorship that a lot of people get, and it wasn't really something that I think we were really I don't know people didn't really talk about when we were going through our early careers and I know I could have benefited from that.
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But I also benefited from being able to just always rely on myself, which is pretty much how I grew up.
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Yeah, I grew up as a last key kid, only child, and yeah, it literally was, and I'd wake up in the morning.
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Maybe one of my two parents were home, and it was.
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You know.
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Get yourself up, get yourself dressed, make yourself breakfast, get yourself to the bus stop, get to school, come back home Nobody was there Make yourself a snack, do your homework, homework and wait for someone to come home.
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I know exactly how that felt and, yeah, there was no, it was only like mentorship.
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You know, you had your teachers and your family and that was pretty much it.
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What was your field of study in college?
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So, ironically enough kind of funny my father was a general contractor, so a lot of the houses we lived in he built, and so I grew up in that kind of environment, thinking, oh, I want to be an architect because my dad would always talk about these ladies that he really enjoyed working with, because they were great, phenomenal architects.
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So I went to school thinking, okay, I'm going to go be an architect because I thought that would be fun.
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I always loved the fact that we always kind of were in the process of building a home.
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And I sat through my first art classes and went this sucks, that's just not for me.
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So I of course did what every college student does who says, ok, I really chose poorly.
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I went to speak to my counselor and she's like well, you can go into business.
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I'm like, ok, I'll take a few business classes.
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Well, I got into my accounting class and absolutely loved it.
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I mean, one of the unique things about Fort Lewis, where I went to school, was at the time and maybe it's still that way, I don't know, but at the time because it was just this little mountain college and it was like in the middle of nowhere and it was just a really neat place to be.
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We had a lot of all of our teachers in the accounting department were all from the big five accounting firms and they had just, you know, they had run the course of working their corporate careers and this was kind of like their second life.
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That they went and said I just want to go out in the mountains and go teach, said I just want to go out in the mountains and go teach, and so we really had some phenomenal, phenomenal teachers there.
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And I remember my teacher who did cost accounting and the way he just explained cost accounting I was like, oh my God, I get this.
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And I set the curve in the classes and went, all right, I'll be an accounting major.
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Then a few years later I got into tax accounting and all the other and I went what did?
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I do.
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But I finished with my accounting degree but I never went forward to go after CPA or anything like that because auditing absolutely was like that was not my thing.
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So I ended up falling into financial services and working in the wholesaling and selling space and fell into working with corporate 401k plans.
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Wow.
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So this is going to seem like surreal, you ready.
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So I grew up.
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My dad was in real estate, started as an agent Well, no, actually I should take that back when I was really young, up to the like to my age of seven, I think.
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My dad was an accountant for international harvester.
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Then he went into real estate instead and started being an agent and then went into appraisal a real estate appraisal and then started his own appraisal firm and then retired from that not too long ago.
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So yeah, so I'm right there with you and I lived through all of the real estate.
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Matter of fact, I got my spending money for college and books and rent by doing appraisals.
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Oh, wow.
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Yeah, because he taught me how to do them and it's something that you can do on your own time.
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You make the appointment, you go look at the house, then you do the forms and you send them in, and that's it, and it's pretty lucrative.
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So at the time it was pretty lucrative.
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So I'm right there with you.
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I got it all.
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Yeah, as far as recovering accounting majors, I can't say I was ever an accountant just because I never followed through with that path.
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And there's another story in there, but I'll just tell you that for about three or four years I was a series seven, series 63, series 24.
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That's for a whole different.
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Well, we got to move on, but that's for a whole different conversation.
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So you got married and you're in San Diego, right?
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We?
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were in San Diego.
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Okay, so how did you enjoy San Diego?
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How long were you there?
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Loved it.
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It was absolutely beautiful and it was like in the mid-90s.
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And so we were.
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My husband was stationed there for three years.
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He actually had a little bit of a longer station than most Marines do, just because he changed from different units while at Camp Pendleton.
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And we actually put in for Okinawa because it was just the two of us and a cat.
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And you know, like let's go right.
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This would be really cool, but unfortunately they didn't need his MOS and Okinawa, but they did in Pensacola Florida.
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So we ended up next three years in Pensacola Florida, which was a great duty station as well too.
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It was a beautiful area and I remember going out and looking and going to visit Floribama, and that was that far and it was literally in the middle of nowhere and, like I know, you go there now and there's high rises all over it, but literally at that time it was like literally just middle of nowhere out on Orange Beach.
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So anyway, so we were there for three years and we decided we were, I like to say, we're young and dumb.
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We decided that it was time, for we didn't want to continue moving around a lot and we were thinking about having a family and all that kind of good stuff, and so we said, well, let's go ahead and give up his commission because he was an officer and head home to Colorado.
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So we did that in 1999 and ended up going back home to Colorado and then it took us another three years to get pregnant because we had fertility issues.
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It was really more on my side that I had the issue, and so which was kind of it was some entertaining stories with figuring all of that out as well too.
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I've got stories too, yeah.
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In 2003,.
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The Lord blessed us with our son and then two years later, we had our daughter.
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So it was really worked out pretty well.
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I kind of felt I always kept praying.
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I'm like I just want to have replaced me and my husband.
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Two is good.
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I didn't need to fill a van or anything like that.
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I figured man on man offense defense.
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That's just the perfect way to go.
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It worked out really well.
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We got the son first and then the girl.
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How perfect could this be right?
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And they are probably the most planned children you could probably have.
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Because we had to follow a certain fertility schedule and a certain shot schedule.
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So we had to tell my body you need to keep this egg.
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So there were certain things that we had to do in order to be able to make that happen.
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But yeah, and now my youngest is graduating from high school this week.
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I thought like where did time go?
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Exactly you get older and time just seems to go faster.
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Oh, it does.
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It does and especially, you know, I thought you know it took us we were married nine years before we had children, so we were in our thirties by the time we had kids, which is that then that was kind of a little unusual.
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A lot of people were having kids earlier, but that now for so many folks that's normal.
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So you, a lot of people are having kids in their 30s and and I think that's where now our story will really resonate a little bit more, because we are that older parent- so what were you doing at this point?
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So, as far as not being, I mean, I know you're trying to get pregnant.
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That makes one thing, you're trying to get home, but what were you doing for a living at this point?
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So at that time I was working for a mutual fund company when my son was born, as an internal wholesaler manager.
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So I was managing a sales desk and I was one of the supervisors on the sales desk, actually.
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And then when my daughter came along, I was working at a 401k internal sales desk and I was managing that desk and building out those internal wholesaling platforms.
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Nice.
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And what was your husband doing?
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Oh, he was doing construction.
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No, he was actually no.
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He got out of the pre-tour so and he followed.
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He ended up getting his program management professional.
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So he was a supply officer, which he's always kind of like, oh, that's not the sexy thing in the core right.
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But like you know what you believe me, people want to make sure that they love and they take care of their supply officer, because where do you get your stuff from?
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And so it was natural for him to go into a program management professional.
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So he was.
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I always like to say he's the guy that gets people, gets the folks, the business in business users who are using the programs to communicate to the IT folks that are building the programs, because there's not a good communication line here.
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They don't speak the same language.
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Yes, I don't know.
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The thing is is that when my professional life I'm also a designated PMP and PGMP as well, so you know very well what.
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I'm saying, yeah, I know that and it's just being surreal now, the things that are very comparable to both of our lives.
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It's like uncanny what is going on here, but yeah, that's kind of what pays the bills around here, at least a little bit.
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But OK, so fast forward a little bit.
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And there was a big obstacle that happened in your life.
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Yes.
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So we're really kind of worried.
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I think we're all just kind of going along with this.
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And where this?
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If I were to go back and say where this obstacle stemmed from, it would stem from my husband being a Marine when everything was happening, if we remember early 2000, right 9-11.
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And then we go.
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I mean, we literally got a call in 2002 or 2001,.
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Actually, when it happened, the Marine Corps was keeping tabs on where all of their people were, and so you know.
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So we're really heightened in that respect.
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But as everything was going on over there, in 2005, our daughter was born and at that point, two weeks after our daughter was born, my husband went to Iraq to help with what is called a Z-backscatter x-ray man program which was able to scan vehicles going into Marine Corps checkpoints.
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And he was actually, you know, they sought him out for this job because of the fact that he was a Marine, he was a supply officer, he's a PMP, so he spoke Marine because the Marines kept breaking everything which go figure right, and they really needed to get these vans up and running in country.
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So the first year of our daughter's life he was actually a contractor out in Iraq and went through all sorts of things and there's all sorts of stories with that respect.
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The reason why I tell that is because I think there were some things that happened at that point in time because when he came back his health started changing and there was a lot that was going on with his health.
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That we really going back and putting the pieces together is where I've connected the dots, but didn't really understand it when things started kind of falling apart early around 2012, 13 ish, and my husband ended up turning to me one day because we were living at the time then in Arkansas is a big company picked up my husband and he was working for that company and living in Northwest Arkansas and his parents had followed us out, lived in Bella Vista.
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There's very windy roads there and as we were leaving or getting ready to leave his parents' house, he's like honey, I think you need to drive and we hadn't been drinking.
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So I'm kind of like, okay, well, what's going on here?
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This is kind of strange because normally you know he doesn't ask that question.
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Well, when we get home, I asked him I'm like what's going on here?
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Because I did notice a lot of things were going on.
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I did notice my husband was quite grumpy.
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He was complaining of headaches a lot more.
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He was getting dizzy.
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Now, as a family, we really all enjoy especially my daughter and I love amusement, park rides going on, and of course it kind of runs your head around and I was kind of thinking all of this was going on and we were also both trying to build our careers at the companies that we were at and we had young kids, so I just thought maybe he's just getting tired and that's just life going on.
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Well, when we got home I asked him what's going on?
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Because you're off, there's just things going on, not straight, and he goes I'm seeing double.
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I'm like, well, what do you mean?
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You're seeing double?
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Because I see two of you stacked on top of each other.
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It's kind of can't.
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I'm like, okay, well, babe, how long has this been happening?
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He said pretty much since we moved five years earlier.
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I'm like you're just now telling me this.
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Five years, five years, five years he'd been dealing with this.
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I remember I have a Marine and Marines are stubborn, and he's also a New Yorker, he's a Pole.
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I mean I'm like he's got everything.
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He is the most stubborn man out there and I'm like, babe, this is not right, like you need to go get this.
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So I annoyed him for him to finally go see an eye doctor.
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And when he goes to see an eye doctor, this one eye doctor says, oh well, you just need prison glasses.
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And I'm going, okay.
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And he's like fine, put the prism glasses on me.
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I'm good, just call it good.
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So you know, I do what every wife does and every good caretaker who loves somebody does.
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I'm like okay, well, why do you need the prism glasses?
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What's going on?
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Did he tell you that?
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He's like no, we just need prism glasses.
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I'm like okay, that's not enough.
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Like that's not the answer, that's not enough, that's not the answer.
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Anyway, we would banter back and forth like this for a while until my son, chasing after our daughter with a bow and section, cut bow and arrow.
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He ends up running into it and cuts, thankfully, just the white in his eye, because it hit my daughter's door and she slammed the door and he kept going.
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Yes, we're not bad parents, it's just kids.
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They just do things.
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But I also do think God works in mysterious ways.
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And the eye doctor that my son saw I said I asked my husband and again bothered him enough, Please don't see him Get a second opinion, because prison classes aren't going to work.
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So this eye doctor does go a little bit further.
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My husband not only a Marine, jumped out a perfectly good airplane, did all that kind of good stuff, but he was also he's a career lacrosse player well, not career, but like, played lacrosse all through junior, high and high school and even into his college years and stuff.
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So he's thinking, well, maybe there's a concussion or something going on there.
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So he sends them off to a neurologist.
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The neurologist sends them off to get an MRI.
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And literally on January 24th my husband, we went in to see the doctor and found out he had a pineal gland cystic mass sitting in the middle of his brain and basically it was sitting between the four lobes and it was cutting off his circulation.
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And I joke with my husband now that I'm like you are alive because of me hounding you, because it literally would have caused a brain aneurysm, Like he was probably a year or two away from just dropping dead.
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So that sent us into a really great neurologist at UAMS in Little Rock.
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I can't say enough about Dr Day.
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He was phenomenal.
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And after five minutes of sitting down with us, Dr Day turns to his assistant and says schedule him for brain surgery immediately.
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I'm going, wait a minute.
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What Brain surgery?
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What?
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So I'm like, okay, I know my husband's not going to ask, so I ask so again caretakers out there, you ask the questions.
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If they're not going to ask, you ask the questions because you have to.
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I'm like, stop, Tell me why.
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And he pulled up a perfectly good x-ray of a brain and my husband's and he said see that blob right there.
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And I'm like, yes, he goes, that should not be there, that needs to come out because that's going to kill your husband, basically.
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So I'm like, okay, let's get it done.
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I just went into okay, let's you know operation mode.
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Let's get it done.
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Let's take care of the kids, because the kids were little, so I had to make sure they were taken care of.
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We had just gotten two puppies that were going to be ginormous dogs.
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So I got my aunt and uncle, who absolutely love animals, and got them scheduled to come up to take care of the dogs, because we were going to be down at the hospital for about a week or so and just basically made sure everybody knew what was going on, made sure the kids' school knew what was going on, was taking care of FMLA paperwork.
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You know just everything that you just have to do to ensure that he is going to have a good recovery and didn't have to worry about.
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I even bought like a new mattress because I knew he was going to be in bed for four months.
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So it's not just operation, you have to have this handled.
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So you get it.
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You just do it.
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You get it done.
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He had a surgery in March of 2014, and the doctor came out and found out that they also were worried it could be cancerous.
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Thankfully, we dodged that bullet.
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It was just this big protein blob sitting in the middle of his brain Weirdest thing ever and I don't know really where it came from.
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And that's the thing that they don't understand.
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That leads us to a couple of years ago.
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We found out that that wasn't the only cause of his double vision, because we continued having issues with his double vision and it never really corrected itself as it should have corrected itself by getting that thing out and then we went to a doctor when we moved here we found another really great doctor who operated on what they call a fourth nerve palsy.
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Anyway, because of the surgeries weren't fixing it completely, he sent him off to get blood work and we now know that my husband's been battling Lambert-Eaton-Myasthenic syndrome, which is called LEMS, and it's a neuromuscular autoimmune issue, which is called LEMS, and it's a neuromuscular autoimmune issue.
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So that was also part of what was going on and I have a feeling, if I connect the dots, knowing what I know now that I've done a big deep dive into health is, I think something when he went off to Iraq might have triggered this.
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I have no proof, but if I were to kind of go back and see, it does seem like there's, because everything was fine before then.
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Right.
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Yeah, I can always see that when there's a certain point in your life right where things start to change, you're always going to go back and check that out.
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Now did the?
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I didn't.
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I know nothing about LEMS.