Embracing Life's Journey: From Personal Struggles to Higher Calling with Neal Fisher

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All right, hey, welcome back to Life Changing Challengers.

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I have with me Neil Fisher, who happens to be the author of the Unified man, an excellent book with a bunch of tenants and a set of mindset blueprints to help you throughout planet Earth.

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So anyway, hey, neil, how's it going today?

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Oh, fantastic, man Loving it.

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That's what I like to hear.

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Yeah, oh, just by the way, neil's in Australia, so we're actually talking to the future right now, so I'm totally crazed for that.

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So anyway, neil, listen, I always start out there in the same way and I would like to know just first give us a brief history of your childhood how you grew up, who you grew up with, the makeup of your family.

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No one wants to know that, so I'll tell you all about it.

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My parents didn't want to raise us in the city so they purposely moved to a small little coastal beachside village in North Queensland in Australia.

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We lived in the rainforest, lived in an old banana shed in the rainforest fresh creeks, deans, nature, all that beautiful stuff, and also we had the islands and coral reefs and beautiful oceans and the most gorgeous beaches in the world.

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Looking up on the internet, mission Beach, australia, it's absolutely sensational.

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It was very fortunate.

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We had generally healthy vegetables, fruits yeah, there's always a little bit of processed stuff in there but grew up drinking creek water, grew up drinking rainwater and had an older brother and this had a very thorough childhood, very blessed to have a lot of purity.

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We weren't a crime already that rubbish in the cities or that you see everywhere.

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So we're lucky and I was lucky too, because we all get.

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We're all bought with cards.

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We get dealt cards by the poker dealer.

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That is God.

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We're born and I was lucky to have intelligence and humor and wit and prowess.

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Could be the biggest class clown all through school, but then also I was top of the class and it was effortless.

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You have all these things that you're blessed with, but there's always.

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You always get a few dud cards as well.

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I was always fearful, I would say, because I was terrified of my father's wrath.

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Now, my father was not.

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He was the best dad ever.

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He was a shit husband, but he was a fucking great dad.

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He never done anything nasty to us.

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It was just a healthy dose of fear.

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But because it was always so, we're very obedient, so to speak.

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But he loved us, he looked after us tremendously, took us fishing, camping all around the islands and stuff like that.

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But having an innate fear from a young age, it creates a schism within when you start to attach to something.

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Even though I had all of this confidence and outwildly charisma, there was always that fear of, and that was something that hoarsed me through those two-nades years.

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But, dad, they split up when I was like 12 and I just didn't even recognize it, didn't even register it, because they were still communicating and still saw each other, so it didn't really even affect me.

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Anyway, you got any questions?

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It's so interesting that you said that, because I don't think anybody's ever said that to me before.

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I know a bunch of people that have came from so-called broken homes and no one's ever said that to me.

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So that is an interesting take that you could say that, oh, it didn't affect you, and that's.

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I think that's probably a good telltale to your parents, because obviously they still parented you as mother and father and the marriage part just didn't work out.

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So that's a point of parent, that's all I did abroad, because that was always they were fighting.

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Obviously it affects you, and the reason I say it didn't affect me is because that's what we always have blinkers and blinders.

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There's always a shadow aspect of ourselves that we can't see.

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Oh, I'm fine, everything's great.

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But not necessarily.

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There's always something under the surface that's going to be being a driver, on your attitude or your behavior.

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There's going to be something.

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That's always something to dredge up from the abyss within.

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So, even though I say it might not have affected me, no doubt it did you can just tell underlying drivers and you just ignore things.

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Because they were always fighting.

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They were always fighting in the end and that's why they split up, because they were wise enough to go look, this isn't working for us anymore, but this the kids.

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So the sacrifice they made of the family unit was to protect the kids, because there was just no good fight in front of us.

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Yeah, that's something that we're not finding nowadays.

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Right now, with least in America, our divorce rate is over 50%, and it used to be oh, you stay together for the kids and then maybe you'll divorce when they're out of the house.

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And that's not happening anymore.

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They're just giving up, and they're giving up on the kids too, and that's what's causing a lot of issues that we've got nowadays here in the States.

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I don't know, is it the same way there in Australia?

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Yeah, and of course it is Same way everywhere.

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It's division, it's the whole.

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I don't want to get I'm not political or anything like that but it's a communist doctrine to destroy the family unit.

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When you destroy the family unit, especially the father, the father's the figurehead, the father's the strength, that's the defender, the protector, the provider, and when you degrade that role and make it out to be an oppressive role rather than a role of strength and as a role model, you end up with all this trouble.

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It was kids raising kids, single parents, single fathers, single mothers, and at a young age, very young ages.

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You're not even matured, you don't even know yourself until you get into your 30s, 40s, so you just end up with kids raising kids.

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There isn't that role model, there isn't that path of initiation, of ritual leadership to show people, to actually educate them and be, more importantly, be that example.

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Because at the end of the day, when it comes to a kid, monkey see, monkey do.

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I agree wholeheartedly and as far as that little bit of fear you had growing up because of your father, my father did the same thing to me until I was about 14, 15.

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And even then it still continued, but he did it in a healthy way, where at one point there's a kind of a switch that tricked and all of a sudden maybe just became best friends and that holds to this day.

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So let's circle back now.

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Your parents split up when they were 12.

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You didn't really phase you, you went into.

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Is it called secondary school there?

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Yeah, high school.

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You call it high school too.

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Yeah, high school Okay, and you said you got great grades there.

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Did you end up going to college?

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Yeah, no, what happened in school is that, like any of us, we get introduced to drugs there's to losers and all these fucking people around us that just end up bringing us down.

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So I still trumped in school but then just smoking, heaps of pot, drinking, and just the cowardice continued.

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The cowardice around defending myself.

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Or the cowardice around talking to women, because you know, I don't kill.

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Anybody says marijuana is definitely not good for you and the fact that it's legalized and widespread and so potent it does nothing happens by accident.

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It's done on purpose to keep your fat, lazy, mindless consuming slob.

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I know because I've been there.

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I've smoked more pot than you've had hot dinners like it's not good.

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So then do it.

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On a nutshell, do it.

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All that that just amplified my fear, amplified my cowardice, and I would be have my strengths in one area, but there'd be a chink in my armor.

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I pain within that was never addressing because I was too paranoid to actually step out of my comfort zone and go and do it.

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So that halted me for a very long time, that sorrow, that pain, that loneliness, that disconnect within and within, until I come to about grade 10, grade 11.

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So I was 15, 16 years old.

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I just had an epiphany one day.

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I woke up and I went.

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I can't even remember the last three months, I can't even remember what happened, I don't even know what date it is, because I just been smoking that much fucking pot.

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And then I just.

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It's like we all reach an epiphany will all change when we finally have had enough pain.

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It'll just hit us.

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We'll realize that the bandages are the hide, our wounds.

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It is ourselves that must heal them.

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And I made the decision that stops.

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And then from there, my life turned around.

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I got all the good grades again, I eventually met a girl, got a girlfriend praise be holy, thank gosh.

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And then I went to go to college, university.

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I went there and this way, this isn't for me, because there was 10, 10 million other kids there that were way smarter, way more dedicated.

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It was, above all, it was immature, just the shit that people were going on with.

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It was just like I don't belong here.

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And that's what we all need to find is that we all have that pain within of separation, because we don't have a place where we belong, we don't have a group of people that share our interests or share our drives.

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You have to just keep looking for that, and that's what I did.

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I left the comeback home to my girl and all that sort of stuff, and from there that's when a whole other chapter opens.

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Oh, excellent, I like to hear that, so let's see.

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So that must have been what you're 18, 19.

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So what did you end up doing when you decided to leave college?

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Come back home.

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Dad wasn't happy about it, but he got over it.

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And then I went to work.

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He was getting paid good money, so he was happy and I was happy to have been a kid earning nothing.

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And then I come back because there's a small town and being the construction figurehead that he was, everybody knew everybody.

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So I got a construction job and I was pulling good money making it for me.

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I was like, holy, I'm rich.

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And then for the next like year, this worked.

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That Then saved up the money and then I was able to buy a house when I was like, whatever, it was 18, 19 years old.

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So then use that money.

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And he was happy with that.

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When bought this house, started renovating it to do it up, to sell it to make a profit, but then the financial the 2008 global GFC happened, so then it all just went to crap.

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So then I was stuck with this house and then that's when it started to go down hills, because it wasn't the fact that I was stuck with the house, it was my poor decisions that resulted then, because I was always doing self-development reading all the books, traveling the country, going to the seminars, people like Tony Robbins and all those sorts of people trying to find the way, trying to find the answers, trying to get rich, ultimately attached to the material world, rather than going within and then start smoking heat support again.

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And then, lo and behold, things started to go wrong.

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Because I tried different business things like business, just investment strategies and then eventually settled on day trading because I liked the idea of it it's just you and yourself and I had a mentor like what I want and we're meeting groups like we are now online and I'll trade with him.

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What happened to that?

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Because I was up in the ether, I thought I don't know what I could do here.

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Quick money Because I'd done all that work on the house.

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I borrowed all this money on the house and then the GFC the head value of the house crashed.

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So I was trading all of this money, borrowed money.

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The value of the house was down.

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I was smoking heat support.

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He not turned up to do the work anymore.

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I was just following his trades in the background, taking responsibility.

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But all this took me bad because what happened with him?

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He knew exactly what he was doing, but his partner that he was working with got greedy.

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Because I can see behind the scene.

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I developed friendships with some of his team and you could get an insider's view of what was going on.

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So they sold all these programs.

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So he was under all this pressure, he couldn't trade anymore.

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He was just making these decisions, trying to make money, trying to make things happen, and it all just crashed.

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Everyone lost all their money.

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I was lucky.

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I pulled out because I see what was happening.

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I still had a little bit left but ended up just blowing it anyway, because it's too lazy to go back to work.

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And then one day I woke up.

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I was separated.

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The one and only woman that I'd fallen in love with she was with another man.

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My body looked like shit, I was bankrupt and I had a dependence on marijuana and it was all preventable, the whole lot of it.

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I saw it all coming.

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I just ignored it because I was too grandiose, too narcissistic, up in the ether, just lived in a fantasy world, a delusion, and it just crashed around me.

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And that's what happens is, when we think too much, we get caught up in our own immature and the culture feeds us as well.

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We get caught up in our immature right Theosity of special.

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I was born special.

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Here's the thing we're all born unique, but we're not born special.

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You have to earn the right to be called special, you have to earn the right to be called strong.

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You have to earn the right to be called wise and a leader and someone magnificent.

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We're born with the capability, but not with the prestige.

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I wasn't earning it and that's why the universe just tumbled it on its head and just crashed it down on me.

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And that needed to happen, because I needed to grow.

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That is profound, and I love the way that you speak about it in this grandiose, because it's so going around right now, this narcissistic behavior that we've got.

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Everybody feels like they're an influencer, everybody feels like they're this, and sometimes it works and sometimes it doesn't.

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Well, let's step back again.

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So you ended up having $208,000 in debt and you were separated, just like you stated.

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So then you went back to work with your dad, right?

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Yeah, that's what happened is because I'd left working.

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Like I was so wise, I stopped working.

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I'll just make money trading now, anyway.

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So, yeah, the only thing I could do was to go back and actually really submit construction to concrete, because, number one, it was something that I could jump into immediately and actually make a good money in to pull myself out of the mess.

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And number two was like when you're in a hole, you got to stop digging and start climbing.

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So I got rid of a stock smoker weed, went on a full organic detox purge, died for a year, didn't smoke pot for a year it was probably like nine months, to be honest with you.

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Then I started smoking pot again, but it was a lot more controlled.

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Anyway, they went back working for him and I did not want to do it because there's dirty hard work.

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There's dirty hard work there.

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Especially where we live.

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We live in North Queensland.

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It's a nuclear heat.

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It is going to haunt man.

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It melts out there.

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But here's the thing, though, brad, it all had an positive side effect, which was that I was able to develop strong bonds and learn from and have friendships with real men.

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Real strong men lived in the old world.

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They don't know anything about the cyberspace.

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They don't know anything about social media.

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They don't know about any of this gogly global citizen guy worshipping gender bending, just identity schisms, just rot us all from the inside out.

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They don't know any of that crap and, myself included, I'm the last people of my age.

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We're the last generation to know what the world was like before.

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There was a world that existed before the old world, before everything went mad, but anyway, the point is, these people granted me in reality, I was taught and showed and embodied the power of perseverance, doing something hard that you don't want to do.

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For years I learned the value of loyalty and dependability and reliability.

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When that concrete truck, when that mud turns up, it's a time bomb.

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You have to be there.

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It's concrete waits for no man.

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People are relying on you.

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It is going off and it is going hard and it is going off now.

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So you had to be there, no matter how hungover you were, no matter how little sleep you had, no matter if you had no sleep.

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If you know what I'm talking about, you had to be there.

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You had to be that strong man.

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It's like going to battle.

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People were depending on you, you were depending on them.

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So it taught me the honor code of no matter what, you have to be there.

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Because people say I don't care what anyone thinks about me, that's because you're an asshole.

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You should care what people think about you, the people in your immediate tribe.

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What is your reputation?

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How are they doing you?

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What is your character?

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What is your reputation?

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That's an important word, because we think this and we think that and we have all these ideas.

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They're just concepts.

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Most of them are false.

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How are people actually doing you?

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What is the feedback they're giving you?

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And that feedback of how you're being perceived and how you're interacting with the world.

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That's who you are, what you do and your reputation is the biggest indicator of who you are character.

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I agree with that a wholeheartedly.

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Prior to you going back with working with your dad being a concreter, you're sitting at a desk, you've probably got a drink with you and you're making these decisions.

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Now, all of a sudden, everything's gone flat and you've got to go back to working in this blue collar, hard, tough as nails job.

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Can you paint us a picture?

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For?

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Just give us one day in the life of a concreter so we can paint that picture of what the difference is?

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Well, that's it.

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You said it there.

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We'll work at night still because we're trading the E-minis the US market S&P E-mini and the E-mini 500.

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So, yeah, it was this easy going, sleeping all day and just do whatever you want.

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Easy peasy, go and eat as many ham sandwiches as you like.

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And that's what happened was the downfall.

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I became lazy, apathetic and complacent and entitled.

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I thought it was just going to fall on my lap.

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So we all need that downfall, that shattering of pride, and that's what I had to do.

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I thought I was above it all and that I got shattered, had to come back, put on his gum boosts.

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So a typical day is you're getting up.

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You could be getting up at two o'clock in the morning, you could be getting up at three o'clock in the morning.

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Up you get and you're hungover too because you've drunk 20 beers a night before you wake up.

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You've got a gut-sache too because you've gotten drunk and just eating a million hamburgers.

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You get up, you're dusty, you've got a headache, you go to work and then you have to jump into a beast of a session To get the gym.

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You want a hard workout, go on concrete.

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For a day You're either swinging a big metal sledgehammer hitting staff pickets, pieces of steel into ground, rock hard.

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In the Gulf of Carpenteria, which is up north of Australia, it's horn up.

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It's like the deserts, the nuclear.

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So you're going to hit these pieces of steel into rock all day and melt.

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Or you've got these liquid weights.

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You've got this liquid weight.

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One cubic meter of concrete is 2.2 tons.

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So to shovel that shit all around the place.

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You're hungover, you're sick and it's hot and you have to do it.

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You can't just go and have a break, you can't just call and see.

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Have to do it, because the people that love and respect you and the people that you love and respect, we're all counting on each other and you probably you'll get smashed in the head if you don't do it anyway.

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So you have to do it and that's a diet, a six or seven days a week for 10 years.

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Welcome to my life.

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I don't think people understand what hard work is nowadays.

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So that's a great picture and I appreciate you painting that for us.

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All right, so 10 years, you finally get out of this debt that you've made for yourself.

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What then?

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Well, you're going to love this.

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It was actually eight years, right, seven or eight years.

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And then guess what happened?

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Finally, I finally paid off everything.

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I finally paid it off.

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And here's the other thing that people need to keep in mind I could have paid it off all quicker if I had more impulse control, if I didn't eat so much fast, if I didn't drink so much alcohol, if I didn't still just keep doing drugs.

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I was lucky enough to have a role model and such a strong, positive father.

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He loves his beers, but he's a strong man and he's a positive man.

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He is such a good role model.

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I was able to balance that, but I could have got to where I would need to go a lot quicker if I just got rid of all the impulse control.

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Anyway, the day after literally the day after I paid off my debt, I met a man that I call the prophet of profit and he introduced me to cryptocurrency.

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He introduced me to crypto and then all of us, anybody that goes down that rabbit hole they get crypto fever.

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That consumed boy overnight millions, click and then guess what I did?

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I went and borrowed another 80 grand and sunk that into the crypto bar Idiot.

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And guess what?

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It all just turns out on me and it all turns out quick.

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Here's the thing, though, because I'd gotten all that money and then I'd gone through another breakup, so I was in a turmoil, and then I was stuck concreting it again.

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In this situation, I couldn't handle it.

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I have to get out.

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So I sold everything for about half, for 40 grand, but because if I just held on for another couple of weeks, like I was planning to, instead of getting emotionally wrapped up in it, I would have just broke, even sold it all.

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I would have been sweet, but because I was didn't have impulse control again, it all just turned to crap.

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And because I had that avarice and just jumped in and click, click, click, click, any click a debt swap mate.

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But anyway, I'll let my lesson.

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So the answer to the question, then situation because I moved to a city Finally, I can get the hell out of here.

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And then I went back to my little small coastal home and just went back in my ute, and if I couldn't fit it in my ute, I didn't need it.

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And that's the thing we all have too much stuff, we all attach to the material world too much, and I'm a minimalist.

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Minimalism is powerful because just touching on one constant, any possession you really ever have is your body.

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That's why you need to put full, maximum effort into it, because you can't own anything, because the earth owns us period.

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So come back and then I can accumulate.

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I was working concrete but because of my trade level of ability then I was making way better money and working way better circumstances.

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Where it was actually you could pick and choose the jobs you were doing because I wasn't attached so you could do a lot of the time.

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It wasn't actually too hard because of the crew, the tight, awesome championship blokes I was working with and everybody's understanding we would just structure it.

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So it wasn't hard because everybody knew it was.

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Don't get me wrong, you serve your hard days but we'd make it easy.

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Where I came and that camaraderie of working hard together, that's something that you really get to and you get a lot of pride, satisfaction and fulfillment in the life about just concrete challenges with the tight group of strong men I can relate due to.

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I did nine and a half years in the military, so I got a pretty good idea what you're talking about.

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You thought you'd die better than me.

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Yeah, got a good squad of guys around you.

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Yeah, there's nothing better than having a good team around you.

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So another 18 months, now you're working, and you're actually working a lot easier because you've got a system in place is what it sounds like.

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Everybody in your crew sounds like you.

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Each of them knew their job backwards and forwards, and you can apply them where their strengths were.

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Is that about right?

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Excellent.

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That is Still, don't worry me wrong.

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Still 80% hard, 20% would be easy.

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So that's what I did for the next three years.

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So that's what happened now Brad is.

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Then for three years because I didn't have the debt and because I was so used to putting all of my money into patting off the debt.

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Now I had that frugal habit, even still drinking and taking drugs.

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I still had 80, 85% of my money left over.

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Because, such a tight ass at that point, now I could actually start building and accumulating and saving up.

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Here's my money to get into property and get it again.

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And that's what I did, my dad being the guy that he is.

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He spotted some of my properties around the town that had gone bankrupt and just the government was just selling them up for peanuts.

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So I was able to pick up this property for nothing, absolutely nothing, and just work on, then build a house on.

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There was no mortgage.

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I didn't need to go and borrow money because of all the money I'd pull it in.

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It was just every week.

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I was able to just add something else onto it.

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And then, in this process too, I met another woman, got into another relationship there and things are going good.

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But we all have a deep yearning within in our heart, in our solar plexus.

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We all have a feeling and internal compass that tells us that we need to expand, that we need to go in a different direction, and the needle on that compass always points through north and the needle is fear.

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Now there's two fears there's a primary fear of death and it's a secondary fear of growth.

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Everything we want is on the other side of that fear.

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I had a good life, but the problem was it was an easy life.

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Then it was a comfortable life.

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Now I had reached my plateau because I wasn't utilizing all of my abilities, I wasn't actually really expanding beyond my comfort zone, I wasn't growing anymore.

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I wasn't actually really helping anybody.

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I was not filling my life's calling, being blessed to be born here on this planet.

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So then it all started again.

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The depression all came back, the anxiety, the angst and then the drinking just kicked up, and then the drug taking, all that shit and all this increases to the height and bandage that pain and was sober.

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But the pain was still there because I was still living a comfortable life and it just led me to bring some energy to me.

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It really led me to the saddest and worst of being in my life because I'd now made it.

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I was debt-free, I'd built this house.

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I had a relationship and then I sold the house.

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I didn't know any money on it.

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Then I had all this money.

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I had all of my time back.

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Fantastic, I finally made it and then now I was empty.

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I was worse than what I was before.

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I felt worse than what I did when I first worked at 10 years, 12 years earlier.

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But I got myself into that mess because then now what I was lost.

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But the beauty is it's only when you're lost when you can actually really start to find yourself, because you let go of all the identities, let go of everything you attach to all your pride, all your ego, all of your grandiosity, all of your so-called perceived status, all of your elevation.

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It all disappears and you're left with just that pain.

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That's all you're left with.

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So that started the second journey, the second hero's journey, which was I've got to leave everything behind.

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Now.

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I've got to leave behind the old life.

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I had to leave behind my family, the comfortable job, sold it all and I had to leave.

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And that's how I ended up where I am now and again, that threshold is fear.

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You have to accept that call, whatever it is.

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It's gonna be scary, it's gonna be terrifying.

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But guess what?

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If you don't do it, you're gonna die with regret.

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And I'll tell you right now there's no other pain greater than regret.

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I know that because I felt regret my whole life, and I think we all do, because we all know in our hearts where we're supposed to go, know what direction we're supposed to go, but we deny it and that's all.

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We have the pain because we're denying ourselves.

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So you said the pain was like speaking to you, right, and basically you're telling me that the pain was telling you that you need to leave everything behind.

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Is that what you're?

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Is that basically what it was telling you?

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Because I'm trying to get this conversation in my head going.

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You get a great relationship, you get a job that's paying you money, but there's something you're.

00:28:23.759 --> 00:28:25.499
What I'm hearing is something's missing.

00:28:25.499 --> 00:28:27.183
That's right, something's missing.

00:28:27.183 --> 00:28:31.579
Yeah, you became a minimalist, so you didn't really have any assets.

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You had the assets you had.

00:28:33.621 --> 00:28:35.140
You had cash, is what it sounded like.

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So you have this pain that's talking to you and you decide to move to the Gold Coast, or Gold Coast right, this is what happens.

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What makes you pick that location and what?

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What did you think you were going to do?

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Here's the thing is that we all want power, right.

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We all want to be wise and powerful, we all want status, we all want to be strong, and that's what we're supposed to be.

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We're supposed to be strong In the heart.

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We can feel it in our solar plexus, in our heart.

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That's where our sense of self-worth lies, energetically and spiritually.

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Cry, that's what I've called solar plexus.

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I could feel that.

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All of these things right.

00:29:18.954 --> 00:29:22.656
The call of my conscience was telling me that you need to go.

00:29:22.656 --> 00:29:23.981
You're meant for so much more.

00:29:23.981 --> 00:29:26.402
You have to leave behind the world of the known.

00:29:26.402 --> 00:29:30.722
It's archetypal's hero journey In my story is your story.

00:29:30.722 --> 00:29:33.242
It's all of our stories, every single one of us.

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It's the path, initiation, to go through the threshold to discovery, to discover higher consciousness.

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So I can choose.

00:29:43.498 --> 00:29:55.480
The Gold Ghost chose me, because that feeling, that sensation, it's hard for us to pick up on and it's hard for us to know what it's saying, because it speaks a different language, a deeper language, a deeper truth.

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We're stuck in the rational world of intellect Rational and intellect is a beautiful thing, but it has its limits and it is also derived from our primal instinct, primal intuition.

00:30:09.819 --> 00:30:19.880
It is derived before there was rationale, there was intuition and the thing with it is we rationally wanna know the whole story, wanna know all the steps.

00:30:19.880 --> 00:30:23.102
That just puts us in the future or the past.

00:30:23.102 --> 00:30:24.479
It's unnecessary.

00:30:24.479 --> 00:30:26.701
Step number 10 isn't necessary.

00:30:26.701 --> 00:30:36.279
Step number one is what we need to worry about and that's why our intuition is hard for us to obey, because it doesn't give us step number two or three, it only gives us one.

00:30:36.279 --> 00:30:44.136
It only gives us one step at a time because it's smarter, knows that that's what all that needs to be happening Right now.

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You need to be present and take that present action now.

00:30:47.383 --> 00:30:49.702
Take that one step, take that next step.

00:30:51.115 --> 00:30:52.981
So how does this tie back into the story?

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I just knew I had to go.

00:30:54.439 --> 00:30:58.357
I packed everything back into my youth, went to drive out of town.

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My youth blew up.

00:31:00.403 --> 00:31:03.463
Day I went to leave, my youth blew up.

00:31:03.463 --> 00:31:04.579
So I was stuck in town.

00:31:04.579 --> 00:31:05.377
I couldn't leave.

00:31:05.377 --> 00:31:10.280
So I wasn't home anymore with the girl or the family, or with the pets or the family.

00:31:10.280 --> 00:31:11.419
I was staying up with my mates.

00:31:11.419 --> 00:31:12.494
So I'm stuck here Now.

00:31:12.494 --> 00:31:13.338
I'm staying to myself.

00:31:13.338 --> 00:31:17.303
Is this a test or is this a sign?

00:31:17.303 --> 00:31:28.316
Is this a sign that I should stay here, should go back to this comfortable life, or is this a test of really consolidating what you really know?

00:31:28.744 --> 00:31:36.373
Because what I was going to do, I was just going to get my youth and drive out into the desert and just run away, just go on high and look out on some spiritual trek.

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