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And welcome back to another episode of Life Changing Challengers.
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Again, I'm your host, brad Minus, and I am extremely lucky.
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You have no idea how lucky I am to have Kim Rahir with us and she is in Spain, so this is an incredible honor for me, definitely.
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So anyway, kim, how are you doing today?
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I'm great.
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In Spain it's very hot these days, so after 2 pm you try not to move and stay inside.
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Well, I live in Tampa Florida, so I hear you.
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So Kim is a house coach and she's also a champion weightlifter and we're going to get into that real quick.
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But first, as I ask all my guests, kim, can you tell us a little bit about your childhood, where you grew up, the complement of your family, and what was it like to be Kim as a kid?
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Yeah, so I'm a northern German.
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I'm actually very proud of coming from the north.
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My grandfather was a fisherman, my great-grandfather was a fisherman.
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I was born and grew up in Bremen, which is not like a sea town but still very close to the sea.
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Bremen's trade tradition, everything, it all has this maritime context.
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I have an older brother and I grew up in a suburb of Bremen and I loved to play sports.
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I was actually a gymnast, became a gymnast when I was eight.
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For a few years I was very smart in school, which turned out to become at some point a little bit disturbing because I was always told to shut up and I also thought of myself at the time because of the feedback that I was getting that I was quite impertinent and cheeky because, well, apparently I didn't shut my mouth, or maybe not enough, I don't know, but I felt okay with that, like as a child it was still okay.
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As I became a teenager turned out that I was very smart but I was not very tall.
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I mean, now I live in Spain and most women are shorter than me, but I grew up in Germany where everybody was tall and at some point I even played volleyball and I was like the shortest in the group and people made fun of me and so I grew up thinking that I was smart but short and fit.
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But I never looked my age, which at some point you come back with a vengeance where you don't look your age.
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But at the time it was a bit stressful and we used to my family, we used to drive north on the weekends, take a sailboat and go out on the sea, so that's like a theme in my life.
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Nice, can I?
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Germany has a reputation for food.
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Not necessarily is it a spicy, not necessarily is it bland.
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It's got a very.
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What type of foods did you end up eating growing up?
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Well, this is a good question.
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My dad, when I think it was at the beginning of the 70s, so I was just about seven or eight, he had a quite dangerous form of hepatitis spent weeks in the hospital.
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My mom looked into food, into nutrition, how she had to feed him, and she then became a health food fanatic and a vegetarian.
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Health food fanatic and a vegetarian.
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So we were eating whole grain stuff when most people didn't even know what it was Like whole grain bread and whole grain pasta and raw vegetables until the cows came home, so anything.
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There was hardly ever any sugar.
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That was when I went out with friends or to friends' houses.
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I could have sweets.
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It was pretty, pretty strict and I mean my mom tried to make like really tasty vegetarian dishes but I was not really very much into eating for pleasure, it was eating for health.
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Interesting that is.
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Yeah, in the 70s that was not heard of, at least here in America.
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We were just starting our SAD, the Standard American Diet.
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Things were just starting to get supersized and all that other great stuff.
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So just because I'm curious, because so growing up in the 70s and you were a gymnast, so were you a fan of, like, Nadia Komanić?
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Absolutely she was my hero.
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I don't know.
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Do you remember Olga Korbut?
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I couldn't remember Korbut, but I remembered Olga.
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Yeah, of course they were our heroes.
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We loved them.
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And whenever there were like Olympic Games, we'd be glued to the television Absolutely.
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When the Olympics were there, every four years, that's what was on the television, no matter what it was.
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A lot of it was whether it was gymnastics, or in the winter it was figure skating, or it was track and the decathlon.
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Those were things that were always on the television during those two weeks.
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So every four years was like it was a celebration in my house and gymnastics was something that we followed and I remember that.
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I, I totally remember, because it said 1.0 on scoreboard because the scoreboard wasn't made for it.
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It was such a big moment it's, and you're witnessing it and you know something special is happening, but you don't realize that this is like big history going on and you're there to watch the happening.
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Yeah, that was.
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We love those girls.
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Great, yeah, Okay, good, I was just like.
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I didn't know if it was well, Olga Korver was from Russia when Nadia Komanić was from Romania.
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I didn't know if there was a like when you were growing up, if there was any kind of rivalry there, especially since you were a gymnast.
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I didn't know, but that's why I was curious, that's why I had to know.
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I just had to figure it out.
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But that's great.
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So, so in secondary.
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So you went to secondary school, right?
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What was that like in Germany for you?
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It was very short.
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I'm going to tell you the full truth.
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I skipped a grade and I skipped a grade and I still had no struggles.
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And then there was another thing where you could get your A-levels half a year early if you're prepared by yourself.
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I did that too, so I finished everything one and a half years in advance.
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I was always thinking and this is something that I don't believe in anymore today I thought at the time oh, if I can just get ahead, get ahead like, be faster, start everything faster.
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Then I don't know what I thought I would be getting to or what was going to happen, but I thought, yeah, let's do this as fast as possible, Not really focusing on the process, but life taught me how to do that later.
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So with that speed that you were going at, how were your grades?
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Because you're obviously very smart.
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My grades were I don't know how to translate that to US numbers.
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Oh, true it was like 100%.
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Really, my any levels was a 100%.
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Yeah, nice.
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I don't feel so good, I feel like I'm bragging, but it's just the truth.
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No, so a lot of people.
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It's hurry up right and you were very speedy on getting yourself, so obviously sometimes trying to get it done.
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A lot of times in my case, that means that, okay, I'm suffering, I'm going to sacrifice an A for a B in order for me to get through, but you didn't.
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That's amazing.
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Where did you go to university?
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I went to Bonn, which was the capital at the time, the temporary capital that had after the Second World War and nobody thought it was ever going to change at the time.
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And I went to Bonn and I picked my course from the catalog.
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I just went through it and thought, what do I like?
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And I picked political science because it had all the things that I was curious about.
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And then I matched that they had to have two more subjects and I took history because I love history.
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And then I took French because I thought my English was okay but I wanted to improve my French.
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But picking French like French philology at uni, I could tell you is not the best way to learn a language.
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I can imagine Just real quick.
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Was it a required course in secondary school to take English?
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Yes.
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Okay, and that's still going on today, right?
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Yes, absolutely.
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And I remember that my brother and my mom had a fight because my mom insisted that we took two languages and I also took French in school I just thought it was not quite as evolved as my English and my brother, he didn't want to take French, he hated it, and he somehow managed to switch it for, I think, computer science or something.
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And my mom was very upset and said oh, I have a diploma without a second language.
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Foreign language is not a diploma.
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And there was a big fight going on.
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Oh, wow, yeah, that must be something.
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So you actually I don't know how much after you graduated from university, but you actually were a journalist for a long time, weren't you?
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Yes, yes, I graduated, I think I did a master's in five years.
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At the time that was normal.
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You did eight semesters, which is four years, and then you had one year for your dissertation.
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Then I did a PhD, still in political science, and when I finished that I started work at a news agency in Bonn which somehow I stumbled upon that job through friends which was the German desk of a news agency from France, from Agence France-Presse.
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Oh wow, that's crazy.
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What was your specialty?
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Political science, probably, right.
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In a news agency, you have to do everything.
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Oh really.
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You have to do absolutely everything.
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Yes, because they cover everything and you have shifts, and there are shifts when you are responsible for the whole world and everything that comes up, it pops onto your screen and then you say, oh, is this important for Germany?
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Okay, we'll take it.
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Is this important for Germany, for German clients?
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Is that enough?
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We don't need that.
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And so it could be economy, it could be society, it could be like fun stuff.
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The only thing we didn't do at that desk was sports.
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What An ex-gymnast can't cover sports.
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Isn't that unfair?
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You know what?
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I don't know about the situation now at all, because I'm so far away from media and from Germany, but at the time there was a specialized news agency for sports just sports and they were like gold standard.
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There was no way anybody could have messed with them, so there was no point in spending resources on that.
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So how long did you remain at that desk?
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It was from 1990 to 1995.
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And then I got married to a colleague who worked in Paris and we got to know each other over the phone colleague who worked in paris and we got to know each other over the phone.
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Okay, that's interesting.
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Right 1995 was like.
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Now we're just starting the dot coms they're yeah, just in the beginning, and all the bbs boards and all that stuff that was started to become news and where the yahoo and all that people were making like billions of dollars, it was crazy.
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So there was no.
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There was no online dating or there was no teams or any like a facetime or anything like that or anything like this, like what we're doing right now.
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At the time so you made sure that you were, that you got to know each other over the phone.
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That's a lot of time.
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Well, we had to work.
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I mean, I had to pester him because there were always special needs for the German service.
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So I had to call Paris and say, could you send this paper a little bit sooner, and stuff like this.
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And then we got to talk and I think we met, also for work reasons, and then I think we went on dates like twice and then we got married.
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What I'm not making this up, it's the truth.
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And you're still married.
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Yes, that's incredible.
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I think it's crazy and reckless of my daughter way to do that.
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I would probably be very nervous, but yeah.
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Yeah, but I mean you're talking about most of your conversations were on the phone, no-transcript does it just doesn't happen.
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You know what I mean.
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Now the people are meeting on these, on these dating sites, and they're only lasting like a few years and it's half at least here in america, it's a 50, you know I think it's the same in western europe.
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It's.
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I think it's for relationships.
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It's the same as for everything that we do.
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We're're just totally over flooded with stimuli.
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We have so much choice all the time.
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Our brain is not really made for this and that's also why people are always seeking new thrills and going for drugs or binging TV shows, whatever it is.
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There's just so much on offer and our brain is built like this.
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It wants to go for stuff, for new stuff and interesting stuff, and then, if there is so much to be had, then it will most of the time go, try, get it, and I don't think it serves us.
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It doesn't serve our happiness, but that's how the world is, and I feel quite grateful to have lived in a non-digital world for a while.
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It's hard to imagine how we did things, but we did right.
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Oh, exactly, listen.
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I used to be a residential appraiser and that's how I made money through college and I had to read a map to get to the different places.
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And you give a map to somebody.
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Now they have no idea what it is or how to use it.
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If you can't GPS it, you're done.
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With the map you've got a real feel for the place and you really learn the place.
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I've been in Madrid for 10 years and I still rely on GPS for quite a few trips, because I've never really internalized the layout of the city, because I was never forced to.
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Before that, before digital times, you would take the map and then you would look at the street and then you walk down it and think, oh, this looks different.
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But somehow it inscribed itself into your brain too and next time you would know.
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Exactly when you used a map.
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You knew where to go the next time.
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But now at GPS, we just turn off our brains and just let GPS do what it's going to do, and you get there and that's it.
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And if you want to go back, you just put it back into the GPS and don't necessarily remember.
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Yeah, so that's interesting as well.
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So in 1995, you got married and, did you like, start to live together.
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Yes, I left my job and we moved to Dubai.
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You moved to Dubai.
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We did Before.
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It was fashionable.
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Yeah, yeah, what was that like?
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What was Dubai like in 1995?
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I always called it like a big, glitzy shopping mall in the desert.
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Okay, because there's no landscape-wise there's nothing.
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It really is like the desert.
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The climate is extremely harsh because it's very hot and super humid.
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Everybody thinks, oh, it's the desert, must be dry, because that's what we think.
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Well, it's on the water.
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It's extremely humid and even at the time, the people who were there to make money, which makes for a weird vibe in the society I mean, we were journalists.
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I mean I started freelancing, my husband was assigned there.
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So you come with a different perspective.
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You just watch and look for stories and you're an observer.
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But most people were there to make money and I mean, bless them, Of course you would, but it made for a very weird vibe and there was hardly any culture.
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You couldn't watch movies.
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I mean you could go to the cinema, but if there was something in the movie that was even remotely offensive, they would chop it out.
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So we watched movies and never understood what was going on, because parts were missing.
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Right.
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Oh man, they censored the movies for you.
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That's wonderful.
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So how long were you in Dubai For?
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Four years, four years, yeah, it doesn't sound like the best four years of your life.
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I can't say that it was quite exciting.
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I don't want to sound so.
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It's just that everybody says oh, Dubai, what we did?
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Because we were Germans.
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We traveled, I went, I got to see Saudi Arabia, I went to Iraq twice under Saddam Hussein, which is a.
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I mean, that was an experience If you've ever.
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I don't even know how to describe it, except that, like you can feel fear in the air so thick that you think you can cut through it, and the feeling of crossing the border and leaving Iraq is one of the best feelings I've ever had in my life.
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At the time.
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I actually know that feeling.
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I was there and, yeah, I agree wholeheartedly the people.
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When he finally fell, there was a relief in the air, except that there also was a.
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There was a fear, because they just thought that he could just be replaced with somebody.
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That was either that somebody could be worse, but let's leave that alone, but that's OK.
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So Dubai was like your gateway you were able to get around and see a lot of other things.
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That's fantastic.
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And so, after four years, where did you, where did you move?
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We moved back to Paris, which is headquarters for my husband's company, and we stayed for nine months, and then we moved to Vienna and at the end of Dubai, our first child was born, by the way, in Dubai.
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Oh, that's amazing.
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So then you moved to Vienna.
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Well, you're a little closer to home.
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Yes A little, a little closer right.
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I was in Vienna.
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I loved Vienna.
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Vienna is fantastic, yeah.
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Yeah, that was great.
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That was great, did you enjoy?
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that Absolutely.
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I had two more kids, which sort of keeps you busy.
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But Austria is just you take the car three hours, you're in the Alps, you're in the most spectacular mountain range that Europe has to offer.
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It's beautiful.
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It's beautiful, it's well conserved.
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They realized this sort of green ecological trend much before anybody else.
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It's because they had like a huge scandal with how do you call this with wine.
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They put they had, so they had cut the wine with something.
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They had spiked the wine, I think.
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I don't know how you call it.
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So they had to reinvent themselves and they did, and it was beautiful at the time and it's green the landscape, everything.
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You can go to wonderful places.
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That was a great time.
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I spent some time in Kitzbühel, and I love Kitzbühel.
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Oh my God, it was fantastic.
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So how long were you in Vienna?
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Four years.
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It sounds like a military day.