Breaking Free from Emotional Eating and Overcoming Type 2 Diabetes with Belldon Colme

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And welcome back to another episode of Life Changing Challengers.

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I am extremely excited to talk to Mr Belden Colm today.

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He is an author, he's a health coach, he's a speaker and he has a journey that is probably pretty close to a lot of other journeys out there, but he had an uncommon way of getting over it, just like most of the other episodes that we've had so far.

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So, Belden, how are you today?

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Fantastic, Brett, and thanks for having me.

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I appreciate it.

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Oh no, I am very honored to have you on the show.

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So, as I ask every single one of them, Belden, can you tell us a little bit about your childhood, like where you grew up and what was the complement of your family and what was it like to be Belden as a kid?

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That's funny because when you were prepping me for this, you said maybe there's other people out there like you that will connect.

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And my first thought was oh my God, help their mom, if there is.

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When I was growing up, daredevils were a thing, and the daredevil of the time was Evel Knievel.

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Evel Knievel Evel was my god, so much so that by the time I was seven years old, that was my alter ego.

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I was Evel Knievel, and back in those days I lived out in the country.

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We didn't buy bicycles.

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We went and we got scraps out of dumpsters and we put the parts and pieces together into whatever contraption we came up with in our head.

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And every thought I had when I would put a bike together was is this going to get me higher?

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Is this going to get me farther?

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Because I would jump those things like crazy.

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And it was my alter ego.

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If you will, I'm the only boy in a family of nine and that means, if you use a map, I've got six sisters.

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I grew up in a house with one bathroom.

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I have no idea what it looked like on the inside, but I can give you details about the current Barry Bush.

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That was my bathroom home out there.

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And this was life growing up right, and it was back in the days when, as long as you were home for dinner, nobody really worried where you are.

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So my day was building ramps, finding things that I could jump over to, using rocks as ramps and doing evil to the point where my cousin and I would even go so far as to be evil going home at the end of the day with our wife and family, and what would Evel do in this environment.

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It was a lot of fun, but it also set me up for a lot of success, both early on and more recently, because it gave me a different mindset.

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It gave me a mindset of if you want to do it, you're not afraid of it.

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You just go do it, you're not afraid of it.

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You just go do it and you figure it out, and if it doesn't work the first time like Caesar's Palace you do it again and you figure out how to make it work.

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So it gave me a really unique perspective.

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My childhood was also marked by one other thing, though, and it's important to what you're going to talk to me about as we go through this, and that's the home.

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Life changed when I was in that just immediate pre-10 and post-10 area, and by that things got expensive.

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We lived on 10 acres that my dad paid $50 a month for when I was a kid and things started becoming expensive.

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The world started changing through there, and that's the period of time in late 70s into the early 80s when more and more moms entered the workplace.

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And I'm not trying to make a political statement about that, that's not the point.

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What the point is that the way we ate changed.

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The way we ate changed a lot.

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And instead of having a garden in the backyard that mom would pull stuff out of and can and put up for the winter, and all the things that we did.

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When I was little, we started having tv dinners.

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If you remember those things, you could even hungry man gray, you remember those, yeah.

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And for the first time not only were we eating junk food on a regular basis, but we had all the accoutrements to very easily go eat junk food in front of the TV.

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And so many things changed right then.

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And it was an important defining part of my youth, because that is when I started gaining weight.

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That's when I started getting a body I wasn't really proud of anymore and always wanting to wear my shirt and not get into the pool.

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That's when I started watching people in my class start to grow.

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Until by the time I graduated high school, a significant portion of my high school class was overweight.

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By the time I graduated college, we were obese.

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So my childhood was amazing in so many ways, but also marked by a very significant change in what was going on in the world.

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I can imagine.

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So, before your mom entered the workplace, did you have dinner time with you and six girls and mom and dad at the table?

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Yes, oh my God, that must have been a heck of a table.

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And when they tell you that if women live together, they all line up.

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And yet that's absolutely the God's truth.

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I can attest to that.

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And there were days when my dad would say you come, we're going fishing, we'll come back in three days I can't even imagine.

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I'm an only child so I literally cannot imagine, but that just must have been a heck of a thing to be around.

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Oh wow, I just can't even imagine it.

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But yeah, I could see how that it's like yeah, go outside and play, hey evil, go out and jump on some ramps because you don't want to be in here, oh no.

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So when your mom went into the workforce, what did she do?

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machine sales.

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My model is a very good seamstress.

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It was something that she enjoyed and it was easy for her to do and easy to to break into.

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So she got into that and that also meant odd hours.

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Anytime you're in sales you're not nine five, especially if you're the new kid on the block right.

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So when she went into this it meant odd hours.

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It meant we came home from school and we were the early versions of latchkey kids coming home, finding the key under the potted plant coming in.

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A lot of times there was an elf that said here's where to find dinner, here's what dinner is, and it was again something convenient.

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I don't believe for a minute that moms knew back then what this new kind of food was going to do to the health of our nation.

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I don't believe it for a second.

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At the time it was convenience that mattered, and so we'd come home and we'd have something that we could pull out of the freezer.

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Not every night, don't get me wrong.

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My mom still tried to be home when she could.

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My dad got home on the mid evening.

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But yeah, it was just a change.

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Yeah, I hear that my mother was an executive secretary so she kept regular hours, but then she went back to school and everything else.

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So I did find later on that while she used to cook every night, that was the thing Got up, made me breakfast, went to work, came home, made dinner, then did the dishes and that was that and then she went back to school and it was just like you had mentioned, mentioned now.

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All of a sudden, three, four days a week, it was all right, we're just going to stop at McDonald's on the way home.

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And of course, at the time I was all for it.

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I'm like, yeah, right, exactly, give me the happy meal, give me the toy, I'm good to go.

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And then it just became monotonous and to the point where, even as a kid, I did not want McDonald's anymore.

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I wanted mom to cook.

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So I get it, I get it.

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So you, you had this wonderful childhood and then got to be preteen.

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You started realizing that you were growing a little bit.

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You started seeing themselves going through that and then you said you went to school.

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Where'd you go to school?

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University, yeah, my first tour through university was central washington in the upper yakima valley and studied electronics technology of all things.

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Got out and worked for about a year, hated it.

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I was doing the same thing every day, didn't like it at all.

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So, like so many people, I abandoned the degree and I went into home building.

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And got into home building as a customer service agent which, by the way, if you're going to do something new, customer service is the place to start, because you learn immediately everything that's wrong with the industry, everything that everybody does wrong ahead of you, so that when you move up through the ranks, hopefully you don't forget that and you can change along the way.

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But I love construction.

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I love everything about it.

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So I stayed in that field and I started growing until I created my own.

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I say created because all the way through I was watching this weird dichotomy in construction where either you bought a cookie cutter house at a reasonable price yes, once upon a time houses were a reasonable price.

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I know we don't see that anymore, but you could buy a cookie cutter house at a reasonable price or you could buy a house made just the way you want it and you're going to pay through the nose for it.

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It would be ridiculously expensive and as I was going through, I never understood why there was no middle ground, why you couldn't build a custom home at a near production home price.

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If you got that buyer to buy into the idea of making all their decisions up front, letting you build the house without any change orders, then they could get a customer in your custom home at a price that wasn't very far above production.

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So that's how I built my company and it introduced me to something that still serves me to this day, and that's that I really loveping people go through a difficult process in a simple way and sitting down and not just leaving them bewildered and wondering what to do, but walk them through the process in a simple to understand way so that they understood we need to do these things now.

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Then we're going to put it in your hands, we're going to let you do what you do, we're going to come back and we're going to walk into a home unlike anybody else's that's uniquely ours, and to walk them through all the ins and outs of doing that.

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I love helping people in that way and making complex things really simple, and that serves me right to this day.

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That's yeah, that's amazing and I, I well, through a long process I ended up like what you.

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I ended up in IT as a way to make money, basically and yeah, and as a, and administrators said, and all that, and then be able to transpose that to talk to the execs and pitch that in a way that would spell money.

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But that was the thing.

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So I get it.

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I totally get it now because that was basically my job.

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I need to dumb down what the developers said so that the execs could understand and make a decision.

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So the other way around was easy back to the developers that was simple, but back to the execs was a whole different story.

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So isn't it strange?

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Isn't it strange we never have to dumb down with the execs, say it just already starts there yeah, exactly, exactly so.

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Oh, wow, all right.

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So how long did you end up?

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How long do you still have your company?

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of time, right before 2008.

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So my health, which I'll talk about in just a second, started coming unraveled in 2004 to 2006.

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And I was changing everything about what I want to do in this world, the mark I want to make, how I want to help people.

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So when the economy in 2008 flipped and small builders were going out of business right, left and upside down because of the moratorium on building loans, when that happened, it was just a really good time for me to switch and to start doing what I do today, and helping people with my health is.

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My business was all but gone before that because in 2004 I had my first of three heart attacks.

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My entire health seat fell apart to where I wasn't even able to keep up the business and keep working anymore.

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So the the switch, the timing, did what the timing did.

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Right right, but in 2004, I've been working construction for 25 years almost just shy of 25 years and I loved it.

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I loved everything about it.

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But the truth of the matter is, like so many businesses, there's a food culture in construction, like there's a food culture in so many businesses, and when you're doing residential construction, you do contracts at beer 30 somewhere.

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You do the next day schedules around the taco truck at lunchtime.

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If you're somebody in the company other than just a worker bee, you're probably going to be working there until 6.30, 7.00, 7.30 every night.

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So you're eating whatever you can find conveniently on the way home and that's the life you live, and you don't give it a second thought.

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That's just the way it is, and you don't give it a second thought, even though you're watching things happen in your body, or at least that was that.

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I didn't like.

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I watched myself get larger and larger.

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Even worse than that, I felt myself getting more and more lethargic.

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Until when they talk about power through, I really had the power through a day.

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It was all I could do to get through a day, and then I'd get home and my kids would want my attention and I just didn't have anything left.

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Yeah, so my family was suffering for it, and this all came to a culmination one fine day in 2004 when I woke up on my kitchen floor and had no idea where I was.

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I was looking at the toe kick underneath toe kick in the kitchen cabinets.

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I didn't immediately know where I was.

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When I woke up, I could hear things happening, but I couldn't hear words.

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I couldn't make out who people were.

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I was covered with wires and I didn't know why I was wet and I didn't know why.

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This was the funniest thing, because I'm sitting there in the midst of all of this and, as opposed to being afraid of what's going on, my biggest fear was that I might have peed myself and there were people poking and prodding me.

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I didn't want to think I might have peed myself.

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Now, just so you know, it was a coffee carafe that broke when I fell.

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Okay, so we're okay here, but it was funny.

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Later, when I'm thinking this was my, that was.

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It was state of confusion.

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But as I started coming to more and more, I realized that I'm surrounded by paramedics, they're putting me on a gurney, I'm all wired up to ekg machines and everything that they're doing to monitor me, and I'm on the way to the hospital.

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That was my first heart attack and I had two that followed that and on the one hand, it was a wake-up call for me, but on the other hand, it wasn't like I wasn't trying to do anything to prevent that.

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Right, I was doing the diets, I was doing the gym, I was doing the stuff and I was still getting bigger and bigger and clearly I was getting sicker and sicker too.

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I was 39 years old when this happened, so into the hospital Go ahead, I can see you.

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Yeah, no, I'm just saying so.

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All right, let's step back here so for a minute before the heart attack, because you just said that you were trying to prevent it.

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At what point before then did you decide that, hey, I don't like what I look in the mirror, I need to do something about it.

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And what were those first steps?

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So I want to be really clear about this, because how I felt is important, because it's how I've discovered almost everybody feels right.

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I wasn't overtly worried about it.

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My blood pressure was high.

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I got drugs for that.

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I got drugs to bring my blood pressure.

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I'm fine.

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My doctor told me I'm fine, I got the drugs right.

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My cholesterol was high I got the drugs for that.

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So, although I was being kept in the normal range artificially, that wasn't the way my brain was working.

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The way my brain was working was my doctor said you're good, I'm good, so I've got these things.

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I don't like I was 105 pounds overweight at the time.

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I didn't like being 105 pounds overweight.

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It meant I'd wake up in the middle of the night with acid reflux.

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Sometimes I was choking on to the point I thought I was maybe not going to make it through it.

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You wake up with a throat full of this stuff.

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I didn't like that.

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I didn't like the fact that I couldn't tie my shoes without really sucking my gut in and just holding my breath.

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I couldn't breathe while I was tying my shoes.

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I didn't like how I looked.

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I didn't like all of these things, but I wasn't overtly afraid of anything I should have been when I look back on it, but I wasn't.

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My doctor was telling me I was okay.

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So what I was working on was I don't like looking like this.

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I don't like the fact that I don't have the mobility I want.

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I don't like the fact that I'm fatigued all the time.

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How do I fix these things, which was entirely the wrong thing to be trying to fix.

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But that's what I was trying to fix, right, fatigue health and I wanted more mobility.

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So when I say I was working on things and I wasn't doing nothing, I was trying to do things.

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That's what I was working on, but, like almost everybody I've learned with an heart attack right there on the horizon, never crossed my mind.

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It wasn't something that I thought about.

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I was on a show the other day and the host asked me he's like Belda if you could go back in time and do it again and you're before that heart attack.

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And he did say you don't know what you know today.

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All you knew was you could live a better life.

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Would you have done anything different?

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And I said the sad truth is probably not, because we tend to not think about things like this until it's too late, which is why the message from people like the message is so important.

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Think about it now.

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Because I live, that's because I'm evil can evil?

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Not everybody can go off the ramp, break every bone in their body and live right.

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I live, but too many people don't.

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And by the time you wait till that worm, it's just too late many people don't, and by the time you wait till that worm, it's just too late.

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Yeah, I've brought people onto my roster just like that.

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You know that.

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But unfortunately it's come afterwards, just like you, right, and which is why I do what I do now.

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This is why we have this.

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We have this platform, you and me, you and I both.

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We have this platform so people can learn from our mistakes, learn from our clients' mistakes, and we learn as coaches that there's these things that work or what doesn't.

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What are the West, what's the Western medicine that is essential and the Eastern medicine that will help.

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Right, and that's how I do it, cause it just seems like right to me.

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Western medicine is let's talk about the symptom, let's see if we can cure the symptom.

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Eastern medicine is holistically we look at the whole body holistically Right, and I think it's important to notice, though, along with what you're saying, because that's absolutely true, but along with that, you hear a lot of dichotomy and conversation between the people who are going to do everything my doctor tells me, and the people would say I don't trust anything.

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My doctor tells me Right, and we need to get more centered on that, because I'm alive today because of Western medicine and what those doctors were able to do when I went into the ER.

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Without that, I wouldn't have ever had the opportunity to learn how to heal my body in a better way.

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So Western medicine kept me alive, and we need what we're learning and we need to continue learning in Western medicine.

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Child mortality is almost zero in our country because of Western medicine.

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We also need to know where the limitations of it are and where we need to be taking responsibility, to do for ourselves and to support our body in the way it needs to be supported.

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That's exactly the point, and I think one of those things is being present with your doctor.

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Work with your doctor.

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Make sure your doctor works with you, not for you.

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In other words, you mentioned cholesterol and your doctor says, okay, well, your cholesterol is high, I got to put you on a statin.

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Okay, great doc, I appreciate that you're going to put me on a statin to get my cholesterol down now.

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Now can you help me learn what to do to get me off of that statin?

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That statin is temporary.

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I want you to make it temporary.

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I want you to teach me, or where can I go to find the resources to get off the statin so I don't need to take it anymore?

00:22:11.596 --> 00:22:12.979
Great, we'll take care of it.

00:22:12.979 --> 00:22:15.691
Now, same thing with sinapril high blood pressure.

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All right, tell me how to get off of it.

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I do this with some of my clients.

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When they and this is something as small as orthotics, right, because it's in my belief as a coach right they go in oh, I got this issue with my foot.

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I got plantar fasciitis.

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I went to the podiatrist and he fit me for orthotics and I'm like you need to talk to the podiatrist and you say, okay, what's going on with my foot.

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What can I do to strengthen the point where I don't need these orthotics?

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Because the orthotics is $400.

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You got to drop $400 every six, seven months because they wear out right, because you're wearing them all the time and I'm like, no, they don't fix the problem right, it's the bandaid right, and when you know what, when we heal, we take the bandaid off.

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Same thing has got to be done here, and that's what I believe.

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Anyway, we can go on about that like forever.

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You and I could probably have conversations yes, we could 10 friggin' podcasts, but let's talk about so.

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You had the first heart attack and you were already on blood pressure and cholesterol medicine at the time.

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So what did you make?

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Changes between the first and the second and third?

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So there was an evolution of things as time went along.

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There was an evolution both in.

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There was an evolution of my understanding of what was happening, because when I went in the first time and I'm talking to my cardiologist and I got introduced 21 new medications no lie, three, three, by the way for the heart disease, 18 to counter the side effects of the three.

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And so I've got this whole new handful of medications I got introduced to.

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But I also don't know any better.

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I'm a home builder, I'm not a doctor, so I really don't know better.

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And I take the medications.

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And he gave me an exercise program, very specific exercises to do.

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And he gave me an exercise program, very specific exercises to do.

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And he gave me the ratty excuse for diet Nutrition isn't what doctors do.

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But he introduced me to a nutritionist and said she's going to help you with what you need.

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So here I've got all my new medications, I've got my exercise plan, I've got my nutritionist to get my diet back on track.

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And this is what I know.

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This is my new rules.

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Now let me tell you there are people that I know.

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There are people who don't take these things seriously, don't take their medications the way they're supposed to, don't do the diet.

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I wasn't that person.

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I was 39 years old.

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I had a young family.

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I did not want to die and, if anything, I went over and above on doing the things that I needed to do in order to get my life back.

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And what I experienced was this I lost about 40, 45 pounds.

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I needed to lose 105.

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But 40 or 45 wasn't nothing.

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It was progress.

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But here's the thing I didn't feel any better.

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I didn't get any of my energy back.

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The need for medications wasn't going down.

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My markers weren't changing much.

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My blood pressure and my cholesterol were still great, but they were before because of the drugs.

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But I wasn't improving in any other way that I was losing some pounds and at about 40 or 45 pounds that bottomed out.

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I just didn't lose any more after that.

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After the second heart attack, I was told some new things.

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One was you're lucky you lived through the second one, especially that close to the first one, and don't have a third one, because you're probably not going to live through that one Right Now.

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I'm evil, freaking Knievel.

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So of course I had to have a third one just to be a rebel and see if I could do it and I did yes.

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But the thing is, after that second one I started realizing that what I was doing wasn't working.

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What I was doing wasn't making me better.

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And at this point I've got a shelf life.

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I'm 39 years old, I'm looking at 40 and I'm being told I've got five to 10 years left if I'm a good boy and do everything I'm supposed to.

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And that ain't cool.

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That's not what I want.

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So there's one day I remember sitting and looking into my coffee cup on the couch and the blackness of that coffee looked just like the black abyss of my life, if you know what I mean.

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And I'm sitting there staring into that thing and I'm feeling just I don't know the word.

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It's like desperate, discouraged, depressed.

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Everything, every d word, all shut into one right.

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And I'm sitting there on the couch wondering what on earth to do different than what I'm doing.

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And one thing came to me, and I don't know if this was the engineering of my background or what, but one thing came to me, and that's that we don't heal the body.

00:27:20.213 --> 00:27:22.198
We don't.

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Doctors don't heal your body, I can't heal your body.

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You can't heal your body.

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People who say they're a healer are a little bit inflated, and the reason I say that is because you go to the doctor when you break your arm.

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You will, you will did this 120 sometimes.

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Right, you go to the doctor because you break your arm.

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What does he do?

00:27:42.226 --> 00:27:43.886
He puts it straight.

00:27:43.886 --> 00:27:46.647
He puts a cast on it so it can't move.

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He puts a cast on it so it can't move, but does he heal that bone?

00:27:48.789 --> 00:27:50.730
No, not at all.

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That bone heals itself.

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And I started realizing, as I'm sitting there staring into this cup, that's how we work.

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If you get the flu, the doctor's going to give you something to mitigate the symptoms so that you can rest While what happens?

00:28:06.119 --> 00:28:11.103
Your own immune system goes to work and heals you of the flu.

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You get anything, and all a doctor does is mitigates the circumstance or the discomfort so that your body can heal itself.

00:28:21.525 --> 00:28:23.111
That's what medicine is all about.

00:28:24.826 --> 00:28:38.144
So if I could learn how my body worked and why it wasn't working, maybe there was something I could do to support it so that it could do that job faster, better, easier, successfully.

00:28:38.144 --> 00:28:39.827
Keep me alive would be good.

00:28:39.827 --> 00:28:51.865
And so I started diving down those rabbit holes, and some of this was classes in university, but I didn't have time to go and get a degree.

00:28:51.865 --> 00:29:00.171
I started diving down the rabbit holes, particularly of biochemistry and cellular biology, to see if I could learn how this works.

00:29:00.171 --> 00:29:10.959
And when I started discovering how this works, it took very little time to understand that nearly everything we've ever been told is complete and total BS.

00:29:12.246 --> 00:29:20.509
One of the first things that I learned was what metabolism is in the body, and I'd always been told, like everybody is.

00:29:20.509 --> 00:29:22.413
Your metabolism is a fat-burning furnace.

00:29:22.413 --> 00:29:23.194
It burns calories.

00:29:23.194 --> 00:29:32.928
Okay, I've got to get my metabolism working faster so that it burns fat more efficiently and it makes me healthier and thinner.

00:29:32.928 --> 00:29:38.269
But what I learned right away is that metabolism is two things and neither one of them have to do with burning calories.

00:29:38.269 --> 00:29:40.635
And it's fascinating.

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If you want to do some research, if you look up metabolism, you get 80 billion hits on the fat burning furnace.

00:29:45.997 --> 00:29:55.176
If you look up these next two words, you actually get a really in-depth understanding of how your metabolism works.

00:29:55.396 --> 00:29:58.890
One of those words is catabolism.

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Catabolism is the destructive side of your metabolism, it takes things apart.

00:30:03.439 --> 00:30:17.201
And anabolism this is the constructive or healing side of your metabolism that puts things together, and on a micro basis or a macro basis you might think of your food digesting.

00:30:17.201 --> 00:30:23.958
Catabolism takes your food apart and anabolism puts your food back together into the cells of your body.

00:30:23.958 --> 00:30:50.019
Now that right there and I'll make the connection, but that right there almost made my jaw hit the ground, because nowhere in any of my education was I prepared for the idea that I made out of the food that I eat Though my metabolism's not burning at all for energy, it's taking it apart and reassembling it back into me.

00:30:50.019 --> 00:30:57.078
Now part of that gets digested, goes to the liver, turns it into glucose and that goes into my body for energy.

00:30:58.026 --> 00:31:04.032
But that's a part of my food, the mass amount of my food, and it's like kind of a facepalm moment.

00:31:04.032 --> 00:31:06.424
It's like what do we think we're made out of right?

00:31:06.424 --> 00:31:08.316
We've got all this mass and it's constantly replacing.

00:31:08.316 --> 00:31:08.522
Do we think we're made out of right?

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We've got all this mass and it's constantly replacing itself and rebuilding itself.

00:31:10.874 --> 00:31:13.298
Where does all that raw material come from?

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The law of conservation of matter says it has to come from somewhere, and it's not my sheets, so it has to be the food I eat.

00:31:21.726 --> 00:31:32.009
And when I learned that, it changed everything, because then I'm going back to the builder me right, if you give me a bunch of boards that are filled with bugs and mold.

00:31:32.009 --> 00:31:41.866
I am more than happy to throw them on a burn pile and burn them, and we'll grab some marshmallows and hot dogs and have a cookout, but do you think I'm going to build a house out of them?

00:31:41.866 --> 00:31:42.729
No.

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No way.

00:31:43.871 --> 00:31:48.118
And yet here I'm taking all of this garbage food.

00:31:48.118 --> 00:31:55.612
And yet here I'm taking all of this garbage food, stuff that belongs on a burn pile somewhere, and I am building the house of my body out of garbage.

00:31:55.612 --> 00:32:04.740
And all this time my body's doing the best it can with what I'm giving it, but I'm not giving it what it needs to do the job.

00:32:04.740 --> 00:32:07.288
So I started turning this around right away.

00:32:07.288 --> 00:32:08.672
And that wasn't the only thing I learned.

00:32:08.672 --> 00:32:19.946
When I learned what energy is and how energy works and what ATP is it doesn't mean saying triphosphate and the fact that this is the energy not just of me, but of every living thing in the universe.

00:32:19.946 --> 00:32:22.973
This is the energy of amoebas, it's the energy of mold.

00:32:22.973 --> 00:32:43.957
And when I started learning how this is and how it works and how it is completely not dependent upon my food, and just more and more as I went down the learning of all of this, I realized I can support this, and I can support it by recognizing what we are.

00:32:43.957 --> 00:32:53.046
If I said, brad, everything happening inside of here is a series of chemical reactions and responses, true or false, yeah, it's true, true.

00:32:53.046 --> 00:33:01.575
And if I've recognized that and I lived by that, I had a good chance of being able to get my life back Now.

00:33:01.615 --> 00:33:03.398
Chemistry can seem really complicated.

00:33:03.398 --> 00:33:13.984
When I was in construction, I learned right away that civil engineers I'm pretty sure that this whole entire degree path was made to support people who slunked out of organic, organic chemistry.

00:33:13.984 --> 00:33:18.757
Organic chemistry is freaking hard, but it really comes down to three things.

00:33:18.757 --> 00:33:25.398
Chemistry is these three rules and if we just think about this we can change our life.

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Number one you have to get the right things in the beaker to get the reaction that you want.

00:33:29.954 --> 00:33:31.979
Makes sense, right.

00:33:31.979 --> 00:33:38.153
So we have to put the right food in our body, the right drink in our body, to get the reactions that we want.

00:33:38.153 --> 00:33:46.390
The second law of chemistry is we have to keep the wrong things out of the beaker because they pollute the reaction and we're not going to get the reaction that we want.

00:33:46.390 --> 00:34:00.217
Now that might seem like a no-brainer when you're looking at yourself as chemistry, but that is the most flouted law of chemistry in all of what we call nutrition today.

00:34:00.617 --> 00:34:03.185
We're told to put the wrong stuff in the beaker all the time.

00:34:03.185 --> 00:34:10.938
You put the right stuff in the beaker Sunday through Friday, and on Saturday you can have a cheat day and put whatever in the beaker you want.

00:34:10.938 --> 00:34:15.934
Well, that's not how chemistry works, is it Right?

00:34:15.934 --> 00:34:16.876
Right?

00:34:16.876 --> 00:34:24.251
Another great law is the law of gravity, which you just walk off the edge of the grand Canyon on Saturday, cause it's your cheap thing and you're going to float, right.

00:34:24.251 --> 00:34:29.992
And we tell ourselves give yourself grace.

00:34:29.992 --> 00:34:35.351
And it's funny that we don't say give yourself grace about that thing that you already ate.

00:34:35.351 --> 00:34:40.186
We future cast this give yourself grace, you're not perfect.

00:34:40.186 --> 00:34:43.673
You are going to eat things that you shouldn't.

00:34:43.673 --> 00:34:45.257
And what are you telling yourself?

00:34:45.257 --> 00:34:49.108
You're not run by physical laws.

00:34:49.108 --> 00:34:54.655
You can put stuff in your beaker and you'll be okay, even if it's their own stuff.

00:34:54.655 --> 00:35:00.340
We have all kinds of ways that we give ourselves permission to make the reactions in that beaker.

00:35:00.440 --> 00:35:11.007
Fail of chemistry is that the recipe matters.

00:35:11.007 --> 00:35:12.032
We have to get the right balance of things right.

00:35:12.032 --> 00:35:20.889
If you make a cake and you're dyslexic today and you put all the right things in the cake and none of the wrong things, but your dyslexia makes you put in two and a half cups of salt and a teaspoon of sugar, what's going to happen to that cake?

00:35:20.889 --> 00:35:25.599
The recipe matters In chemistry, the balance matters.

00:35:25.599 --> 00:35:35.469
So we have to get the right thing in and we get chemistry in our body through the things we eat and drink and the things that we put on our skin, but that's a different conversation the things that we eat and drink.

00:35:35.469 --> 00:35:37.632
We need to eat and drink the right things.

00:35:37.632 --> 00:35:40.034
We need to not eat and drink the wrong things.

00:35:40.034 --> 00:35:41.445
And we need to get the right balance.

00:35:41.465 --> 00:35:48.228
And when I started doing that, brad, when I started doing that, I'd already had my third heart attack.

00:35:48.228 --> 00:35:49.550
Thank God, I lived through it.

00:35:49.550 --> 00:35:56.653
But when I started doing this, I was able to reverse my type 2 diabetes in three and a half months.

00:35:56.653 --> 00:36:02.958
I was able to lose 105 pounds in five and a half months and I'd never gained it back.

00:36:02.958 --> 00:36:07.360
And I was able to totally reverse heart disease in two years.

00:36:07.860 --> 00:36:12.822
And when I went into my cardiologist for my last medication, this was funny.

00:36:12.822 --> 00:36:22.009
I love this day because he told me he said Belden, I don't want to take you off this drug because I don't trust what you did.

00:36:22.009 --> 00:36:22.530
What did I do?

00:36:22.530 --> 00:36:23.451
I ate the wrong things.

00:36:23.451 --> 00:36:23.851
I didn't eat.

00:36:23.851 --> 00:36:24.771
I ate the right things.

00:36:24.771 --> 00:36:25.672
I didn't eat the wrong things.

00:36:25.672 --> 00:36:28.996
I got the right balance Right and he's like I don't trust what you did.

00:36:30.056 --> 00:36:32.219
I said okay, let's look at this differently.

00:36:32.219 --> 00:36:41.858
It's a big part of what I do, brad, and you probably do too, is help our clients understand how to talk to doctors, because doctors are trained a certain way.

00:36:41.858 --> 00:36:47.661
But I said, doc, if I came in here today first time ever, you'd never seen me before.

00:36:47.661 --> 00:36:52.556
Do I have anything in me that would make you prescribe me this drug?

00:36:52.556 --> 00:36:55.492
And he said, no, honestly, you don't.

00:36:55.492 --> 00:37:00.315
And I said, great, then let's not get off, let's get rid of it.

00:37:00.315 --> 00:37:08.931
If I start to go sideways and you tell me to get back on it, I will, but let's give it a shot.

00:37:11.905 --> 00:37:16.016
So, brad, that was 18 years ago, oh wow.

00:37:16.016 --> 00:37:25.927
And in that 18 years where I was supposed to have a shelf life of five to 10 years and everything was getting worse, in that 18 years I'd never put the weight back on.

00:37:25.927 --> 00:37:30.833
I'd never gone back into either diabetes or heart disease.

00:37:30.833 --> 00:37:45.485
I've been completely drug-free, even blood pressure and the cholesterol, for 18 years and counting, and I've got more energy, more life, more mobility.

00:37:45.485 --> 00:37:51.956
I'm doing things at 60 that I couldn't have dreamed of doing in my 30s.

00:37:51.956 --> 00:37:57.213
And in my 30s I thought, like everybody else, this is just a part of getting older.

00:37:57.213 --> 00:38:00.554
In my freaking 30s I thought that.

00:38:00.554 --> 00:38:04.755
And then I'm playing like a kid and just loving life.

00:38:05.684 --> 00:38:08.414
Well, yeah and I'm just a little bit younger than you.

00:38:08.414 --> 00:38:17.250
And I refuse to think that I just like everybody tells, oh, it's because you're getting older, and I'm like, no, I don't think that I just like everybody tells, oh, it's because you're getting older, and I'm like, no, I don't take that, I will not take that.

00:38:17.250 --> 00:38:19.331
So a couple of questions.

00:38:19.331 --> 00:38:22.534
Well, first I want to make an analogy.

00:38:22.534 --> 00:38:28.605
So I love how you mentioned that balance to have the things that are going in your body, that's good and.

00:38:28.605 --> 00:38:34.806
But yet you were talking about a balance, the recipe number three, right, and I.

00:38:34.887 --> 00:38:44.009
That analogy to me is dehydration, or dehydration versus hypernatremia, right, and that is.

00:38:44.009 --> 00:38:47.471
And everybody thinks it's oh, it's too much water, it's not enough water, right.

00:38:47.471 --> 00:38:58.427
What it is is the relationship, the, the, the pro, the.

00:38:58.427 --> 00:38:59.650
It's the relationship of salt and water, right.

00:38:59.650 --> 00:39:10.425
Dehydration, not, it's not necessarily you don't have enough water, it's that you don't have enough salt to an equal amount of salt to be able to absorb the water and let it stay inside of your body.

00:39:10.425 --> 00:39:16.233
Dehydration, just without the salt, it goes right through you and you can't keep it in your body.

00:39:16.233 --> 00:39:19.733
That's why you can drink and drink and you can still end up being dehydrated.

00:39:20.445 --> 00:39:29.469
On the other hand, hypernatremia too much water is because you have too much salt and it's holding it inside of you and you're drowning.

00:39:29.469 --> 00:39:40.617
Basically, you're drowning, and that is a good analogy of what you were saying is about is number three there's got to be the right balance, the right recipe for you to do what you need to do.

00:39:40.617 --> 00:39:43.554
Now I deal with hypernatremia and dehydration all the time.

00:39:43.554 --> 00:39:46.746
I live in Florida and I train people in here in Florida.

00:39:46.746 --> 00:39:57.269
So June through August, I got to be very careful when I talk to my clients about what you're taking in while you're running, while you're biking, while you're all that stuff.

00:39:57.269 --> 00:39:58.931
So that's, that's a big thing.

00:39:58.931 --> 00:40:12.597
I'm very curious about what you did to find the ins, what's taken, what's not taken and the recipe for balance.

00:40:13.836 --> 00:40:15.737
Yeah, and it's fascinating what you just say too.

00:40:15.737 --> 00:40:17.818
This is one of these things which should be taught in high school.

00:40:17.818 --> 00:40:18.998
But we're not right.

00:40:18.998 --> 00:40:29.063
Salt creates the barrier in your cells that mitigates how much water that goes into your cell, and having the right amount is critical for everything working.

00:40:29.063 --> 00:40:38.052
One of the reasons elevated salt too much salt is such a danger is the cells of your heart are constantly in motion.

00:40:38.052 --> 00:40:46.806
They're the only cells in your body that literally never slow down or stop, and because they're constantly in motion, everything works differently the whole entire barrier.

00:40:46.806 --> 00:40:50.693
Salt is terrible for heart health Excess salt.

00:40:50.693 --> 00:40:54.139
It's absolutely essential that we get some salt every day.

00:40:54.219 --> 00:41:02.452
One of the things I'm having to teach clients when they start eating real food instead of packaged food is yes, you need to salt your food now.

00:41:02.452 --> 00:41:08.034
I took your doctor, told you don't salt your food, but that's because you were eating five times more than you needed already.

00:41:08.034 --> 00:41:16.639
Right, right Now, we need to start putting salt on your food to create that right mechanism so that your cells are able to use water.

00:41:16.639 --> 00:41:18.512
I'm glad you brought that one up.

00:41:18.512 --> 00:41:31.918
There were two things that were necessary in order for me to bridge this gap and, if you don't mind before I share the recipe and I will I want everybody to know what the food is.

00:41:31.918 --> 00:41:35.811
This isn't some proprietary secret sauce I'm not going to share.

00:41:35.811 --> 00:41:38.963
I want everybody to know the right way to eat.

00:41:38.963 --> 00:41:41.032
I want to share that with you, but there's another story.

00:41:41.032 --> 00:41:42.922
If it's okay with you, oh, please.

00:41:43.083 --> 00:41:44.166
Yeah, I'm all about the stories.

00:41:44.726 --> 00:41:53.572
Yeah, because the food wasn't enough, and I want to say that because I know how many of my clients suffer from this.

00:41:53.572 --> 00:41:55.356
I suffered from this.

00:41:55.356 --> 00:41:59.452
You might have experienced this somewhere along the way too and encountered it.

00:41:59.452 --> 00:42:06.233
And that's when we reach a point in our progress where we start getting emotional eating.

00:42:06.233 --> 00:42:09.989
We start getting cravings that are just absolutely insane.

00:42:09.989 --> 00:42:19.097
And when you start getting emotional eating, when I started getting emotional eating, it was followed very closely by a level of frustration that left me with overwhelm.

00:42:19.097 --> 00:42:31.673
Emotional eating and overwhelm is a really horrible one-two punch, and it was about maybe four to six months somewhere in there after my heart disease was gone.

00:42:32.355 --> 00:42:38.813
Now, during this period of time, I was super focused, and when you're super focused on anything, you treat it differently.

00:42:38.813 --> 00:42:41.025
You treat it with a level of priority.

00:42:41.025 --> 00:42:46.418
Once it's accomplished, then there's room for other things to start crowding in.

00:42:46.418 --> 00:43:00.958
So it was just a few months after this that I started getting hit with stress and, along with it, the cravings and emotional eating, and I started finding myself, even after having already received all the benefit from doing this.

00:43:00.958 --> 00:43:06.356
I'm disease free, I've got the energy, the weight is gone, I'm loving everything about that.

00:43:06.356 --> 00:43:18.932
I still found myself unable to stop sometimes going to the things that gave me heart disease in the first place, and I started gaining some weight back and it terrified me.

00:43:18.932 --> 00:43:22.547
It really terrified me, because I know where that path leads.

00:43:22.547 --> 00:43:39.617
So, in addition to getting the food right, I found I had to continue learning, to continue understanding, because if I didn't understand what was going on in me psychologically and emotionally, I was still going to lose this game.

00:43:39.617 --> 00:43:47.951
I was still going to wind up on the wrong end of it all and I was still going to look at a shorter life than I wanted and not being able to live it.

00:43:47.951 --> 00:43:51.438
So I kept going Download.

00:43:51.458 --> 00:44:09.255
There was a time, by the way, it's a hard story to tell, but I think it's important there was a time when I was back on my couch and I was in this internal conversation the voices in your head, right, yes and I had this question do you really want to eat?

00:44:09.255 --> 00:44:11.534
I was looking at this thing I was going to have for dinner.

00:44:11.534 --> 00:44:19.878
I was being driven to have it and I'm asking myself do you really want to have a few choice words?

00:44:19.878 --> 00:44:24.697
I'll save your show, the language, but do you really want to have this garbage?

00:44:24.697 --> 00:44:26.985
Not the words I used, but do you really want it?

00:44:26.985 --> 00:44:32.088
And I had this voice in my head that was giving me all the reasons that I didn't you realize.

00:44:32.088 --> 00:44:33.653
You just lost 125 pounds.

00:44:33.653 --> 00:44:34.967
You got a new lease on life.

00:44:34.967 --> 00:44:36.913
You've got everything going again.

00:44:36.913 --> 00:44:42.179
Part of your heart is dead from heart attacks, but it's still working better than it was before you had heart attacks.

00:44:42.179 --> 00:44:43.467
You've got all these things going on.

00:44:43.467 --> 00:44:46.653
Did you really want to eat this crap?

00:44:46.753 --> 00:44:53.376
This is one side of my thinking, and on the other side there was this voice that I could feel more than I could hear.

00:44:53.376 --> 00:44:57.909
And on the other side, there was this voice that I could feel more than I could hear, but I knew perfectly well what it was saying.

00:44:57.909 --> 00:45:00.335
I'm here, belden, do you really want to eat that garbage?

00:45:00.335 --> 00:45:09.304
And this voice leaned in really close and said you're damn right, you do.

00:45:09.304 --> 00:45:14.211
And I found that voice.

00:45:14.211 --> 00:45:19.121
Even though this one over here has all the logic and the reasons.

00:45:19.121 --> 00:45:20.364
I found that voice irresistible and I did eat it.

00:45:20.625 --> 00:45:27.711
And when I went to bed I cried myself to sleep because I remember thinking if I can't win this, I don't have a chance.

00:45:27.711 --> 00:45:42.987
So I had to dive down those rabbit holes too, and I had to start learning, and what I learned from this is that we're not the diet and exercise and we treat our health like it is, and diet and exercise are important.

00:45:42.987 --> 00:45:47.418
Don't mistake that this doesn't work if we don't get the chemistry right.

00:45:47.418 --> 00:45:48.306
Right.

00:45:48.306 --> 00:45:58.271
But even if we get the chemistry right but we're not aligned in our thoughts and our emotions, we're still going to fail.

00:45:58.271 --> 00:46:02.824
And I believe that this is the biggest health challenge today.

00:46:03.385 --> 00:46:12.710
If you go to the root cause, I believe that the biggest root cause in America is not understanding or knowing what to do.

00:46:13.733 --> 00:46:24.795
It's fighting the voices in your head and the emotional eating and the cravings and all of this going on psychologically and people don't know how to beat it down.

00:46:24.795 --> 00:46:43.875
And while they're sitting here in this state of confusion, they don't want to talk about it because they feel ashamed and guilty if they don't have the inner fortitude to just eat the right thing, you can't go tell your friends this and nobody is teaching them what to do with it.

00:46:43.875 --> 00:46:47.362
So the food has got to be right.

00:46:47.362 --> 00:46:48.905
It's physical laws.

00:46:48.905 --> 00:46:51.815
You cannot get them wrong and expect things to work.

00:46:51.815 --> 00:46:59.077
But at the same time, we're not seeking alignment of the body, mind and spirit, and I don't mean this at all in the Wu way.

00:46:59.077 --> 00:47:06.818
This and getting your thoughts in the right place, getting your emotions in the right place.

00:47:06.818 --> 00:47:25.536
And just like your body has physical rules that operate it, your mind and your emotion have rules that operate them too, and they're not that hard to get into alignment if you're actively learning how to do it and taking the steps instead of trying to pretend like it doesn't exist.

00:47:27.467 --> 00:47:41.532
I think that's brilliant and I love the way you put that because it makes me go back into some of the things that I've done myself and into some of the things that I've done myself, and then some of the things my clients have done and the and things that I've told them and you put the words to it.

00:47:41.532 --> 00:47:48.652
But there's sometimes was like, okay, they get back from a hard, huge workout, things are sore and they have to have recovery.

00:47:48.652 --> 00:47:49.494
There's a whole thing.

00:47:49.494 --> 00:47:50.405
You got to have recovery.

00:47:50.405 --> 00:47:51.429
You've got to you.

00:47:51.429 --> 00:48:17.780
We do our foam roller, we put on our, we've got these massage boots and all these things, cause now I'm talking about people that are running two, three hours at a time, right, so you got to sit there and, and after you've refueled the right way, now all of a sudden you find yourself you're sitting in an armchair, you've got these boots on that are like they're filling with air, then reducing, and then filling with air and reducing, and you're getting this great massage going, but you're watching TV or whatever.

00:48:17.780 --> 00:48:23.831
And then all of a sudden, they're like, oh well, I've burned all these calories so I can go eat whatever I want.

00:48:23.831 --> 00:48:26.164
And I'm like, okay, well, you've already refueled, you've done everything the right way.

00:48:26.846 --> 00:48:33.610
So, when you reach for that, are you doing it because you need to or is it because you want to?

00:48:33.610 --> 00:48:57.527
And if you could search the reason or the idea between want and need and you can sit there and say, well, you know what, I do want it, but I don't need it, my body does not need that, and it could put me back a few paces, right, that's when you need to make the decision for yourself.

00:48:57.527 --> 00:49:00.778
I can't make the decision for you and a lot of people.

00:49:00.778 --> 00:49:10.106
And it's sedentary, it's a habit, and we talk about habits all the time, but it's not necessarily that they're hungry, it's a habit.

00:49:10.106 --> 00:49:20.215
It's this habit, just like a lot of they talk about smokers, right, when they start something, it's not the fact that they really need that nicotine, or even that they're, that some of them are even addicted to the nicotine.

00:49:20.215 --> 00:49:22.697
It's this, it's this habit.

00:49:22.697 --> 00:49:24.639
Is they got to have something with their hands?

00:49:24.639 --> 00:49:26.942
And I'm like, and you got to find something else to do with your hands.

00:49:33.925 --> 00:49:39.336
So, but I think that's amazing the way you put it as far as getting the mind aligned, because we know that stress causes cortisol.

00:49:39.336 --> 00:49:46.818
Cause of cortisol in infusion, right, which messes with, am I thinking of sugar and insulin?

00:49:46.818 --> 00:49:48.246
Messes with insulin?

00:49:48.246 --> 00:49:53.257
And could cause phantom hunger pains and you don't really need it.

00:49:53.257 --> 00:49:56.688
And could cause phantom hunger pains and you don't really need it.

00:49:56.688 --> 00:50:03.606
So, having that mind aligned, knowing what to do when those emotions hit, to keep you on your recipe, and we'll call it that, I think it's a great.

00:50:03.606 --> 00:50:14.135
I think it's a great thing on your recipe of eating and, um, eating, exercise, sleep, mindset, then you've won.

00:50:14.135 --> 00:50:15.237
That's where you win the battle.

00:50:16.545 --> 00:50:21.795
Yeah, and I love the way there that you're walking people into mindfulness.

00:50:21.795 --> 00:50:32.771
You're walking people into taking the moment to actually make a decision instead of just habitually walking into what you've always done.

00:50:32.771 --> 00:50:39.230
There was a great study that was done in the Vietnam days.

00:50:39.230 --> 00:50:41.318
That was an eye-opener to me about so many things.

00:50:41.318 --> 00:50:54.847
During Vietnam, with all this crazy stuff going on, an unusual like a crazy number of soldiers became addicted to heroin and when they came back, they're having all these problems because they're heroin addicts now.

00:50:54.847 --> 00:51:04.487
So the Department of Defense it's important to know that this is the Department of Defense, because when the DOD does something, they do it exactly the same everywhere.

00:51:04.487 --> 00:51:07.894
There's no variation whatsoever, right?

00:51:08.416 --> 00:51:21.701
So they created this rehabilitation program here stateside, and they did the exact same rehab program from that point forward to soldiers in Vietnam before they came home, to try and get rid of the problem before they came back.

00:51:21.701 --> 00:51:26.737
And what they found was this and this baffled psychologists for decades.

00:51:26.737 --> 00:51:40.490
What they found was this the soldiers that rehabbed in America went back home and over 95% of them relapsed back into heroin Less than a 5% success rate.

00:51:40.490 --> 00:51:51.492
Now, following the exact same program, the soldiers that were rehabbed in Vietnam came back here.

00:51:51.492 --> 00:51:54.217
Now get this because it's complete flip-flop.

00:51:54.217 --> 00:51:59.873
It was like Trump and Hillary right at the beginning of the election, where everything flip-flopped right.

00:51:59.873 --> 00:52:07.637
When they came back home, their success rate was higher than 90% Interesting.

00:52:07.637 --> 00:52:12.275
So the same program the ones rehabbed here, 95% failure rate.

00:52:12.275 --> 00:52:15.585
Coming back from Vietnam, 90% success rate.

00:52:15.585 --> 00:52:20.905
And this was studied for a decade and they came down to just one difference between these two groups of people.

00:52:20.905 --> 00:52:34.894
The people rehabbed here had already made associations between their drug and their environment before they went into rehab and after rehab they came back into the environment that had already been connected with their habit.

00:52:34.894 --> 00:52:46.820
The guys that were rehabbed in Vietnam came back to an entirely new environment where they hadn't made those connections yet and they were able to hang on to being drug free.

00:52:47.565 --> 00:52:59.876
Now, think about that in harmony with what you're saying, because we tend to sit down in a chair, pick up something habitually, pick up a cigarette habitually, pick up food habitually, and we don't think about it.

00:52:59.876 --> 00:53:02.650
It's already woven into our environment.

00:53:02.650 --> 00:53:06.177
So we have to do something like you're talking about there.

00:53:06.177 --> 00:53:16.777
We have to do something to create an interrupt that will force us to think, because when we think, we can make decisions.

00:53:16.777 --> 00:53:18.860
When we're not thinking, we don't.

00:53:18.860 --> 00:53:24.224
We run an autopilot.

00:53:24.224 --> 00:53:29.420
So I love what you're saying there about bringing that mindfulness element into it, how important that is to people being able to make meaningful change.

00:53:30.824 --> 00:53:35.092
It's interesting because you know where I got that from, because it actually came from a physical.

00:53:35.092 --> 00:53:55.331
When people are running and I was like, okay, you're in this race and you're going and all of a sudden you're feeling tired and you want to slow down or you want to take a walk break, and I tell them the same thing Before you take that walk break, before you make the absolute 100% decision, you need to ask yourself do I want to walk or do I need to walk?

00:53:55.331 --> 00:53:58.813
And that's where everything else came from.

00:53:58.813 --> 00:54:02.376
When I got to the nutrition side of it and I thought, wow, this works for everything.

00:54:02.376 --> 00:54:03.295
And I tell them the same thing.

00:54:03.295 --> 00:54:11.440
I says before, that's before you make that the final decision, you ask yourself that Do you want to or do you need to?

00:54:11.802 --> 00:54:19.228
Hey, there's times when you're cramping, something's, something's killing you, or your cardiovascular system is way out of whack and you need a reset.

00:54:19.228 --> 00:54:20.472
That's a need.

00:54:20.472 --> 00:54:28.068
Yes, that's when you say yes, I'm going to walk for 25 seconds, I'm going to walk for 30 seconds, I'm going to get myself reset and I'm going to restart.

00:54:28.068 --> 00:54:30.550
Fine, no problem, you know what I mean.

00:54:30.550 --> 00:54:38.398
If you actually need to, but half, more than half the time they're doing it, it's just because things are a little uncomfortable.

00:54:38.398 --> 00:54:50.222
So if you push you in nine times out of 10, you push through the uncomfortableness, you'll go back into a rhythm and your rhythm will take over and you'll be right back to where you were before and you'll keep going.

00:54:50.242 --> 00:55:01.456
Yeah, moment to make a decision, to think going oh yeah, I only need that moment to make a decision to think, right, yeah, so I think, and that's brilliant, it absolutely is brilliant where what?

00:55:01.456 --> 00:55:02.880
Oh, I want the recipe.

00:55:02.880 --> 00:55:03.882
Hold on, let's go back.

00:55:03.882 --> 00:55:05.208
You talked about that.

00:55:05.208 --> 00:55:08.376
You talked about what you felt was that right recipe.

00:55:08.376 --> 00:55:12.132
As far as the food part goes, yeah, let me run through it.

00:55:12.152 --> 00:55:12.211
But.

00:55:12.211 --> 00:55:15.925
But let me also say this is free to the world.

00:55:15.925 --> 00:55:21.208
I want everybody in the world to know what to do to put the right things in their body to build it strong.

00:55:21.208 --> 00:55:28.949
So on my website paragraph three on the front page anybody can download it, because you're going to forget what I say here.

00:55:28.949 --> 00:55:46.987
But there's four groups that I categorized food in the very beginning, when I started learning what the body needs, where that stuff can be found, where these nutrients are, where those nutrients are, how to get this mineral and how to put all of this together to where we create the right recipe in our body.

00:55:47.768 --> 00:55:52.117
When I was first walking through this, it was impossibly complex.

00:55:52.117 --> 00:55:54.072
You think counting calories and macros is hard.

00:55:54.072 --> 00:55:58.074
Try counting all of your nutrients and minerals and phytonutrients and everything.

00:55:58.074 --> 00:55:59.157
Oh, I can't even imagine.

00:55:59.157 --> 00:56:13.798
So what I set out to do and it took a bit of work, but it was so worth it was to create a very simple way where people could get the right things in the wrong things out and get the right balance easily.

00:56:13.798 --> 00:56:19.717
In fact, you take three days to learn this and you'll never have to actually think about it again.

00:56:20.764 --> 00:56:24.376
And today I call the system the four jars, because it's easier to visualize.

00:56:24.376 --> 00:56:27.710
Back then it was just four groups, but these are the jars.

00:56:27.710 --> 00:56:30.092
The first jar is dark leafy greens.

00:56:30.092 --> 00:56:32.623
Doesn't matter if I like them or not.

00:56:32.623 --> 00:56:35.715
I love when people say, oh, I can't stand those.

00:56:35.715 --> 00:56:38.192
I'm like do you like the 32 medicines that you're taking?

00:56:38.192 --> 00:56:40.570
Yeah, no, I don't like those either.

00:56:40.570 --> 00:56:41.673
Well, you take them every day.

00:56:41.673 --> 00:56:44.693
So take these every day and just think of them as your medicine and you'll be fine.

00:56:45.215 --> 00:56:57.007
Right, 85% of what the body needs to build itself properly, 85% of those building blocks, exist in dark leafy greens.

00:56:57.007 --> 00:56:59.853
You cannot afford to skip these 85% of the nutrients that your body needs.

00:56:59.853 --> 00:57:02.059
Now, I'm not talking volume.

00:57:02.059 --> 00:57:06.074
I'm talking in terms of the different unique things that you need to have.

00:57:06.074 --> 00:57:08.007
So we put those in their own jar.

00:57:08.007 --> 00:57:10.452
That's the dark leafy green jar.

00:57:10.452 --> 00:57:11.876
We make sure we get those every day.

00:57:12.505 --> 00:57:18.545
The second jar is fibrous vegetables, and these are the vegetables that, when you chew them up, they leave strings in your mouth.

00:57:18.545 --> 00:57:22.253
This kind of fiber is critical.

00:57:22.253 --> 00:57:26.385
This is what acts like the roto-rooter of your body and keeps you scoured out.

00:57:26.385 --> 00:57:35.617
Now, when you think about it, the cell wall of your intestine, most of the way, is one cell thick.

00:57:35.617 --> 00:57:44.130
The reason it's only one cell thick is because all of your nutrients need to permeate through that to get into your bloodstream and to get into your body.

00:57:44.130 --> 00:57:46.842
So as you're eating things, everything's breaking down.

00:57:46.842 --> 00:57:49.509
The nutrients are being gathered, they go through that cell wall.

00:57:49.509 --> 00:57:57.918
It doesn't take much in the way to prevent food from being able to be absorbed, and we're learning more and more as time goes on.

00:57:58.039 --> 00:58:11.577
You don't have to listen to the news very long to hear the new connections that are being made between gut health and the health of the rest of our body mentally, physically, in every way and it's important that we do this.

00:58:11.577 --> 00:58:16.048
So we give those their own jars, so that we make sure we're getting those daily.

00:58:16.048 --> 00:58:22.445
The third jar and the fourth jar have to play together, and this is important.

00:58:22.445 --> 00:58:27.114
There's so much debate about which is better.

00:58:27.114 --> 00:58:31.751
Do I want to be vegan or do I want to be keto or caveman or paleo?

00:58:31.751 --> 00:58:32.896
Right?

00:58:32.896 --> 00:58:37.128
Should I ignore meat or should I ignore carbs, which is to ignore vegetables?

00:58:37.128 --> 00:58:49.552
And this is the debate, and the answer is we're omnivores, we're not carnivores, we're not herbivores, we're omnivores, and the closer we adhere to the way that we're made, the better the body is going to work.

00:58:49.552 --> 00:59:02.090
And I can give a hundred reasons why carbohydrates and proteins need each other in your body, but for now, suffice it to say that not only do they need each other, but they need to stay in balance.

00:59:02.090 --> 00:59:06.637
So we need non-processed carbohydrates.

00:59:07.077 --> 00:59:10.291
Forget all this nonsense about simple and complex.

00:59:10.291 --> 00:59:13.601
There are thousands of levels of complexity.

00:59:13.601 --> 00:59:15.606
Could you put all your carbs together?

00:59:15.606 --> 00:59:19.554
The dividing line was drawn by Congress, not by food scientists.

00:59:19.554 --> 00:59:28.099
Let's just shelf that and instead let's say eat real, honest, whole food carbs and avoid factory processed carbs.

00:59:28.099 --> 00:59:30.487
Same thing with proteins.

00:59:30.487 --> 00:59:39.222
We want to make sure that our proteins are coming from real, whole meat sources, not from pepperoni and sausage and processed meats.

00:59:39.222 --> 00:59:39.603
Right.

00:59:39.603 --> 00:59:43.275
So we need non-processed carbohydrates is jar number three.

00:59:43.275 --> 00:59:46.635
Non-processed proteins is jar number four.

00:59:48.166 --> 01:00:00.273
And if we keep these four jars and we divide food that way, you can literally go anywhere in the world and eat a look of food you've never seen before and immediately know which jar it goes into.

01:00:00.273 --> 01:00:06.815
If it's a plant and it's not a dark, leafy green or it doesn't leave strings in my mouth, it goes in the carb jar.

01:00:06.815 --> 01:00:10.451
No brainer, we know where our meats go.

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They go into our protein jar.

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So it's really easy to know how to divide food.

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No matter where you go, even when you're sitting in a restaurant, you're looking at what's on your plate.

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It's really easy to know how to divide it up, just by saying these are the four jars I need.

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Do they exist on my plate?

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So this is how we get the right thing in.

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How do we keep the wrong thing out?

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Well, I was going to make a blanket statement, and somebody can jump up and argue with me if they want.

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It cannot exist without a factory.

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If it cannot exist without a factory, let's just not put it in the body and we'll be doing a pretty good job of keeping the wrong things out.

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So we got the right things in and we got the wrong things out, and then we're left with the recipe, or the balance.

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Now, when you download this guide, you're going to get a basic.

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This is how humans work.

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This is the human diet.

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There's a lion diet, a snake diet, a rhino diet.

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Let's stop pretending that there's not a human diet.

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There is diet, a snake diet, a rhino diet.

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Let's stop pretending that there's not a human diet.

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There is, and the balance of that human diet exists there, but that's where we want to land.

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That's where we want to wind up with a healthy body.

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We're all walking into this differently.

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We're all walking into this, some of us on these medications, some of us on those medications, some of us on no medications, some of us overstressed, some of us underslept, and all of these things affect chemistry of our body.

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So where we're starting out might be slightly different from person to person.

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The four jars are the same, but the recipe might change a little bit from person to dial in in the beginning and then move towards what the human diet looks like.

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And that's how we achieve the right recipe or the right balance.

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It's simply by how much we take out of each jar each day.

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So three cups here, cup here, six ounces there.

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Carbohydrates are all over the place.

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That's why the guide is important, because carb density varies so much from food to food and food.

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So they're all over the place.

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But you look at that and you're like, okay, I know exactly how much to take out of each of these jars to get the recipe right and I'm going to make sure my cake has the right balance of sugar and salt.

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And then boom, it's done.

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And then comes the challenge.

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Then comes the emotional eating and overwhelm.

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So I've created something that I call Club Lit that I designed just for these problems, just to help people get the mental and the emotional balance that we need.

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Just to help people get the mental and the emotional balance that we need, the mind and the spirit to go with the body to very simply be able to put emotional eating in the rearview mirror and, after we get the food right, if anybody wants help on that, happy to help.

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So, to start just wrapping this up, so Club Lit stands for life on its terms.

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I love that.

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Where did you come up with that?

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I came up with that starting with the analogy that we talked about a little while ago gravity.

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I love gravity because nobody argues with it, nobody.

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Nobody says we're going to have a cheat day.

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Nobody says stepping off the edge of the cliff is okay, as long as you only do it in moderation.

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Nobody says that.

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In fact, most people say let's stand back a few feet in case a gust of wind comes along, just to make extra sure.

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Perfect.

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But does that mean we can't fly?

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No, it doesn't mean that at all.

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But flying isn't ignoring gravity.

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Flying is using gravity and balancing it with lift, because without gravity we'd go spinning off into space and without lift we'd go crashing to the earth In order to achieve flight.

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And now we can fly.

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So first we have to meet life on its terms we are going to obey the physical laws at play and then we can actually live life on our terms.

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We can freaking fly, but we don't fly by ignoring the laws.

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We fly by living within those laws.

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So we need to do the same thing with body.

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We need to do the same thing with how we manage our thoughts.

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We need to do the same thing with how we control our emotions, because all of these things have universal laws that apply to them.

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And if we'll meet life on those terms and stop pretending that they don't exist or stop pretending that they don't apply to them, and if we'll meet life on those terms and stop pretending that they don't exist or stop pretending that they don't apply to me or stop pretending that they apply to everybody different, if we meet life on its terms, we can do whatever we want to do by using those laws, not by ignoring them.

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By using those laws, not by ignoring them.

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It's really not the opposite, but it's placing the emphasis on the second sentence of the serenity prayer.

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And I always talk about the serenity prayer because of the first part, which says grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change.

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We accept gravity for what it is and we know we can't.

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It doesn't mean we can't use it, but we place the emphasis not there, which is where it's tended to be emphasized, in the addiction side, but the second sentence, which is grant me the courage to change the things I can't Right.

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Grant me the courage to change the things I can't Right.

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That last one is so important.

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And the wisdom to know the difference, right.

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So, and you're exactly right, because people might, when they really think about that, and on the addiction side and I understand why that's, there is the Grammy of the serenity to accept the things that cannot change.

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And then you're like we go into this emotional eating, right, but you can, right, and that's the wisdom, right.

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Right, there is oh wait, you're emotional and that becomes eating, but you can control that.

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You might not be able to control the emotion at that point.

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You can control what you do with it or you can take advantage of it, right, which we always, which I always talk about with some of my clients and stuff, and somebody calls me and says, oh man, I had the most rotten day, I feel bad, I had a Murphy morning I had.

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And I said I said, don't talk to me, you get out and run.

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And they come back and they're like, oh, I feel much better now.

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I'm like, yeah, exactly, you couldn't control the emotion.

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But if you use the emotion as fuel for a workout, for a walk, for a journal entry or something else, that's not food.

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Now you're using it to your advantage yeah, right, and in line with that, I once heard an interview with a japanese dance instructor and as a trainer, you're gonna're going to relate to this immediately.

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He said someone comes into my dance studio.

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They're going to do this step a thousand times, exactly like this.

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If they do it any other way, we're going to have a problem and they're going to start all over.

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They're going to do it a thousand times, just like this, not because I want them to never be free, but because if they're free too early, they're going to go break their leg.

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They don't understand how it all works.

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Once they've done this a thousand times, now they can go improvise and they're going to do beautiful dance steps in completely harmonious fashion.

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It's not going to risk them, it's going to be beautiful and entertaining to everybody.

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That's going to completely change the norm of dance.

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But you got to do that one thing first, right, and it's the same kind of thing.

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These are the rules of how it works.

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Once we do that, then you can live life, however you want to live it successfully.

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Absolutely.

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Are you a fan of motivational movies that maybe are not as intelligent as you might think?

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It depends, it depends.

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Rocky was great.

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Okay, so what you just said as far as the anecdote with the Japanese dancer, I love Rocky too, and Mickey is like come on Rock, we got to change it up.

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You're going to fight right-handed and he ties the rope around him and he's like all right, you're going to hit 500 times 500 times One, two where did I go again?

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I do it again.

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Three, and that it was going to be fluid when he went to the right hand.

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Now he's fighting right-handed, where he was always a southpaw, and so, yeah, it was an anecdote that I kept thinking about it, but because of the motivational aspect of that movie, I I had to just throw that in there real quick and he's great.

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That was the first greatest scene ever.

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Oh, yeah, that's yeah, that one in the Rocky four, the ending of Rocky four, and it's like as I was in here and I was listening, and I first got here you were not my greatest fan and I didn't like use neither but as we were in here killing ourselves, I think I started seeing some change in the ways yous felt about me and the ways I felt about you I can't help it.

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That's just the greatest, some of the greatest stuff.

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You know what I?

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mean all the way through, right on through Creed.

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They were great.

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Right, yeah, so if you're emotional and you need to pick me up, throw in Rocky if you can't do anything else.

01:09:56.158 --> 01:10:00.430
Amen, absolutely so.

01:10:00.430 --> 01:10:03.661
Belden, I have to tell you that this has been absolutely amazing.

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Belden has BeldenCalmnet and he's got some amazing stuff on there.

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He talks all about cloud club lit.

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He's got a little bit of a more of a background about some of the stuff that we talked about.

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His first book no one ever got fat from calories is you've got to.

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You've got a link on there for Amazon.

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We're also going to put that in the show notes along with his, his Belden Belden calmnet.

01:10:28.158 --> 01:10:36.582
And you've got a new book coming out undo type 2 kick the diabetes habit for good.

01:10:36.582 --> 01:10:39.158
You want to give us a little introduction to what that's going to be about.

01:10:39.600 --> 01:10:51.164
well, not that the title doesn't say most of it, but yeah, type 2 diabetes has got a special place in my heart for helping people, because type 2, I call it a gateway disease.

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If you get type 2 diabetes, you are going to get everything else.

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You are probably going to die from heart disease, but not until you've got kidney problems, you've got blindness, you've got all this other stuff ravaging your body on the way.

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It is the fastest growing disease in the world, and yet, while it's the fastest growing disease in the world, it is also the easiest to prevent.

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And it's the easiest whatever word you want to use reverse, put into remission I use the word undo, so I don't have to argue about it.

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But the point is you can live diabetes-free, you can get rid of it, you can avoid it, and yet it's the fastest growing disease in the world.

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And so this book is designed to do.

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The two things that we keep being told we can't do.

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One is we don't know what causes it.

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We do know what causes it and we keep being told it can't be reversed.

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And yet I did, and thousands upon thousands, upon thousands of people like me have both people I've helped and people that did it in other ways and on their own.

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Now put all of that in your head and realize that by next year, 50% of the US population is going to have some form of diabetes type 1, type 2, or prediabetes.

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Now, with type 1, we have a different set of circumstances, but with type 2 and prediabetes, you do not have to live with these things, and so this book is designed to be an A to Z book how to turn it around nutritionally, how to get the food and drink right, how to get the emotional state right, how to get your mind in the right place.

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The book is a one, two, three guide to get you to the point where you can live diabetes free, and the goal of my business partners and I is to see a world in our lifetime that has negative diabetes growth, lifetime that has negative diabetes growth and if we can see that, just one year we'll have done our part to make a change in the world that really matters and that is going to be one of the most important books of the decade, so I cannot wait for that to come out, and he has got a landing page on there for you to get you on the list.

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So check that out.

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And that's Belden homenet slash books.

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Or if you go to the homepage, you'll see it at the top and it tells you how to get into the into club lit.

01:13:18.841 --> 01:13:20.653
It's a fantastic website.

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It's actually put together very well, so it's almost worth just going over and looking at it.

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You know that's coming from an IT guy that deals with this stuff all the time, so it's very clean.

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Go there and meet Spark If you don't go there for any other reason than to meet Spark, go to the website that you can meet Spark, the Lit Rabbit, If you're worried about how to spell my name and you want to jump on here right now and you don't want to take the time to watch the show notes which I reckon we do watch Brad a hundred times but follow the lit rabbitcom, We'll get you there too.

01:13:53.617 --> 01:13:55.993
Oh cool, follow the lit rabbitcom.

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I love it.

01:13:56.756 --> 01:13:57.738
That's fantastic.

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So I'll put that.

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I'll go in the show notes as well, just so because it's fun.

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I love that.

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Follow the rabbitcom.

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All right Belden.

01:14:05.895 --> 01:14:10.363
It's been an honor and a privilege and very educational, so thank you.

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Thank you so much for chatting with me and being on the show, because I think it's extremely important what you're doing.

01:14:18.515 --> 01:14:24.497
Thank you, brad, and I feel the same about what you're doing and the debt you're making in the world, so I hope we get chats to do this again.

01:14:25.420 --> 01:14:31.270
Yeah, same here to do this again.

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Yeah, same here and for everybody else.

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