Achieving Elite Performance – Tywin Kalandyk on Mindset, Fitness, and Life Transformation

Brad Minus: [00:00:00] And welcome back to another episode of Life-Changing Challengers. My name is Brad Minus as always. And today, super excited to be talking to Tywin Kalandyk Kalandyk, my bad there. And we're gonna be talking, he's an elite performance coach is in his. His audience is mainly men, but if you look at some of the testimonials on his website, they are absolutely amazing.

You should see the before and after pictures. The guy knows how to get you jacked and how to get you to the best health and the best person that you could possibly be. So let's, let's bring them in. Hey, Tywin. Good to see you. How are you doing today?

Tywin Kalandyk: Hey brother Brad. I appreciate you having me on, but first thing I gotta correct you and, and I understand why this happened 'cause I'm the first black Polish guy you've ever seen.

So the last name, it's actually Callen, but we're all good call Callen. I'm glad to be on, man. It, it was the Polish thing. It threw you off. You're not used to it. . 

Brad Minus: Yeah. I it must be. It must be. And I, and I, and I, and I apologize, but, but and, kalandyk. [00:01:00] Kalandyk. But we're good. Let's 

Tywin Kalandyk: go, let's do Tywin.

Brad Minus: We got it. We got it. Kalandyk. Yeah, I can't believe I missed that again. Okay, great. But anyway Tywin, can you tell us a little about your childhood? You know, what was the compliment of your family and, you know, where you grew up? And what was it like to be Tywin as a kid? 

Tywin Kalandyk: Yeah, Brad, that's actually such a such a great question.

And I'm glad you asked because, you know, growing up, things were a little bit interesting for me. You know, I was actually born right into foster care. My mom was my biological mom was a prostitute addicted to drugs. And I had a drinking problem, so she couldn't really even take care of herself. So taking care of me was definitely not an option.

So as soon as I was born, I was put into foster care, which is probably one of the best things ever happened to me in my life, I ended up being adopted rather early on by an amazing, amazing, amazing family. So I grew up in a household with three other brothers three other sisters, a mom and a dad that loved me [00:02:00] just like I was their own.

So it was awesome. And then, you know, as growing up as a child, one of the things for me is I really took a liking to sports. I realized when I was playing sports, I would get attention. You know, so very early on, I'll never forget. I'll tell you a very quick story. I was playing flag football and I was just out there doing, doing my thing.

And I remember winning a game and I looked over the sideline and my dad was jumping up and down like I had won the Super Bowl. Now, meanwhile, I'm like seven. So I'm like, wow, this is a way to like garner attention. So at that very moment, I immediately just started identifying if I can get really good at sports.

I can get attention from everybody. So that's probably my first love or, or first dive into sports. And that's kind of where it all started. 

Brad Minus: What would you say? What was your age about that time? 

Tywin Kalandyk: I was seven years old, 

Brad Minus: seven years old playing flag football, 

Tywin Kalandyk: seven years old. Yep. 

Brad Minus: That's, that's, that's amazing.

So you said three brothers, three sisters, 

Tywin Kalandyk: three brothers, three [00:03:00] sisters. Yep. 

Brad Minus: You had seven kids in the house. 

Tywin Kalandyk: Yeah. So my parents they had three biological kids and then they adopted four of us. 

Brad Minus: Wow. You know, bless your parents. Bless your parents. It's so amazing. 

Tywin Kalandyk: And the cool thing, but I'm sorry I didn't mean to cut you off there.

Man, I grew up in this household, because I was the only black kid. Like, my parents were white. My brothers and sisters were white. It was the coolest thing ever. And we always were around all these different ethnicities, all these different, there were so many people around which I realized as an adult, it gave me a perspective of the world that I think a lot of black people honestly don't have because I'll talk to a lot of people and I can't relate to a lot of the stuff they say, because I've seen firsthand how amazing White people can be aging.

People can be. I wasn't trapped in this little bubble. And so I don't have that same cognitive bias that a lot of people have. So I'm very, very fortunate and grateful. I grew up that way because my world view [00:04:00] is probably a little bit different than most people's. Because of that, 

Brad Minus: I, I can only imagine.

I can't fathom it, but I can't imagine it. I, I also grew up in an area that was completely diverse. I had black friends. I had Filipino friends. I had Chinese friends. I had La Laotian friends. You know what I mean? So I was very lucky in the same way where. That was just never an interest, you know, to, I hate bringing it up, but as far as because just because in this current atmosphere we have this whole racism card that's being played, but I didn't realize it.

I mean, I never knew anything about it. They were just people to me. There was never, I don't want to say colorblind. I would say that it would, to me, it was always just an adjective, you know, the same way someone's got brown hair. They have dark skin. That's it. Nothing, nothing. Ever got any, we never thought about it.

We ate at each other's houses. We slept, we had sleepovers. We, we played mailbox, ba mailbox baseball. You know, we, you know about mailbox baseball? No. Never heard of that [00:05:00] game. Okay. Well this is in the Chicago suburbs. Basically, and it's bad. It's not a good thing. But we had somebody that had a truck.

And we all got into the bed of the truck with a baseball bat and with taking 

Tywin Kalandyk: off the mailboxes. Yeah. Oh, yeah Yeah, we just didn't have a name for that. We did it. We just didn't have a name for it. Yeah. What did you guys call 

Brad Minus: it? mailbox baseball, 

Tywin Kalandyk: oh That would make sense 

Brad Minus: Yeah, so I mean, we did all that and never thought of it, you know, never even thought anything above it.

When I went to, when I went to college, same thing. And, you know, it's just it. And today now, like, I see more of it now because it's, I have to pay attention to it. And it's just, I don't know. I wish I was way, I wish I was back. You know, back then when it just wasn't in front of me like that. But anyway you know, 

Tywin Kalandyk: I have to share this cool story with these.

I have to share this cool story because probably my favorite people to talk to are actual racist people, which most people aren't racist. It's just a word that unfortunately people slang around today just when they don't like what someone [00:06:00] has to say or whatever. That's not really racist. But so my dad when so before I came along, my dad was actually racist.

But here's why it was racist because he grew up in Detroit every single day. When he used to go to school, he used to get beat up by a group of black people. So that's why he had this stigma because that was the, that's all he knew. So then when I came along, he immediately fell in love with me. And again, there was seven of us.

He probably would have never said this out of his old mouth, his own mouth, but I guarantee I was his favorite kid. Hands down. No question. I was his favorite kid. And I say that because no one is born a racist. That's, that's something that's taught, but just like it's taught, it can also be changed. So a lot of times we, we edify people's belief system, like the fastest way to change someone from being a racist to show them you're the complete opposite.

So I love having those conversations with [00:07:00] people because a lot of times it's just how they grew up. It's just their lived experiences. So 

Brad Minus: I, I get it. I, you know, my dad, to me started being the same way. It seemed like it to me. I'll never forget a story. He had he was, and this is also association right now.

He went to school in very, in a, in a tough neighborhood as well in Chicago. And he started this business and it was kind of like a showbiz Chuck E. Cheese type of thing. It wasn't as elaborate, but he had this big giant game room and a movie theater and, and, you know, in a concession stand and stuff.

And a guy came in and started, you know, a few guys. would come in every once in a while and cause some trouble. And he finally kicked one of them out and he's like, Oh, you don't like me because I'm black. You're just prejudice. And he goes, I'm not prejudice. I hate all you.

I'll never forget that. That was the best story ever. Man. 

Tywin Kalandyk: I love it. I miss the times when we can just. Just say [00:08:00] what we wanted to say and people wouldn't get so offended. Look, it's okay if if people disagree with you or think differently, like that's how it's supposed to be. And that's what makes America America.

Like, I pray that we can get back to that day when people just honestly say like, that's the beauty of free speech. It's the beauty of it. You can't censor people. I don't care what their opinion is. When you start censoring people, that's a very, very slippery slope. And so I hope we go back to that. 

Brad Minus: Yeah, I no, no, no, I, I totally agree with you.

And I think that, you know, I think we're on that path. It's going to take some time. But I think we're, I think we're finally getting to that, to that point where people are just fed up with with the censorship and the idea that, well, if you say one thing like our comedian should have carte blanche, if they're in the middle, if they're in the middle of a set.

You know, they're telling jokes, they should have carte blanche, it shouldn't be a big deal, because a lot of it is really funny. I mean, it's just funny. It is, and it always has been. Yeah. And you just let it happen. And, and somehow we've, you know, with the cancer culture and everything else, we've [00:09:00] gotten away from that.

But then, you know what, we're not here to talk about that. We can have that conversation in a different podcast, but I want to know more about you. Yeah. So seven years old, you're playing flag football and you see your, you see your pops out there and he's like, he's like jumping up and down and he's really excited for you.

So you decided to, to move on with that. Did you play any of the sports or you kind of stick to football? 

Tywin Kalandyk: No, I played everything. My first every track. Basketball baseball, like, you know, every single sport I played, but I actually really took a liking to basketball because I was a big Michael Jordan fan.

I still am a big Michael Jordan fan. Anybody's listening to this and we're not going to try to compare LeBron and Jordan. Cause there's just no comparison. Oh, no, no, no. Like I love watching Jordan and all the greats. There was so many great basketball players back then. So that was my thing. And when at a very young age, by the time I hit fifth grade, I was six feet tall.

So this was awesome. So I was like, I was dunking in fifth grade and I'm like, I'm going to the NBA doctors telling me I'm gonna be like six, eight. So every single waking second, like I'm [00:10:00] playing basketball, like you, you couldn't keep me in the house. And by the time I hit eighth grade, I still had not grown.

I've been six feet tall since fifth grade, never grew any more sense. So when I hit eighth grade, you know, people started catching me at that point. And yeah. In basketball, six feet is like, you're a guard at bat, like a, like, that's not tall at all. So now, meanwhile, I've grown up playing. I was a center adult my whole life because I was the tallest kid.

So I don't have the dribbling skills. I don't have the shooting skills. So the football coach comes over and said, look, you might be able to get a division two scholarship. Maybe a division one, but doubtfully, but he's like, I can guarantee I'll get you division one scholarship. And I was like, okay. And football.

I was like, okay. Then right then and there, my mindset shifted. I'm like, let's do this football thing and went all in on football. 

Brad Minus: And what, what, what grade, that was eighth grade. 

Tywin Kalandyk: That was eighth grade. That was eighth grade. 

Brad Minus: [00:11:00] So you walked into playing football and organized, well, I guess you played flag football.

Tywin Kalandyk: Yeah. No, I was already playing football. I didn't. So when I say, like, I go all in on things, right? So, and I, I didn't realize this because my whole life I've always been around like high level athletes. So playing AAU and travel ball. I never played with people who are just playing just to have fun, like in no sport.

Like I just never did. I didn't even know that existed. I didn't know people just played to have fun, but you're playing to like, yeah. Make it to the next level or be like, be the top. I just have always been raised. If you're going to do something, you do it. You don't just go through the motions. So that's when I really went all in on football, like all in.

Awesome. Yeah. 

Brad Minus: You know what? I had a coach. His name is John Noland and yeah. Hey, John, if you're listening John had this saying, he's like, if you're going to go, if you're going to race you, and if you're going to [00:12:00] tow the line, you tow the line, you are all in. Meanwhile, my I've done a numerous amount of clients where I've been saying, okay, you're going to do this race as a training race.

So you go out there, run it as a workout. You know, we're going to have certain things that you're going to work on during the race. And it's basically a training workout with 20, 000 of your of your favorite people. 

Tywin Kalandyk: That's a different mindset. And that that's that's that's acceptable. So for me, that that's well, that you're supposed to do that, especially in running 100%.

Well, yeah, but 

Brad Minus: it's just two separate coach methodologies, but I will, I will say that when my coach John and that with that mindset, I will say that I progressed faster, better, and stronger than I did under my own methodology, but my own methodology is not meant for that. Yeah. My methodology that I put, bring to my, to my clients is more about doing the distance, finishing it, finishing it strong and finishing it with a smile.

That's [00:13:00] my method. That's, that's the methodology that I use. That's the theory that I use because of my audience and my, my yeah, my audience basically not his audience, his audience is elite. You go strong. You always go strong and you don't, if you're not ready for the race, you don't tow the line, you know?

And that's it. No, no ifs, ands, buts about it. And, but I will say like, again, I was faster, stronger and better under that methodology. Then when I propose my own but that's, but that's basically what you're saying is that, you know, every single one, it's kind of like the Rudy mentality, right?

Even though that he was. And I was at a very young 

Tywin Kalandyk: age that started, I mean, I was playing fourth and fifth grade playing a you travel ball going again. I grew up in Michigan. So going to Florida, going to California, going to Chicago, going to Hawaii, going to New York. So it wasn't, we weren't just going for fun.

It was, and it was the only I've noticed. AAU is different now because my son plays a you ball. And like anybody can get on the team. It wasn't like [00:14:00] that when I grew up, like it was only the best people from each area were on the team. Like if you didn't make your school team, there is no, you're not playing on AU, but it's just changed a little bit.

So, 

Brad Minus: yeah, I've got the same thing I've got. So I coach track and field and I coach cross country for high school out here. And yeah everybody makes the team. And the AAU swimmers and the AAU track people, they all, my track that both do AAU and, and, and high school, same thing. They all make the team and they all, and they all, you know, and they all participate.

But yeah, it was much different. Even the divisions were much different. Yeah, I'm not a fan of that. I'm not a fan of 

Tywin Kalandyk: that now how life is and it's it's not because of the sport. It's not that It's the habits that that breeds and the mindset that that breeds After all of it because that is not life is not at all like that.

It's not how it works so that's why i'm a Not a fan of that way of doing things [00:15:00] like everybody gets to play and it's just a bad thing to teach people in my opinion 

Brad Minus: No, and I agree because life's a competition, right? Yes, we compete for jobs. We compete We compete in sports. We still compete in sports We you know, everything is a competition you compete for it now, you know with housing where it is You know, you're competing for a house, right?

You know everything that you do in life Is a competition when you do get into the job, you want that next step up and you're fighting for that. It's always a competition. So why not develop that in our kids at least, you know, 

Tywin Kalandyk: and it's even more competitive now than ever because of the internet. You're not just before you'd only compete with maybe people that were local people, maybe in your state.

You're literally competing with people around the world in everything for a wife, for, for a job, for all these different things you're competing. So if you have the mindset of like, I'm just gonna get by and skate, [00:16:00] life's going to be pretty challenging for you. You're going to run out. It's going to be hard.

Life's hard for everybody, but you're like setting yourself up for some massive failures. And this is one of the things that I preach to my guys when I'm working with them. I'm like, no, no, no, no. We're training for life. It's more than what we're doing here at this gym. 

Brad Minus: I, yeah, I couldn't, I couldn't agree more.

What were your, what about school? What were your grades like in high school? And 

Tywin Kalandyk: you know what? School actually came really easy to me. I was just the kind of person where I would, I never, well, let me go back. So in school you have to turn in homework, which to me, homework was stupid. If I can pass the test without doing the homework, why do I need to do the homework?

That's just keeping me away from sports. So my one problem with school is I would never turn in my homework. I would ace all my tests. But I just wouldn't turn in homework. I thought it was dumb. So sometimes I got away with that because teachers kind of understood like, okay, well, he understands the information he's passing his test, but then some teachers it wouldn't fly with.

But I was [00:17:00] actually a really good student in school. I just never liked to do homework. I didn't study. I wasn't that. I just never liked studying. But later on in life, I realized it wasn't that I didn't like studying. It wasn't like I didn't like learning. I just didn't like learning what they were teaching me because I'm an avid fan of education.

I've I probably spent more on education and People who went to some very expensive colleges, super important, but I'm just not a fan of the way the school system is set up. So 

Brad Minus: I, I get that my nephew was the exact same way my nephew would learn everything and the teachers would be like, I don't even know if legend is listening.

That's his name. His name is legend. Is he? 

Tywin Kalandyk: Oh, really? That's my youngest son's name. All right. 

Brad Minus: Nice. And legend was like when he was mainstreamed and don't get me wrong. He, he, he had a little bit of ADHD type of thing, but same thing. He didn't look like he was listening, but no, but now, now he's 25. But back then when he was in high [00:18:00] school and before high school, they're like, we don't even know if he's listening except.

And when he goes and he does the tests, he gets hundreds and 99 percent and 98. 5 and everything else, but it doesn't do his homework. Yeah. You know, and that was, so he, so my sister in law finally found a way a school. That kind of worked with that, you know, the, the, the school, the philosophy of the kids is that they didn't do have homework, they had an extra study hall and they did all their homework in school and they had and then they had certain classes that were extended.

So when it wasn't 50 minutes was an hour and a half because 40 minutes was getting whatever assignment done. So everything was done at school when you left school. It's kind of like a job, right? Yeah. If it's a regular job, you leave your job at your job and you go home and you spend time with your family.

It was the same. Don't get me started on 

Tywin Kalandyk: school. Cause I. Yeah, see what I 

Brad Minus: mean? We've got a you and me, we've got a ton of freaking great podcasts in us. It's awesome. 

Tywin Kalandyk: I ripped into school, but shout out to all the teachers out there and coaches because they've made, there's some coaches and teachers [00:19:00] that made a huge difference.

So it's not them. They're just doing what they're. told them what they have to do because there is some amazing, amazing coaches and teachers out there. So I do want to make sure I do say that, but the actual schooling system is terrible. 

Brad Minus: I, I, you know, I agree. And, and, but Florida is getting better. You know, when, when I first came here, we were like, 45th in the nation.

And we're like seventh now. So it's not bad, you know, as far as comparatively to everybody else, but I get it. I get it. So, all right. So you went to, so in, in high school, you went all in on football. Did you get that D one scholarship? 

Tywin Kalandyk: Yeah. I ended up going to the university of central Florida to play football.

Yeah. 

Brad Minus: UCF. 

Tywin Kalandyk: Yeah. 

Brad Minus: Nice. Did you, did you play all four years? 

Tywin Kalandyk: No, I actually ended up leaving early. I left early. So by the time I got to college, I had two kids already and I ended up leaving early. And again, I'm the kind of person I'm either all in or I'm not in. And I was in my 2nd year and sometimes it works out.

Well, it always works out good, but sometimes it's [00:20:00] maybe the smart thing to do. Sometimes it's not. And I remember I was going into my 3rd year. And I just felt this overwhelmed because you can't work when you're a full time college athlete. You can't work. I mean, you're not allowed to. And I was like, man, I have a responsibility to start taking care of my kids so I can sit here in place.

I think I probably would have had a shot at the league or I can. You know, start taking care of these kids. And I just made that it started eating me up inside. And I'm like, you know what, I'm done. Lost the love of it. And once I, once you lose the love for something for at least for me, I will, I refuse to keep doing it.

So I walked away from it. A lot of people were Highly upset, but it all panned out. 

Brad Minus: Yeah. So what did you, so what'd you end up doing? 

Tywin Kalandyk: Oh man, when I first, when I went to like everybody else, you get in the real world and you find out, wow, this is a little different. I think especially from going from, when you've been a high level athlete your whole life, you're used to life being a certain way.

It's, I kind of relate it to when I hear people say they get out to military and they got to adapt [00:21:00] to, you know, civilian life. It was kind of the same thing. Like, So I, you know, I get a regular job. First job was at the airport sky cap, which I loved. It was great. Got to meet a lot of people from that. I moved on to selling cars from that.

I went on to selling insurance from there. I was like this working for some other people. It's just not for me. It's for some people, but it wasn't for me. I don't like people telling me what to do. When I can take a break, when I can go to the bathroom. So I was like, let me figure out this entrepreneurship thing.

And that's when the fun really began. 

Brad Minus: Nice. Hey, so just so we could, there's even more, you know, there's even more similarities in the two of us. I did sell cars for about three months before I felt like, I felt like scum of the earth. And I was like, Nope, Nope. I can't, I can't do that. I sold insurance.

I sold insurance for a year. And it just happened to be that the product that I was selling it was Arizona at the time. They were just trying to get started and they couldn't break into the market and they ended up leaving the market. And then I spent nine and a half years in the [00:22:00] military.

And anybody that tells you, That transitioning now it's different for operators. If you're an operator and you're going into civilian life, different story, but you know, for every operator out there, there's seven supporters, either behind a desk doing staff, doing whatever, there's seven other people.

Those seven people, it's a job when I was at the Pentagon, you know, besides the fact that we met at like four 30 in the morning for PT, it was like, A office job with a mandatory P. T. program. 

Tywin Kalandyk: Got it. You know, you 

Brad Minus: know, when I got, I got called back in later on, which is how I got to florida. And then I ended up going across the pond.

That was different story for O. E. F. And O. I. F. That's, that was, that was completely different. But for the first, my first tour in the military before I ended up separating the first time. That's basically what it was. It literally was even in Korea, even in Korea was like, get up, go to work, come back, play, you know, and that [00:23:00] was it.

But yeah, so, so anybody sitting there telling you that, Oh, they have to transition back into civilian life unless they're an operator. Yeah. Then it's I, I tend to disagree with that a little bit. Yeah. So, all right. So what was your first as. What was your first step into entrepreneurship? 

Tywin Kalandyk: Ah, so very first step into entrepreneurship was in real estate investing.

This was actually right after the crash, which was 2008. Yep. Right after the crash in 2008, which was a beautiful time to come in and buy. I remember my very first deal. I bought a, what was it? It was a three bedroom, two bath for 50, 000. In Orlando turn around. And so, and here's the kicker because especially at the time, like I was broke too.

At the time, my bank account was in the negatives when I bought it. It's wildest thing ever. And then I ended up selling like a couple of weeks later for 105, 000. Oh 

Brad Minus: yeah. That [00:24:00] was a nice flip. 

Tywin Kalandyk: Yeah. That's when I realized I like that when I went into as an entrepreneur and I got into real estate, I started to learn Oh, there's other way.

Like we don't get paid for time. No, my mindset was like, okay, trading time for money. I was like, Oh, there's, there's a lot, a lot of different ways to do this out here. So that's when my mind really started expanding. And, and I, it just, I started growing in a way that I've never grown before. 

Brad Minus: Tell us a little bit more about that.

Let's delve into that a little bit. So as far as expanding your brain, cause I think that's, that's, that's a really good. analogy as far as expanding yourself past that time for money. Cause I think that's something that I probably 85 percent of the, of the people out there are doing that. They're training time for money.

How, where did that expansion come from? Would it come from the fact that it was only two weeks and you made 55, 000 or was it something else? 

Tywin Kalandyk: No, it was before, it was before I even made the money before I even made the money. I knew it cause I had this. Okay. So we all have [00:25:00] this. Cognitive bias. We only, we only know what we know.

I'd never been around entrepreneurs. I didn't know any business owners. I didn't even know it existed, but around that time, it kind of started getting a little buzzword. I didn't even matter of fact, I had to look up what entrepreneurship meant. That's just how green I was, but it was something that attracted me to it.

So, you know, we live in the. Information era. So if you want to know something, you can know it. So if anybody's listening to this and like, I don't have the money for this. Like the information is out there and it's really the information. That's probably the most important thing because I didn't realize this, but there's a lot of people that have a lot at the time.

I didn't know they have a lot of money, but they don't know what to do with it. It's just, they, they literally do not know what to do with it. So I had the information and then I found people with money and then I found out they would give me the money to go do the work. And then I just had to give them some of the return.

Like it was, it was wild. I didn't know that existed. So I got around like my circle [00:26:00] shifted. I started going to these investor groups. I'll tell you a quick story. I'll never forget. It was winter park, Florida. I go to this investor meeting picture. This, I walk in now, keep in mind at this time, I'm 24 years old.

I'm dressing like a 24 year old black kid that listened to hip hop his whole life. Just picture that. So I walk in, there's a room full of, I'd probably say average age, like 50 to 65 year old married white, white couples. And it was like, almost like you heard the music stop. Everybody turns their head and like, who is this guy?

And why is he here? Is he, he must be lost. So again, I don't care. I just go right to the front of the room. Cause I know that's where leaders always sit in the front. I ain't sitting in the back, sit right down in the front. The guy starts explaining and they were teaching you about investing in flipping houses and all this stuff.

I ain't know anything. So he goes, you know, they start teaching and. Probably two minutes in, I raised my hand. I'm like, I don't know what that means. Can you explain it a little better? And then he explains whatever the topic was. And then he goes on [00:27:00] to teaching again. And probably within the next two minutes, I raised my hand, excuse me.

Can you explain what that is? I don't know what that is. And I hear everybody like chuckling and laughing because it was basic terms that people should have known, but I didn't. And I wasn't going to sit there and act like I did. Cause I was there to learn and I'll never forget. They go on stage and the guy does, they call it deal of the month.

So it's whoever has the best real estate deal of the month, they kind of break down what they did, how they made the money. And I just, from that moment on, I started envisioning myself. I said, one day that's going to be me up there telling the story. Sure enough, three months later, because we met once a month at the next event, I had the deal of the month.

I was on stage 90 days later, I was up there teaching the same people that were laughing at me how to do real estate. Nice. 

Brad Minus: Yeah. Wow. That's incredible. So how many, so how are you still doing that? 

Tywin Kalandyk: No. So we, I had a great streak for like 18 months, like crushing it. And then I took on a business partner and I didn't [00:28:00] realize it, but she embezzled half a million dollars from her.

So that was the, that was my 18 month run. And then it was like, that's when I learned like. Cause I had been broke before, like that wasn't not new to me, but I didn't know you could go below broke. You can go, you can shoot way past zero and I was like, that was, and again, I'm, I'm so grateful. I learned that it was such a powerful lesson because anybody that's ever been in business, like you're going to get burned and I would rather get burned early on.

Because to be honest, I wasn't mentally ready for the money I was making. It was coming way too fast, way too fast. So I'm glad it happened. Cause who knows what would happen? It wouldn't have been good. I wasn't ready for that kind of money. I was 19 

Brad Minus: years old. I left school. My, my second year I left school.

Basically I was in an, I was in an arts program and basically we're [00:29:00] basically all my advisors were saying, you're not, you're not learning. You're in the classes, you're there, but you're not learning. We're not thinking this is the best thing for you. And I was like, well, F you. And I'm going to find, I'm going to find something else.

And I'm going to, I'm going to come back here. I'm going to, and I'm going to get my degree from you is basically what I said, but I'm going to leave and I'm going to figure it out. And I left and I need to make some money. And I ended up going to downtown Chicago and I found this ad and they were like, we'll train you to be a stockbroker.

And all I thought I thought was money, money, money. I'm like, I'm going to be a stockbroker. And I walked in there and and they like gave me this test. And it was a lot of math and stuff. And I wasn't crazy about math, but I, I was good at it and they're like, Oh yeah, you're going to be great here. And they basically said, you take, take a couple of months, you'll pass the series seven, zero six, three, three, we'll put you on the floor.

And yeah, my first six months, you know, I was on course at 19 years old to make like 90, 000 that year, which. Compared to the rest of the guys that were there was [00:30:00] low. Wow. But it was going to be my first, I was on course to do that. Let's live. I mean, I'm still living at home and I'm, I'm walking in. I walked into the Armani shop.

I'm like, my first suit, $1,200. I'll never forget it. . You know, and this is the nineties, right? That's expensive. You're bowling the nineties. Yeah. Well, it's like, I'm gonna have one good suit, you know? It was great. But yeah, and the same, basically the same thing. Then mar market toppled and the whole bit.

Oh, by the way, that was during the time I went to three playoff game play. I went to three. 

Tywin Kalandyk: Bowls, playoff games during the three peat. Yeah, we got, we got a lot in common, because in that time I went, that's when I flew out, I went and seen the Super Bowl, I went and seen the Steelers were playing, the Steelers and the Packers.

Oh, and the Packers, I don't know, yeah, I don't want to be a fan of that. No, you know what, it's just about, you know what, it was to, okay, quick story. So, it was because the year before, and again, when I do something, I go all out, so when I went and did this entrepreneur thing, like, I dove right in. Yeah. I remember my friends called me, it was, [00:31:00] it was the Superbowl time.

And they called me, they're like, Hey, what are you doing? Like, come over Raw, watching the game. I'm like, I can't, I gotta work. Like, what do you mean? Like, come over. It's Superbowl. I'm like, I can't, I have to work again. They're making fun of me laughing. And again, in that moment, I'm like, next year I'm going to the Superbowl.

Like I'm going to prove them wrong. So sure enough, next year, Superbowl came. I called them, Hey guys, what are you doing? Oh, we're watching the Superbowl, man. Come, come over, come over, come over. I was like, I can't, I'm at the Superbowl. And they're like, what do you mean you're at the Superbowl? I'm like, I'm at the Superbowl.

And it was, it was, it was such a, it was just, it was such a great feeling. It was such a, 

Brad Minus: okay. So I've been to one. I've been to a Super Bowl and it was, happened to be the one with Brady and when he was on Tampa. Ooh, that was a good one. Yeah. Yeah, it was a good one. But that is an amazing experience.

I mean, like, I've been to football games before, but that was different. 

Tywin Kalandyk: You know what was, so they had this cause I got my ticket from StubHub. And [00:32:00] what I didn't realize when I got there was there's so many people like, that's their thing. I was talking to people that are like, Oh, this is my 10 Superbowl is my 13th.

This is my seventh. And again, you start getting in proximity. Of people who live a different life. I was in I was in a line to get my tickets and I'll never forget There's a guy in front of me. He had his whole family there his wife his kids There's probably like eight of them and he goes to get his tickets from the stub hub Like actually pick them up and like sir these, these, these are fake tickets.

You bought fake tickets like we bought fake tickets. So I literally seen him right there. He dropped like 40, 000 for a new set of tickets. And again, my mind expanded because he, he just, it was like no problem. He's like, okay, well just what I got to do to get more tickets. And then she told him the price and he was like, I had never, I've never experienced this stuff.

So again, you start getting around. This is why I always tell people [00:33:00] get around elite people and whatever, like get around people who have more than you are going places that you want to go or doing stuff. You can't fathom because when you start hanging around people like that, it rubs off on you. You have, it forces you to level up.

That's why I don't believe in playing average. I think that's the dumbest thing to do in the world. It just doesn't make any sense in my at least in my brain. It doesn't make sense. Are you going to be the best at everything you do? Probably not, but I guarantee when you get around elite people, it forces you to level up.

It forces you to, 

Brad Minus: I get it. Are you a fan of David Goggins by chance? 

Tywin Kalandyk: Yeah, he's part of the reason I ran my first ultra. Oh yeah? 

Brad Minus: Yeah. He freaking astounds me. Look. Cause I mean, yeah, when you talk about going to the edge, man, if you read, if you read those books, did you read, you read, I'm assuming you read his books.

Yeah, I read 

Tywin Kalandyk: his books. I think he needs a, he needs a warning label on all his stuff because when like an, like when an elite athlete or [00:34:00] someone who like is real competitive reads that. They're like, Oh yeah, I can do that. No, that's not a good idea. Go see Brad, you know, get you, get you a coach. Cause I, I did exactly what he did.

And I ran my first 50 mile race. I trained exactly 29 days for it. Yeah. 

Brad Minus: That was your first one. Is it your 

Tywin Kalandyk: first long distance 

Brad Minus: race? 

Tywin Kalandyk: Yeah, I, the only thing I ran before that was a 5k. 

Brad Minus: Yeah. And that was like for 

Tywin Kalandyk: fun, like, I was just like the, you know, the turkey trot or whatever. But someone, someone said, they're like, Oh, you're not a runner.

And I was like, I'm not a who? They're like, you can't run long distance, you're too big. I think at that time I was like, Two 15, six foot to 15, like pretty solid, very solid. And I'm like, I do this. So I started looking up marathons cause I was like, well, that's, that's what, I didn't know how long it was, but I'm like, I heard that's long.

That's what people do. And then while I was looking for a marathon, I started realizing like everybody runs marathons, like [00:35:00] old people run marathons. I'm like, this isn't proven anything. And I stumbled upon ultramarathon. I didn't even know that was a thing. Like I didn't know the human body could physically go that far.

I mean, 50 miles is a long way in a car. So I was like, Oh, this is a thing. Then that's when David Goggins came and I was like, Oh, I don't. Cause in my head, I'm like, Oh, I should probably train. I don't know. Maybe how long for this, but listen to David Goggins. He, I was like, he just went on and did it. I'm like, so I found the nearest race.

The soonest one I live in Florida time. It was in Michigan. And when I grew up in Michigan, first of all, it was flat, so I'm like, I'll book that it was 29 days away. So I started training, had no idea how to even train for this, how to eat for this. Nothing. But again, even as I am 29 days later, I show up in Michigan.

Lo and behold, it's on a ski resort, which I didn't know. There's even, there's like, it's hilly in parts of Michigan. It was just, it was, it was a fun experience. It was a loop. No, it was not a loop. I did not want to do a [00:36:00] loop. I did not want to do a loop. 

Brad Minus: You'd be yeah, if you ever decide that you want to pick that up again, actually a loop course is great because you don't need to carry.

Like everything with you, or you don't have to wait for a, wait for an aid station, because if you go a loop, then you come back to base, grab it. And then, then you can, then you count down the loops and it actually, it's, it's not for me either. I'm I'm more like you, but if you ever get to try it, there are definitely some advantages to it.

I'm going to do it 

Tywin Kalandyk: again. I'm going, there's no way I'm not doing it again. And I will, cause I will correct a hundred count 

Brad Minus: down the loops. You know what I mean? Like, you're like, all right, well, I've got, you know, I got 50 loops, whatever, or 40 loops. All right, 39, 38. And you can, as you're counting down, it just gives you a little bit of a mental boost.

I only got this many to go. Once you get over the halfway mark, you're like, oh, I'm halfway done. This is easy. I got this. But when you're just going after miles and it's just like, you can't see the end, you know, and it's just like out there, sometimes it plays funny tricks with you, but. Like again, my 

Tywin Kalandyk: brain's the opposite.[00:37:00] 

Exactly. My brain is a complete opposite, like counting down. That would be terrible going at something. I have no problem doing that. 

Brad Minus: All 

Tywin Kalandyk: right. When we're doing exercise and stuff, sometimes I'll work out with random people and I'll get to the halfway point and they're like, you're halfway there. I'm like, why would you say that?

You idiot. Like, don't, don't tell me where I'm at. Like, don't, if you're going to say it, wait till I'm like, I have two more left. Don't tell me I'm halfway. Like I'm in pain already. So like my brain is the complete I hear what you're saying. And it probably does work for a lot of people. For me, that would be even worse.

It would be so hard because as soon as I saw it, it'd be terrible. 

Brad Minus: The advantage is a lot more logistical as well. So a lot of people. So and my people. They have their own formulas like I, I have it all developed for them. We know exactly how many calories they need, how much salt, how much, how much carbs, how much protein that they're going to need for you know, for every hour, like literally it's by the hour.

And then by the hour, we also know that when are you going to take it [00:38:00] in? You're taking it in 15 minute increments, 20 minute increments, whatever. And they know exactly what they're going to take and when, right. So having the loop. they don't have to carry all that. Yeah. So it's like, Oh wait, they can drop by, they have a crew, pick it up on the way out and they just keep going.

So logistically sometimes it's better, but I get with you cause I don't like loops either. 

Tywin Kalandyk: No, that makes sense. I get that. And you'll probably appreciate this, probably get a good chuckle out of this. So when I, again, I don't know anything about, I've never run a marathon, especially in awesome. I don't know anything about it.

So I first get there and I'm looking at, first of all, I am by far the most muscular person there. There's no one that looks. anything like me, not even close. So again, my athlete brain kicks in like, who are these people like? This is going to be easy. This is just how naive I was start running, doing pretty good.

And again, I had trained when I was training down here in my practice, ran, I had ran a 30 miler. So I was, and I felt good afterwards. And I was like, Oh, this is going to be easy. [00:39:00] Well, you start adding elevation, things change very quickly. Then I didn't know anything about, Oh, you're supposed to eat. Well, I knew you were supposed to eat.

When you do it, because obviously you burn a lot of calories. I didn't understand what kind of stuff you're supposed to eat. I'm a like chicken, broccoli, like brown rice. That's my kind of eating. We do. I didn't understand. I wasn't thinking like, okay, well, it's going to take first of all, forever for your body to break this down.

So I'm like, they're eating like chips and like gummy bears and like goo and all of this stuff. I'm like. Again, I'm naive. I'm like these idiots. They're eating all this stuff. They have no idea what to do. Oh my by mile 25 I'm like throwing back coat thankfully in a running world. Everybody's super nice It's so different because ultras it's not it's not really competitive.

It's just finish just finish And like whoever comes in first is just gets as much like it's just as important as last. It's kind of a cool [00:40:00] concept. So I got people, they're like, drink this, drink this. So I'm slamming Coca Cola. I haven't drunk a Coke in like years. I'm eating like candy and I felt so much better immediately.

I'm like. So that was a good learning lesson. 

Brad Minus: Welcome to the world of glycogen stores. Yeah. So yeah, 

Tywin Kalandyk: literally I learned about it like in real time. 

Brad Minus: Yeah. Just, just for your information, I'll just give you a quick little, two, two, just a quick little, two things. One is we, we change up the, the, the vocabulary.

What you eat to pro for recovery for your normal daily activity for that is nutrition, right? What you put in your body while you're racing before and after is fuel. So when you change the concept, you change the way your brain thinks. Okay, fuel, carbs, stuff that will go to your go to your go to your muscles.

Fast like this coke goes to your muscles so [00:41:00] fast, but it also leaves very fast. So you've got to balance it. But that's that's so when you think about fuel and you're like, okay, you're right. Every day, whatever my, my normal meal is, is brown rice, broccoli and, and, and chicken beef and, you know, sweet potatoes, something like that.

That's nutrition. Fuel, goose, gummy bears it's all that stuff that you can eat because it's going right through you and you're utilizing it right away. But yeah, it's, yeah, it's, it is a science and it definitely is a science to get there and 

Tywin Kalandyk: everybody's different. 

Brad Minus: Everybody's the last 

Tywin Kalandyk: thing to here's another rookie mistake.

This is even worse than a rookie mistake. As soon as I was done with the race, I had booked my flight to go back to Florida. So immediately when I'm done with a 50 mile race, I'm like, and it wasn't, it wasn't like a first class seats. It wasn't even on a good airline. I'm in this small little. seat, just ran 50 miles.

I'm cramping. It was terrible. 

Brad Minus: I remember, I remember the first time [00:42:00] and this, you know, and I knew about all this stuff is I did the Chicago marathon. And then I was meeting my family at Disney world. So literally it was like, get done, go back to the hotel, shower, shave, blah, blah, blah, get to the airport and then get on the, get on one of those like Disney buses from the airport to take you right to the thing.

And Oh my God. And it was horrible. And I knew this stuff. Right. And I even tell my clients, you know, whether, and especially the Disney ones. Right. When you're done that day, when you cross the finish line, you are required to spend two hours walking around in the parks. It could be slow, it could be monotonous, but basically your structured prescription is you go back to the hotel, shower, nice hot bath.

Take, take a quick nap after you eat, but sometime in the next few hours after you're done, go to the parks, walk around for a couple hours, and then come back. The people that do it, and they comply, by Tuesday, they're asking me when they're going to run again. [00:43:00] People that don't are cursing me out on Tuesday, yelling at me, going, I am like, they're like, I am dying here and I'm like, yeah, you got to move that lactic acid out.

That's what you just have to do. 

Tywin Kalandyk: See, this is the power of, and this is why I'm big on people hiring coaches. Like when you want to do something because just, just that nugget you just shared, that makes all the difference. And like when you're with a coach who like specialize in something, you can drop nugget after nugget after nugget after nugget.

So it just, it just, you just, it's like kind of jumping in a time machine, right? It's, it's like, I love coaches. 

Brad Minus: I love coaches. I appreciate that. Can you explain more about that analogy of the time machine? 

Tywin Kalandyk: Yeah, you're speeding up time. So. It's like I get to take so how long, Brad, how long have you been into endurance running?

How long have you done that? 

Brad Minus: It's been, I'm not necessarily 

Tywin Kalandyk: coach just participated in it. About 16 years. Okay. So 16 years. So if I hire you as a coach. [00:44:00] I get 16 years of trial, error, wins, loses, what works, what doesn't work, and I get to get that downloaded in me every single day, right? I don't have to go through that in 16 years.

So what took you 16 years to learn through, I'm sure you spent a lot of money and time and effort and energy. I can pay you a small little fee compared to what you've done and I can get the, I can get the benefit of all that. You can get the benefit of all that. So like that's what it's like, it's like stepping in a time machine.

So I've learned over time when I want to do something and I go into a field, I don't know. I go hire a coach. I'm not going to waste my time trying to figure things out. I'm going to go hire a coach. 

Brad Minus: That's huge. That's, that's a huge nugget. And I appreciate what you said. Cause I know that's the same thing.

Like I'm not big in the gym. I want to get there at that point. And I would hire someone like you totally, especially with your, with your mentality of you're going all in, right? You're not stopping. You're going all in. And I know that I'm [00:45:00] going to have somebody that's got my back. That's like, Hey, what are you doing?

Tywin Kalandyk: Especially here? Here's two though. As we get older, we start to realize. Okay, we're not gonna live forever. So time is really the greatest commodity. It's a limited resource. Money is not. I used to think it was money. Money is not a limited resource. There's, there's abundance of money. Time. Is a limited resource, so I don't want to waste time learning, and I would rather condense that time so I can spend it with my beautiful wife.

I can spend it with my kids. So when I do go train, it's like Coach Brad tells me do this, do this, do this. Not only do I know exactly what to do, I'm clear on it. I can focus on that. And when I'm done, I don't have to think about it again until the next time I train. So it allows me to leverage my time.

And as like most people probably listen to this, I'm sure probably maybe you're married. Maybe you have kids, probably have careers, other responsibilities. It's all about leveraging your time. Like when I hear [00:46:00] people say, I don't have enough time. I tell them, well, then you're screwed because you can't get no more.

Everyone on planet earth has 24 hours a day, seven days in a week. If you think you don't have enough time, go listen to what Elon Musk accomplishes in a day. And you'll realize very quickly. It's not that you don't have enough time. It's just your utilization of time sucks. But the good thing is you can fix it.

Brad Minus: Absolutely. I, in the real world, not the real world, the, my day, my day job is I'm a project manager and I get, I get hired by different companies to, to do their projects. And that is the biggest thing that we talk about. That's our biggest part of, of, of project management is, is resource utilization. And do you have.

Do these developers or, or construction foreman and, and welders and all these guys, do they have enough time to get to certain tasks done? And is those tasks going to be done in a way that in a, in a path that will get them to the end? To a finished completed product. And that's the same [00:47:00] thing with, with us.

So as coaches, like when I have somebody that's going after a 50 miler, well, we want, we, we set up, we set up toll gates and ways. What, what is the goal? Is it to finish? All right. Well, then we've got distance toll gates. We need to be at 15 miles by this point, 25 miles by this point. 8 35 miles by this point and for them to be able to run at that point, they have a time goal.

All right, well, we have to do 15 miles in this sort of time by this point. We've got to be able to do 25 miles in this time by this point. And then we in the workouts are meant to get them to that point. Right. This 

Tywin Kalandyk: is look, this is why I get so excited like hearing and I hope your listeners understand and get what you're saying, just like how you're rattling everything off.

It's for time is for this is for this is for this is for this is for this. And again, I'm going to go back to it because a lot of people don't understand. The power of hiring a coach in a mentor, you're doing it right now. You probably don't even realize it. Cause it's just, it's just something you do.

You're literally, I call it, [00:48:00] well, I didn't call I make up this road, the parade of principle, which basically says 20 percent of the work that you do is going to produce 80 percent of the results. So you've already figured out the 20 percent that's going to produce the most. The biggest results the most bang for your buck.

So instead of wasting your time doing stupid stuff Which most people that don't know what they're doing do because that's how you figure things out You figured out here's the best way to utilize your time and get the maximum results That's golden. That's golden. So I I hope I hope that people listening to this catch that and understand because this This applies to your whole life.

It applies to your whole life. So this is good stuff. I didn't, I didn't mean to cut you off, but I got really excited. No, no, I appreciate 

Brad Minus: it. Let's talk about let's talk about how you finally jumped into like actually turning the gym into your to your company that so just for everybody that Tywin has as a Tywin [00:49:00] Klondike.

com and he. And it is elite coaching is basically what he does. And first of all, you got to listen to the original, his video. It will fire you up. It is awesome. So you got to listen to that, but that's what I digress. Let's go back and tell me about how you decided to start moving into coaching in this direction.

Tywin Kalandyk: Yeah, absolutely. I remember exactly. I was 27 years old. And then again, this is at the time I was just kind of going, I found myself going through the motions, kind of the person I was telling you about at the beginning that I was like, don't be that person. Don't be the person's average. Don't be the person just going through the motions.

I found myself doing that. I was going to work and, and just dreading it and just not happy. And I just, just going through the motions. I got to the point where I was drinking a lot and I would, I learned later on, I was drinking because I hated my life. Not because I wanted to drink. It was just a way to kind of escape.

And I remember looking in the mirror one day and I'm like, I started letting myself go, [00:50:00] started getting a little fluffy. I'm like, what are you doing, dude? And then again, I just. Adopted that mindset of like, okay, let me figure, like, let me get myself together. And then people started asking me like, what are you doing?

Like, how did you change? And they just started coming to me. I had no intention on coaching people, but they just came to me. So I was like, all right, well, you just do this. But again, my mindset. I've always been an elite athlete, always trained with an elite athlete. And I realized real quickly, most people don't think like that, right?

They're at a they're just at a different level. There's nothing wrong with them. It's not that they can't, but they're they're missing pieces of puzzle. So I had to learn how to teach a person that has never been in the gym, never worked out, no self confidence. Failed at everything in life when it comes to their fitness, take that person and be able to give them immaculate results because my favorite people to work with our everyday normal people, I don't work with elite athletes.

To me, that's boring. [00:51:00] I mean, at least for me, I love taking your average person. When I say average, I just mean your everyday what we would call ordinary person and transforming that person into an absolute person. Beast as my favorite thing to do because what I get this in because when you're training elite athletes, it's it's minor little right?

They're looking for those minor little tweaks. I'm trying to i'm trying to have someone have a complete transformation Where like they look back at their life last year and it was a train wreck and they look back at their life Just a short year later. Not only do they physically look amazing their sex life is amazing the relationship with their kids is great like it's just like Yeah, it just brings tears to their eyes just talking about it's like, okay, that's what that's what I do.

Those are the people I love. 

Brad Minus: I love that. And for a very long time Tampa General Hospital, I had, I actually developed a running [00:52:00] program and I spent eight years doing what we called zero to five K. So it was the employees that never run. in their life, or they hadn't run since high school. And these are, you know, thirties, forties, 50 year olds.

And they would come out and I would, it was a slow step up. I guarantee them that they might be tight, but they wouldn't be sore. But after that, and the amount of people that came out there and says, I hate running, blah, blah, blah. And I'm like, then why are you here? She says, because going to the gym, isn't giving me results.

And I'm like, okay. And they would sit there and they'd yap and all the eight weeks they would sit there and they would. They would be just complaining. But they showed up every single time and I'll never forget this, this woman named Julie. She like, she came across the finish line, big giant smile on her face and she goes, Oh my God, that was so much fun.

And I'm like, you don't realize it's the first time I've seen you smile. Right. You know? And she goes, Oh, stop it. You don't need that. That whole, that whole thing. Isn't that 

Tywin Kalandyk: such a, such a great 

Brad Minus: feeling. [00:53:00] By far, when I started coaching, I'd be like, I was always like, yeah, I love watching my, my, my I said, I said, my clients coming across the finish line is a close second to me coming across the finish line myself.

And. It's switched over to a point where coming across the finish line myself is not nearly as exciting as watching my clients come across the finish line or my kids on both track and, and field. And what you were saying about elite. So let me tell you about cam. So cam last year in 2023 ran. 2022 was running 10, 8, wait, can I just, this, this name is camp.

I'm just going to respond. No, no, no, no. One of my kids on my track team. Okay. Okay. Got it. Got it. Sorry. So cam ran 10, 8, 10, 7, 9 10, 8, 1 in that area in 2022, in 2023. And we beat him to death, blah, blah, blah, blah. So he's already at that elite level. [00:54:00] And, you know, he ended up taking the state at 10, 6, 5, a year for 0.

25, 2. 20, 0. 15 seconds. It took a year and people don't understand that. Now it's only 100 meters, you know, so you don't have a lot of time to like move that. Yeah, but 

Tywin Kalandyk: still, no, you're 100 percent right. Because one of the things that separates an elite athlete from just your average everyday ordinary people is they understand clearly you.

They don't need immediate gratification. They can put off, like, use an Olympic athlete. They'll, for four, they train for years and years and years and years for a ten second race. So they understand, like the, the, the ability to put off instant gratification. Your everyday person, they have, because of all the dopamine hits we get and how they were raised and the society we live in, they want, they want this now.

Yes. So they could never At the current state be [00:55:00] that, but they can become that they can become that, but it has to be taught and has to be broken down. Just like we were breaking down the races. It's little chunks. People are a lot closer to where they want to go than they think they're just taking all the wrong paths.

Brad Minus: I 100%. I agree with that. You know, Christian Baumgartner from Norway Ironman Ironman champion, you know what I mean? You know, three years to take off 10 minutes on a, on a, on an eight hour race. You know what I mean? Wow. And then he ended up taking a dig hitting the championships. You know what I mean?

It's like four or five hours, four or five years to get 10, 15, even 20 minutes. And I say a half an hour is even a lot, you know what I mean? For an eight hour race, that's a lot. And, you know, end up being a championship. You know, taking 10 minutes off and that's that at the elite level. But what's really nice is that when you are starting, when you're getting people like, like you and I take on people that just starting or they're at the, they're somewhat new, they've got a couple of years under their belt, but they're not, they [00:56:00] haven't got to that elite level or not elite level, but the elite mindset, let's call it a mindset, you know, and they stumble into someone like you that.

Do they go from, okay, I'm going to go for fitness. I know I got to do chest on test on Tuesday backs and back arm back and tries on, on Wednesday, legs on Thursday, you know, blah, blah, blah. And they just do the same thing. And then they get to you and they're like, no, no, no heavier, heavier, heavier, or however your, your methodology works.

And you're like, no, you got to go. What are you doing more, more and more. And they get to that point where, what, what are you thinking? And they get to that, that level and all of a sudden it all regains again. And it starts to move up and that just drive that just drives them harder and harder and harder.

It's really an amazing feeling. I can imagine that what you feel like when, when you get those emails saying PR baby PR my squad or 

Tywin Kalandyk: I love what you said. You just said something that I never put it in these words, but I was like, Oh, I'm stealing that. You said a elite athlete. An elite mindset, and that really [00:57:00] breaks down what it is, because here's the deal.

Most people will never be an elite athlete. Everybody can have an elite mindset. Every single person. So my elite, John's elite, your elite, it's different. You're not, you're not comparing it. It's your, the version of you. That's all we're working on is becoming the elite version of you in all sectors of life.

But first it starts with your mind and in the body. And then it just tripled, it goes into everything in life. Cause how you do anything is how you do everything. 

Brad Minus: I agree. And I think it stems, what stems with, I need to be the best me. When we talk about and the biggest thing that I'll give to long time or even short time endurance athletes, somebody that's been around for about five, let's say someone's been done, been doing an endurance events for about five years, we're, we're trying to beat the, we're, we're just trying to do better than we did the last time.

You know, we do a five K. We just want to do better than we did our last [00:58:00] five K. Sometimes it happens a lot of times it doesn't, but there's a lesson. There's usually a lesson in it. You know what I mean? But that's it. It's always being the best you possibly be. I want to be the, I want to PR every time.

And we go for those PRs every single time. We don't sit there and go, Oh, I'm not going to PR this one. So I'm just going to like sit back on my heels. And if you do find yourself being a little bit slower that day, you're like, okay, on this event. It looks like I am not going to end up here, but I'm going to, now I'm going to the next event, I'm going to do that one.

You know, I'm going to hit it as hard as I possibly can. And when you go into training that, okay, you know, I'm going to hit my PRS or I'm going to hit my reps with that, with, with a certain weight that I've never done before. Last time I benched, you know, last time I benched 135, eight times today, I'm doing it 10 times.

You know what? You 

Tywin Kalandyk: said something, you said something really good there. And so the way I kind of run my program is I'm like, okay, I always tell people if you're going to play a game. Make up your own rules. So what I mean by [00:59:00] that is set yourself up for daily wins in multiple daily wins, because if you're playing the game, where the only time you win is to get, let's say a PR, well, you're not always going to PR, or you're not always going to beat your time.

That is a terrible game to play because you're, you're setting yourself up because you can't always do that. So what I mean when I say, okay, if you're going to play the game, let's play a game to win. So set your wins like know your wins. Well, what is a win? I got up on time. Okay, I made my workout right? I said my prayers before bed, whatever it is, you set up multiple wins.

So now you're in the habit of winning, right? So it becomes like losing is just not an option. You become a winner. It's no different than when you're around a top athlete. Like if you're around Michael Jordan, he doesn't even he didn't think about losing. It wasn't, it wasn't, it didn't even enter his head.

Mike Tyson, when he was the greatest boxer in the world was at that time. He didn't think about losing because once that seed is in [01:00:00] there, it's going to germinate and it's going to grow. So if you take in your average person who honestly. You're used to life runs through you and runs all over you and stomps you and just beats you down it beats you down So you're used to losing It's kind of like the example of you gave earlier the girl that was running with you and training with you and every day She was showing up and complaining, but she kept showing up and complaining it after she finished.

She was smiling Now, here's what that really was. That was a defense mechanism. She had probably been let down so many times in her life and felt that so many things she said, if I go every day and act like I don't like this, if for some reason I don't make it, well, I didn't like it in the first place.

That was her. That was a psychological defense mechanism by her brain. Because if she didn't really like it, she would have never showed up. So this is what people constantly are doing to themselves, right? I know you see it happens like you see it [01:01:00] time and time again. It's like these are defense mechanisms.

This is why you need somebody to pour into you. And elevate you and tell you something that you don't even believe you can do, right? You don't even think you're like, wow, he really seems to believe me like brad I'm, sure when you're pouring into people, they're probably like wow, this guy really believes he really thinks I can do this Yeah, of course and bam bam bam bam bam.

So a lot of times Clients you can buy in other people belief and sometimes that's what you have to do A lot of times this is what you have to do. You're buying someone else's belief that you're borrowing it It's like every time one of my clients come to me here borrow this belief they come back again here borrow this belief and every time they come when they bring they give it back to me.

But every time they give it back, they've taken a little piece of that belief and they've stoled it and put it in their pocket because it felt so good. And then I hit borrow this and then they steal it and a little more and I'm okay with them stealing in this case, and by the time you're done. [01:02:00] They've stole my whole belief that I've had in them.

Now they have that same belief. Now they no longer need me and depend on me. They have the belief system. They have the structure. They know exactly what to do. They still stick around because of the family and the community and all that. But they don't need me. 

Brad Minus: That's exactly right. And I love the way you said that first of all, does it have that library of beliefs that you could, that, that they can come in and borrow, right.

And give it back. And they take in just like, and you read a book, right? You take the book, you bring it back, but you've retained the knowledge. Same thing. And I think. That's an amazing frickin analogy and I'm stealing it. You don't have a choice. But but yeah, no, I understand. So here's my, here's a question for me to you is what is your stance on, let's call it, let's call it a tough love.

What is your stance on that? And do you, do you use it or is it is it something that you, yeah, let me just ask, let's ask the question. What do you think on what do you, how do you, [01:03:00] what's your stance on it? And how do you, how do you utilize it? 

Tywin Kalandyk: The answer is yes. However. It doesn't work on everybody and I don't use it on everybody.

Like I've seen some people and they're just always like, like that doesn't work on everybody. It will work on some people, but other people that will, they'll be gone, they'll be gone. So do I use it? Yes, it's easier to use on men. Men are much because we're much. Shame is probably one of the biggest motivators to get men moving.

So it works really good for men, women. It's a terrible thing to do. It'll you're, it's just terrible. So it just depends on the client. I would say that if it's not to their advantage, I'm not using it. I'm not going to just use it to use it. Like I've seen some coaches who just, it's like yelling and screaming and just.

Being alpha, like I don't need that. I'm confident in myself to not need to do that. So if it doesn't benefit the client, well, let me say it like this. I don't do anything that doesn't benefit my client, right? So some cases it [01:04:00] does with males. I found a lot of times it does, but not in all situations.

Brad Minus: And I, I, I agree. And it's also the strength of the mind of the, of the person that you're giving it to. Okay. Yeah. And I'll, I'll to give you a little quick anecdote, same coach John Nolan, like one of the best coaches around. And he, and he does the same thing I do. He's got a, he's got a roster of, of private clients and then he also coaches track and field and and high school cross country.

But there was the one day that he called me up and he's like, Brad, he goes, I don't know what's going on. I says, I see your, all your stats and all your training looks great, but you can, you're not executing. You're not executing. You're getting to the, to the, to the to the competitions. You're getting to the 70.

3s and the triathlons. And you're just, you're not executing what you're training. I says, and I don't know. I mean, I, I don't think that I'm the right coach for you. You know, basically it was just like, cause if you're, you're not executing, then I'm not doing my job and I don't want to be known as the coach that's not doing their job.

He says, I'm better than that. So I don't know what you're doing. Now that's not like him [01:05:00] saying, Oh, you better do it. Bow. Bow. What's wrong with you? Bow. Bow. Now it was tough love in a different way. And very, very next fricking the very next 70. 3 IPR by like 45 minutes. It was ridiculous. 

Tywin Kalandyk: Yeah. Because he, you didn't want to let him down.

Brad Minus: Yeah, like 

Tywin Kalandyk: you felt he, he like, we're like, I don't know if you intentionally use reverse psychology on you, but that's really what it was. It was like, all right, well, so now you're like, well, I don't, I don't want to let my coach down. Like it's not his fault. So it looks like boom. And that's what good coaches do.

Good coaches know what buttons they need to press because the buttons are different for different people. And then this is why I like really getting close to my clients and having this. It's this connection. I don't I don't do this like cookie cutter plan for everybody like I get very close because I need I need to push you have to push people's buttons, but pushing people's buttons looks different.

Just like the example you just gave. 

Brad Minus: Yeah, exactly. Exactly. So for me, it's like I every single time [01:06:00] that my clients are. I'm on a tracker and you've probably seen it. You know, you can get on the tracker and you can watch them and you're like watching them come across and you're hitting the things. And then I usually end up with, Hey, great job today.

You know, it didn't happen the way you wanted it to, but it looks like you had this split was right. And this split was good. Maybe we could have done something better here. How did you feel? And I started asking questions. The ones that are obviously I'm going crazy when they PR I'm nuts. And just like your dad was back then.

Yeah, I don't have kids. So these is the closest thing I've got to kids and when they're PR in, I am all smiles. I am like, and, and people will think I'm nuts because I'll be sitting in the fricking, you know somewhere in the store at Starbucks or something. And all of a sudden I'll be looking at the tracker and it'll pop up and I'll be like, yes.

And people look at me like, Oh, sorry. Yeah. And they, they absolutely think I'm nuts. But then there's the people that I'm like, okay, what happened? You know what I mean? And I don't know if they're expecting me to say, well, good job, blah, blah, blah. And I'm like, no, what happened? This is not the plan. What happened?

You know what I mean? [01:07:00] And then they'll come up with something we'll talk about. Okay. Well, this tells us what we need to work on. So I I totally, I totally agree with that. There's some people that you can't sit there and go, you can go. You didn't do what was, you didn't do what was planned. We had a plan.

Why didn't you, why didn't you execute? There's certain people I can talk to like that. I think one of 

Tywin Kalandyk: the things that I tell, no, I think one of the things I tell my clients up front Is because I like to be very well. I'm just I just tell the truth. I've just not always, but ever since I got saved, I'm like, I'm just always going to tell the truth.

And I tell people, look, I'm not nice. And they kind of like, I'm not nice. I'm kind, but I'm not nice because nice. I can tell you something. That's not truth. I can tell you something. That's a lie. That's being nice. Oh, your hair looks great. Meanwhile. No, it looks terrible. Oh, that dress looks good. Or, oh, you're not fat or whatever.

That's being nice. I'm kind. But I'm not nice. My job, not just as [01:08:00] a coach, but as a person, is, is to, is to push people to be their best. That's what a good friend does. A good friend doesn't lie. A good friend tells you the truth, even when it hurts. Even when it's something that they know you're not gonna like.

I tell people up front, I'm, I'm not nice. I'm kind. I'll always be kind. But it doesn't mean I'm nice. There's gonna be times where you're probably not gonna like me. I guarantee you're going to look back and be like, man, you were right. Thank you. Thank you for just telling me like it was, I've never had a, I've never had a client not say that.

Brad Minus: No, those juicy sweatpants don't make your butt look big. No, not at all. You know, you look skinny. I understand. Nobody should be wearing those juicy sweatpants. And it's a privilege, not a right. That's horrible. But anyway yeah, wow. So we've, we've covered a lot. There's been a lot of stuff going on here between, between elite beliefs, between some great coaching nuggets the way to talk to [01:09:00] people.

This has been amazing. So let me just reiterate So in the show notes, I'm going to make sure that we have your website, which 

Tywin Kalandyk: I think probably the best, the best place for people to find me is on Instagram. That's probably where I get the most value. So you can find me at just at Tywin Kellendyke.

And then I promise I'm going to start making more YouTube comments or, or. Or content, I should say. That's probably the best place to find me is Instagram. That's where you're going to probably get the most value. Next second. Best thing is, is YouTube. 

Brad Minus: Yeah. Tywin Kalandyk at Tywin Kalandyk and he's also got a Facebook page.

And it's a lot of it's duplicated, which is what you're supposed to do. So whichever is yours. Of choice. And you do have to take a look at this because he does, does some great stuff and you had to see his beautiful, beautiful family that he has. So you need to take a look at that. And you know what?

Your, your wife's arms look Jack too. My wife 

Tywin Kalandyk: is a savage. She, [01:10:00] oh, she's a savage. She's an absolute savage. 

Brad Minus: Well, the two of you probably are like that. I can't, I can't even imagine you two in the gym together. Like

that's awesome. Her mindset is 

Tywin Kalandyk: like exactly the same. Like she's super competitive. It's awesome. I love it. 

Brad Minus: And then, yeah. And then Tywin candle, like Callan Dyke, sorry. Yeah. Tywin candle, callandyke. com. And you need to go into, and then there's a, and I'll put it in there, but there's this. He's got a another one of your rumors where it is, but I'm gonna I'm gonna go to that one.

He's got a landing page. That's got his video on it. And you got to listen to this video. It's I mean, it's just him talking and it is so down to earth and real. And if it doesn't inspire you. He's not the right coach for you, but I'm telling you, I got chills just like watching it and I was like, I was like, wow, I'm like, I'm going to the gym.

And it was, it definitely. So you got to take a look at that. But, and then I'm actually going to [01:11:00] shoot 

Tywin Kalandyk: Brad. I'm going to shoot you over a link. I actually just got done recording a a training where I break down my whole system. I just give everything away for free. So anybody hearing this that, you know, maybe like, okay, maybe it sounds like something.

I literally broke it all down. All right. Okay. So I'll send you the link. So if any of your listeners want to break down on my system and how exactly from A to Z, how I get people from start to finish, I broke it all down. So you can have, 

Brad Minus: I love that. And thank you so much for that. And I'm going to put that link in the show notes as well.

And you know what? A lot of, a lot of you don't realize that I also do blog posts that always go along with this. And that's also on lifechangingchallengers. com. But here's the guy, right? He, guy comes from regular working, you know grew up, you know, started in foster care, got a great family, learned learned how to take everything at the edge from the beginning and continue to do that even through You went broke at a certain time, got embezzled and then kept going and kept going on his entrepreneurial journey to the point now where he's got, you know, [01:12:00] where he's got his elite coaching champions, elite coaching program.

And if you want to. You want to get buff and you want to like go beyond your own limits and find out, you know, what you can do with yourself, take a look at the website, take a look at the, at the, at the link that I'm going to show you. And there's also testimonials in there and you can see he's got before and after pictures and it is.

Redonkulous for lack of a better term, these, these before and after pictures. So you got to see what, what he did with these people. It's absolutely amazing. So Tywin, thank you so much for joining me today for the rest of you. If you have any watching this on YouTube, please go ahead and hit the like subscribe and hit that notification bell.

So you always know when a new episode is dropping. If you're on Apple or Spotify, please go ahead and, and leave a review, even if it's a bad one. You know, if you, if you've got something that's, that's constructive criticism, please let me know. Cause I can always make it better. I'm always looking to strive to make the podcast better and you can [01:13:00] help.

So with that, Tywin, thank you so much. And for the rest of you, we'll see you in the next one.